I Can Do It All On My Own

Here we are, end of December 2013. Did you have any goals at the beginning of the year? Did you have any desires? Did you have any plan to make them come true? Did you seek out any help to get you there?

I used to be someone who thought all I needed was me. I am a smart cookie and can work hard and I love being independent. That’s great. Those qualities got me so far. I also would still be back there in the quicksand of “I can do this all on my own” and not reaching my fullest potential if I had not reached out for help.

Help comes in many forms. Housecleaner. Bookkeeper. Husband who cooks. Hiring coaches. Each of those was a big deal for me. The “I can do this all on my own” gremlin is pretty vocal. He makes you feel bad for paying someone to clean your house or do your books. His voice says that I am lazy and if I just managed my time better, I could do it all. He is very good at twisting the truth.

The “I can do this all on my own” gremlin is actually what stops many people from achieving their goals and desires. He tells you that you don’t need anybody else and you are somewhat “less than” if you reach out for support. He is wrong. A million times wrong.

The smartest and strongest thing you can do is hire support. It shows that you really do believe in yourself.

Getting support helps you become MORE THAN you ever thought possible. The “I can do this all on my own” gremlin prefers you stay stuck in your muck instead of taking that act of bravery  to get help. Moving on down the path to one’s dreams can be a bit scary. We want it, yet we hold back.

Paying a coach was one of the scariest things I have ever done (driving in Paris was another, but that’s a story for another day). If not for paying for several coaches at this point, I would not be living this life I am living now. I would not have had the confidence nor the strategy to do all the things I am doing.

I used to think it weird that anyone would pay a life coach or a business coach or a book coach. Now I think it weird when people refuse to pay for one. Those are the folks who will stay stuck, making an occasional step forward and then spinning round in circles before another step happens.

When you give the gremlin the boot and say, “I am worth investing in myself,” that’s when you finally do achieve your goals and desires.

As you look ahead to 2014, what do you want? Do you want confidence? Do you want to grow your business? Do you want to write a book? There are people who can help you. With that help, you will know the joy that spurs you on to more goals and dreams. It’s an upward spiral, not a spinning in the muck.

I have been there. I know muck. And I know plucking oneself from the muck is when things change. I now continue to pay coaches to help me stay out of the mucksand and keep me moving forward on my path. Sometimes it’s still scary. My gremlin still is quite vocal. I give him a cookie to shut him up and I hire more support. I achieve goals. It feels amazing. And on we go.

If you need a cookie to shut up your gremlin, I’ve got plenty. You are smart and independent and wise enough to know that a little help gets you where you want to go. I have carved out a few time slots in my calendar for a complimentary private call with me to help you wrap up the new year and look to the new with excitement in your heart.

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Give the gremlin the heave-ho along with a hearty ho-ho-ho. Tis the season to gift yourself something more than a glass of eggnog and an ugly sweater. Give yourself the gift of getting support to make your 2014 the year you pursue your goals and desires.

Here’s to you! And driving in Paris! And ugly sweaters! Cheers!

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