"There are the occasions that men—intellectual men, clever men, engaged men—insist on playing devil’s..."

“There are the occasions that men—intellectual men, clever men, engaged men—insist on playing devil’s advocate, desirous of a debate on some aspect of feminist theory or reproductive rights or some other subject generally filed under the heading: Women’s Issues. These intellectual, clever, engaged men want to endlessly probe my argument for weaknesses, want to wrestle over details, want to argue just for fun—and they wonder, these intellectual, clever, engaged men, why my voice keeps raising and why my face is flushed and why, after an hour of fighting my corner, hot tears burn the corners of my eyes. Why do you have to take this stuff so personally? ask the intellectual, clever, and engaged men, who have never considered that the content of the abstract exercise that’s so much fun for them is the stuff of my life.”

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Melissa McEwan, of course, on the terrible bargain. My life as a woman, as a queer person, as a fat person, is not your thought experiment.  (via sanitywatchers)

Fucking this. This. This. This. “Why are you yelling?” BECAUSE IT’S MY LIFE. AND YOUR WAY OF THINKING MAKES ME WONDER IF YOU EVEN SEE ME AS HUMAN.

(via itscandidlycara)

oh GOD i have several friends who do this to me, (not to mention an ex) and it is SO FUCKING FRUSTRATING THAT IS WHY I AM CHAINSMOKING AND CRYING WHILE WE ARGUE

(via methodistcoloringbook)

OH GOD THIS QUOTE IS LIKE ONE OF MY FAVES.

And really this is my issue with dudes who like to “debate” when women are discussing our most raw and hurtful experiences and how we view and interact with the world as a result.

This is why I just immediately blow up most of the time when a dude reblogs a discussion or post I have on my blog about these issues and starts with, “While I see your point…” or “Ok granted, but…”

NO. I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING. FUCK YOU. STOP IT.

(via face-down-asgard-up)

YES! Yes. Yes. Yes. All of it. I love the men in my life. I do not love random men on the interwebs. I do not want EITHER ONE telling me that my actual experiences as an actual woman are somehow wrong. Guys, your penis does not, in fact, give you magic knowledge of all things. When a woman says that her experience has been a particular way, do not contradict her. Do not tell her how she is confused because of her vagina. STFU and believe EVERY FUCKING WORD SHE SAYS because trust me, buddy, it’s the truth.