Twins and Triplets

Encouraging good dads to be GREAT DADS.

Most of us will not know what it is like to have twins and even less of us will experience triplets or more. The parental juggling act must be a challenge. As a dad of twins or triplets you are definitely a man in demand. My wife and I had 3 children under the age of three and a half, so I think our workload came close.

Many of us do have children that are close in age so this blog relates as we try to cater for all the needs in our family. Your twins are unique people that will grow up to lead very different lives (unless they both pursue the same career and share the same social lives). Your relationship with each of them will have distinctly different characteristics.

The sheer workload of having twins or triplets would need you and your partner to be octopus-like in your dealing with the many responsibilities of raising multiple babies.

You have double (triple) the fun and the blessing of having these precious little ones all at once.

My encouragement to you is to make sure you schedule one to one time so you can nurture your unique relationship with each of them and let your special bond be shaped by the activities, experiences and conversations you share.

It is cute to dress twins the same but clearly there comes a time when they want to be recognised for their uniqueness and begin to push back on the same clothing, hair styles etc. It makes sense to let them become their own person and develop their own identity.

I know of four dads with twins following this blog. I have recently met two dads with twins in my seminars and they have shared with me some of the challenges they face.

One told me that his 5-year-old daughters were in the same class and he wondered at what age would be recommended to separate them. My wisdom was to say you will know it is right when the time comes and you will be in agreement with your wife on this issue.

I welcome your thoughts dads with twins on this subject. What have you found to be most rewarding? What are some of the challenges you face?

GDGD news: I have the book cover and text all ready to go to the printers. Hopefully the book will be available in 2-3 weeks. Like the Good dads GREAT DADS Facebook page so you can be sure to hear the announcement. I am looking into also publishing an audio book for the visually impaired dads around the world.