Being like men

From the first mumblings of female liberation from 19th Century Western novels where - even though the protagonists were invariably obsessed with men - we started to hear the voice of the woman. Woman was finally represented as a real human being, with thoughts, ideas, feelings, intelligence and, most importantly, personal choice; even though the choice itself was only between Mr Darcy or Mr Bingley, a decision analysed most fiercely during a turn about the drawing room.


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Gone, nearly, are the days when, for a woman, hell itself was comparable to lacking a husband or, worse still, having fallen foul of some reproductive scandal. Western women most certainly needed men in order to survive, and in many other parts of the world nothing has changed; so why not be obsessed, indeed?

Freedom for women in the West has leapt forward since then, even though we are still foolishly obsessed with men. Nowadays, as we grow up we are told we can do anything we like, and our parents hope we will go out into the world and have a chance at being successful; this success not necessarily based on partnership with a man in any sense. We are expected to get qualifications and jobs in the same way that men do, and we do not question the opportunities we have, or even feel grateful for them. A cursory glance East or South, however, might quickly change our minds about that.

These days, our young daughters are obsessed with naive romancing, princes on white horses, pink castles, fairies, beautiful dresses, and the like, whilst our young sons are obsessed with killing. We never stop to ask ourselves which of these obsessions is more preferable, oddly enough.

More bizarrely still, even though the obvious is in plain sight, we have decided, en masse, that equality for women must mean "being the same as" men. We desire (fiercely sometimes) the freedom to kill and maim other humans in exactly the same way men do, as proof of our 'as good as them' state. For sure, equality for women implies being allowed to behave like men. But assuming the behaviour of men is the benchmark for our own newly-freed state is a descent into madness, and of course down to one thing only, the voice of destruction in our minds of which we're unaware.

Women, in general, whether they are aware of it or not, suffer very profound self-worth issues. This is without question, and is constantly witnessed by us all. Undoubtedly, this low self-valuation has been brought about by eons of existing as part of the personal possessions of a male, that 'object' with which he may do as he pleases. It's practically written into the DNA; for all of us, men and women. So, in our newly-freed state we simply don't notice that we are judging the goals of men as being 'better than' anything we could dream up ourselves, this hangover of 'not good enough' informing our lack of innovation.

Low self-esteem for the feminine explains why the spiritual/self-help field is dominated by women, because perceptually, for women, the only way is up. It also explains why we see very few men trying to free their minds in the same way, because the general assumption is that there's nothing wrong with the way men are, even in the midst of extreme evidence to the contrary.

All this madness is down to the liar's business in our minds. Please check out the book if you don't know what that the liar is.

So being like men is what women try to do. We try to succeed in worlds built and ruled by men, worlds in which women will never be welcome; not really a bad thing when examined rationally. We have assumed that all organisations, social structures, professional practices, ways of life and even religions are reasonable and good; worlds in which women must now enter, take part and succeed in, if they are to enjoy freedom. We have taken on the sexual behaviour of men, as if this too was part of the liberation deal. All this is a rather huge evolutionary step backwards for humanity, funnily enough.

Everything that has arisen from masculine thinking is deemed OK, reasonable, the Way Of It, unquestionable. No-one has taken the time to check whether this masculine world, as it is, is really worth making an effort over.

In fact, we are talking about the global cult of masculinity, that in which everyone believes without question. Masculinity defines itself by wholly fearful descriptive labels. I talk about this somewhere else, please have a look. It's of dire importance we start noticing this madness now. Even the labels defining masculinity that appear to be reasonable, tend to have some fearfulness in them; such as 'protection', for example,which always implies something we need to be protected from, confirming 'them and us' beliefs and so justifying war.

Women, on the other hand, have rather nice labels to define themselves by; it is simply the unquestioned and general belief that women are 'worse than' men that has persuaded everyone into believing that organic feminine labelling, such as nurturing, birthing, feeling and softness, implies weakness and should be derided, put down and destroyed.

So our little girls are just innocently projecting the fact that the feminine is a little more evolved than the masculine in its approach to life (assuming we are defining an evolutionary step forward as less murder and more peacefulness). The feminine ideal is loving and kind, and it wants relationships with other people that are not based on fucking.



Women have taken on the beliefs of men and consequently joined the denigrating of the rather good feminine labels and ideals. Liberated women hate pink, hate dolls, hate romance, etc...and would rather their daughters slept around and had guns maybe? We certainly have an issue here. Let's talk about this but notice that, in fact, the problem is really not women's.

It remains to be said that if women are able to function by re-defining themselves with violent and fearful masculine identifying labels, there is no reason that cannot work in the opposite direction. The masculine can easily define himself with the loving and caring labels reserved for the feminine, because in truth they are not limited to females, and instead belong to all. If the labels of Unity sit in the feminine camp, the liar can easily point to them and persuade us they are worthless goals, which it has done, very successfully.

Before a shift like the one I'm suggesting can happen, a massive perceptual change must take place, in which we start to discard anything previously thought worth achieving in our world that is defined by aggressive, violent, fearful, warring or separating labels. As we begin to understand what the liar is, this shift will happen automatically.

So, bizarrely for me, who used to fiercely hate pink, fairies and Jane Austen - believing that such preferences would ensure for me a far 'less than' state if I were to associate myself with them - the 'turns about the drawing room' are not such bad things at all, really.

Barbie still has to go though.


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