THE 2013 BANG!
2013 for me most definitely came with a BANG! No not because the Mayans were wrong with their predictions because I don’t think they predicted anything, rather people of this time were predicting what they would have predicted..This bang was a BANG in MY HEAD and MY HEART!
I lost my most dearest brother Richard to a sudden and unexpected death.I never thought I would see him be put to rest so soon.Never thought I would have to do it at this age!In plain, I honestly never thought about death!I never thought after putting my mum to rest 10 years ago and my dad 14 years ago, I would have to encounter another great loss this soon! Honestly, I never even thought any other death other than the death of my parents could grieve me so deeply until I was proven wrong last 17th of Dec! Bottom line - the death of someone you sincerely love but most of all who sincerely loved you will kill you - full stop! I learnt that. You feel it more when you know you have lost forever the person who loved you with all their heart and never failed to say and show you that.
Richard may have been away for so long but he remained close to me through his emails and messages on the mobile. When I opened a Facebook account, I remember I invited him to join, he was my 2nd FB Friend and that was the best thing back in 2008 as we got to see and experience his life there in Germany, Miami and France through the photos he posted.Finally in 2011, when I decided to buy the one best thing I ever bought for myself - my iPhone! (of course this wouldn’t have been possible if my dearest husband did not graciously fund it for me) and with the iPhone, I felt my brother was just a swipe away.. I didn’t feel the geographical distance between us anymore.. at heart, there wasn’t an issue, he was always close to mine, but this device and its apps which without a doubt was motivated by him to purchase, was the opened door for me to reach to him.
But before all the technology came to light, he was the brother I looked up since the time I could remember my memories. He is the eldest of us 4, and he was my saviour! I know how often I used to get into trouble with my mum for falling into the drain while my Acha was busy at work down at the company store. I used to get the whacking of my life, but if Richard was at home, he always saved my butt! When it came to tooth extractions, my dad was the self made dentist. Can you imagine them telling me that they were going to tie a thread around my teeth and the other end to the door knob and the tooth would fling out at the slamming of that door? Well they didn’t do that obviously but the first end of the thread did go around my tooth and Richard always hugged me and took me to the provision store to get me an ice cream. He, being the electrical electronics engineer, loved gadgets even back then.. and I got my first Monkey and Nuts Game and Watch from him when I was 8years old. Then all the watches he used to grace me with bought from all the countries he had visited from his sailing trips, that was fantastic. Even much earlier than that, I enjoyed his reading of the National Geographic Magazines and Reader’s Digest he invested in monthly, showing me the pictures of all the weird things around the world as he open both my eyes and mind to what was out there.. out of this Berkeley Garden where we lived then. He showed me how to make a radio, he thought me how to write the number 8 the right way, treated me to my first experience of Japanese Food in Bangsar Shopping Center when I was 15, gave us the experience of Laser Discs and video cameras, snapped all the wonderful memories into photographs for us to have as a family, and he always wiped away my tears and laughed the strongest laughs with me. The one thing I will always and strongly remember him for was his believe that NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE!!!!
I miss him terribly! I miss his stories, his jokes, his “Oi”s and his entire being!I really enjoyed all his Whatsapp messages which he would send so frequently and even more persistently while he is out on his field trips and ship building projects.. Photos of his visits around Germany and Europe and the historic significance which he proudly would elaborate in his messages were simply amazing..
Most of all, I will miss his wonderful and admirable nature of seeing the beauty in the most nitty gritty of things.. He admired beauty, beauty in people - children especially (and this is a trait both he and his wife Luz and his kids especially John and Kat all had), beauty in nature, and most of all in architecture.
I have never had anyone admire the specifics in my kids, the way he did. How he looked and admired every bit of their specialness was simply astounding.
He always believed that it was important to leave this world with a BANG!With an impact!With the believe that no one could have done it better than you. Alexander the great died with open hands to say he conquered the world, but he leaves with nothing. I see Richard in that same light.. only I don’t see him leaving with nothing, he left taking our hearts with him.
He was truly an amazing man.. tho a human with mistakes and faults but one that had much goodness to overrule the others. Isn’t that what makes a balance in one’s life? Even the moon has a dark side but like the moon he never failed to shine his light when it was expected of him.
I love him and will always love him.. and I am thankful for God for giving me the chance to experience a brother like him - a true blessing he certainly is. He will always be in my heart, and I will live with the will and strength he has showed me that was not impossible to have in one’s self.
