Welcome to Skye Warren's Wet and Wild Blog Hop!

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I'm so excited you had the chance to slip on over and get soaked and crazy with me. Don't forget to leave a comment with your name and email address to enter to win a $25 gift card to Amazon or a free ebook copy of See Me! I'll draw two winners on May 26th. Now...in celebration of my new release on June 11th titled Gilded Lily I want to get down to the whips and crops of things, so to speak. Want to know how Lily rides the fine line between pleasure and pain? Well, strap on your...well, strap-on's, and learn from a submissive about the secret underground world of dark pleasure.

                              YES SIR: THE SECRET LIFE OF A SUBMISSIVE

The July afternoon before my eighteenth birthday wasn't blistering hot. I recall rolling over on the plaid, scratchy blanket and squinting as I studied the strikingly blue sky and counted the three snow cone looking clouds floating overhead. The hard edge of the small white book resting next to my temple was a reminder that I was no longer alone. It had been a lot to absorb that afternoon. Hell, a lot to contemplate for the rest of my life. O had given every last piece of herself to Sir Stephen. I knew I wanted to give every last piece of myself to someone. To a man. To a Dominant. 

My journey since that summer day has been filled with colorful experiences. Submissives wearing collars have suggested to me that I need a Daddy. Dominants have made promises to discipline me into submission. I politely smile and thank them for their insightful wisdom. But, you and I are going to have a real conversation. Now, let's sit down with a cup of coffee. Come sit at my kitchen table and let's strip the clubs away, toss the crops under the bed, and open the bedside drawer. Don't get nervous. We're only going to use the blindfold for this conversation. I know. I know. Dominance and submission is all about whipping and binding, sex and control. Right?

Let me tell you a secret...

There is a concept in medicine. If one of the five senses is incapacitated then the other senses go into over drive to compensate. The blindfold is a Dominant's most valuable tool in the sensual arsenal for his submissive. Take away vision and the other four senses come on line ten fold. Every whisper becomes a breathless command, the touch of a fingertip becomes a full body massage, the light scent of crisp body wash becomes a lustful aphrodisiac, and the sweet taste of honey coats every taste bud. It's sensory deprivation for unbridled pleasure. When I speak with other people in the lifestyle I find the whole task of "scenes" to be daunting. One crop, one blindfold. It's that simple. 

The snap of a supple crop to the lower back is an example of creating the fine line between pleasure and pain. The sear of the sting ebbs away to leave a wave of warmth in the mark created. If that same area is then licked or massaged during that heat it sends a wave of pleasure throughout the entire body. I always feel like I'm sinking into a hot bubble bath when the heat seeps through my muscles. When the sensation wanes and the coolness creeps back into my body I cry out for more. I want to feel that warmth again. The bond is created between a sub and her Dom with this cycle. She knows he is going to keep her safe enough to teeter her body on the edge to not harm, but keep the precious cycle of heat and cool going. The blindfold intensifies the sensations. See, a well-worn crop and blindfold is all that is needed to bring a sub into the darkness that comes with extreme pleasure. I respect that many people enjoy the use of nipple clamps, ropes, floggers, paddles, blades. There are many ways to bring both partners satisfaction, but I have found the simplest method is usually the most effective. Sometimes the concept of a "scene" is more for a circus show than for the emotional, intellectual, and spiritual bond that takes place between a Dom and his sub. Too many obstacles can mar the connection that needs to take place.

Submission does not equal sex. Dominance does not equal macho. As a sub my greatest desire is to know I'm pleasing my Dom. Whether it's by giving him my orgasm or resting beside his chair while he eats dinner, he is teaching me wisdom and patience. He knows what is best for my development as a vessel of desire and to be a better person in general. I rely on him for guidance when my life is out of control. His stern voice keeps me grounded and focused. That has nothing to do with sex. The fragile weave created between partners is delicate because it needs cultivated. The Dom has to get to know his sub. Again, it has nothing to do with sex. Once the Dom truly knows his sub, he'll be able to involve every aspect of her fears, excitement, joys, and pains to further her experience of pleasure in all areas of life.

I have attended multiple BDSM clubs over the years. I've met many wonderful people who love to wear leather and chains and some who prefer to go naked. Some are crawling on all fours next to their Master while others quietly sit next to their Protectors. The world of Dominance and submission is a very personal one. Trust is essential and the objective for both partners must be personal growth and joy. 

Sitting here now, I can still remember folding the cover closed on Story of O as I rested on that plaid blanket. I had found the book in an antique shop several days earlier and thought the cover looked interesting. The book opened my eyes. There were others out there having the same feelings. It was a life-changing afternoon. I'm smiling as I write this. I had called my boyfriend that evening and asked him if he would blindfold me. I couldn't tell who was more excited. Needless to say, he was a natural as well. That's how it happens. A sub unknowingly seeks her Dom and a Dom gravitates toward his sub.   

Behind the darkness of a blindfold I found trust and endless, intense desires. With the words of a loving Dom I found peace and control. As a submissive, I keep my secret desires close to my heart and cherish the pleasure I give as I kneel and rest my forehead on the hardwood floor.

I hope you enjoy your hopping this week. Stop back by at any time to leave a comment with your name and email address to enter to win! Remember to check the link below to continue getting wet on the hop and enter to win some great prizes! Have a great summer!!!

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