Eternal rest grant unto him Oh Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him, may his soul rest in peace..AMEN!!!
I lost my most dearest brother Richard to a sudden and unexpected death.I never thought I would see him be put to rest so soon.Never thought I would have to do it at this age!In plain, I honestly never thought about death!I never thought after putting my mum to rest 10 years ago and my dad 14 years ago, I would have to encounter another great loss this soon! Honestly, I never even thought any other death other than the death of my parents could grieve me so deeply until I was proven wrong last 17th of Dec! Bottom line - the death of someone you sincerely love but most of all who sincerely loved you will kill you - full stop! I learnt that. You feel it more when you know you have lost forever the person who loved you with all their heart and never failed to say and show you that.
Richard may have been away for so long but he remained close to me through his emails and messages on the mobile. When I opened a Facebook account, I remember I invited him to join, he was my 2nd FB Friend and that was the best thing back in 2008 as we got to see and experience his life there in Germany, Miami and France through the photos he posted.Finally in 2011, when I decided to buy the one best thing I ever bought for myself - my iPhone! (of course this wouldn’t have been possible if my dearest husband did not graciously fund it for me) and with the iPhone, I felt my brother was just a swipe away.. I didn’t feel the geographical distance between us anymore.. at heart, there wasn’t an issue, he was always close to mine, but this device and its apps which without a doubt was motivated by him to purchase, was the opened door for me to reach to him.
But before all the technology came to light, he was the brother I looked up since the time I could remember my memories. He is the eldest of us 4, and he was my saviour! I know how often I used to get into trouble with my mum for falling into the drain while my Acha was busy at work down at the company store. I used to get the whacking of my life, but if Richard was at home, he always saved my butt! When it came to tooth extractions, my dad was the self made dentist. Can you imagine them telling me that they were going to tie a thread around my teeth and the other end to the door knob and the tooth would fling out at the slamming of that door? Well they didn’t do that obviously but the first end of the thread did go around my tooth and Richard always hugged me and took me to the provision store to get me an ice cream. He, being the electrical electronics engineer, loved gadgets even back then.. and I got my first Monkey and Nuts Game and Watch from him when I was 8years old. Then all the watches he used to grace me with bought from all the countries he had visited from his sailing trips, that was fantastic. Even much earlier than that, I enjoyed his reading of the National Geographic Magazines and Reader’s Digest he invested in monthly, showing me the pictures of all the weird things around the world as he open both my eyes and mind to what was out there.. out of this Berkeley Garden where we lived then. He showed me how to make a radio, he thought me how to write the number 8 the right way, treated me to my first experience of Japanese Food in Bangsar Shopping Center when I was 15, gave us the experience of Laser Discs and video cameras, snapped all the wonderful memories into photographs for us to have as a family, and he always wiped away my tears and laughed the strongest laughs with me. The one thing I will always and strongly remember him for was his believe that NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE!!!!
I miss him terribly! I miss his stories, his jokes, his “Oi”s and his entire being!I really enjoyed all his Whatsapp messages which he would send so frequently and even more persistently while he is out on his field trips and ship building projects.. Photos of his visits around Germany and Europe and the historic significance which he proudly would elaborate in his messages were simply amazing..
Most of all, I will miss his wonderful and admirable nature of seeing the beauty in the most nitty gritty of things.. He admired beauty, beauty in people - children especially (and this is a trait both he and his wife Luz and his kids especially John and Kat all had), beauty in nature, and most of all in architecture.
I have never had anyone admire the specifics in my kids, the way he did. How he looked and admired every bit of their specialness was simply astounding.
He always believed that it was important to leave this world with a BANG!With an impact!With the believe that no one could have done it better than you. Alexander the great died with open hands to say he conquered the world, but he leaves with nothing. I see Richard in that same light.. only I don’t see him leaving with nothing, he left taking our hearts with him.
He was truly an amazing man.. tho a human with mistakes and faults but one that had much goodness to overrule the others. Isn’t that what makes a balance in one’s life? Even the moon has a dark side but like the moon he never failed to shine his light when it was expected of him.
I love him and will always love him.. and I am thankful for God for giving me the chance to experience a brother like him - a true blessing he certainly is. He will always be in my heart, and I will live with the will and strength he has showed me that was not impossible to have in one’s self.
Eternal rest grant unto him Oh Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him, may his soul rest in peace..AMEN!!!
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