"Tolerance is . . ." by Lucy Barnes. Thursday, July 5, 2035.

by SCARECROWS: A DANDY World on Monday, August 13, 2012 at 11:29pm ·.


Frederick left me a gift tonight. I found it in front of my door when I got home. When I first met him at TDD last week, I was afraid of him. He scared me. Not because of what he said to me, or about me. And not because of how he felt about me -- he said he hated me because of what I am, but not for who I am. He didn't know who I was, because he didn't want to know me. He wanted to hate me. He needed to hate me . . . to take away the pain.

I knew I shouldn't be afraid of him. But I was afraid of what he was going to do to me. Not because he hated me, but because he's paid to do those things to me. But it's the law, and there's no escaping the law. But he didn't scare me anymore -- after I knew his pain, what was behind his pain. It could've ended badly, but it didn't, and the gift he left me tonight is proof of it. He just had to see me for who I am, whoever that may be. When he could finally look past what I am, he saw me. He stared directly into my soul and discovered me for the first time. And then he wasn't afraid of me any longer, just as I was no longer afraid of him. He embraced me, surprising even himself. He's a lovely boy, once you get to know him, and I'm pleased it ended well.

Winston, I want you to write down my poem now. It's a poem about my experience with Frederick.

Tolerance is accepting someone for who they are, not what they are.
Tolerance is accepting that you may never agree on some things.

Tolerance is allowing discourse to work out your differences.
Tolerance is allowing someone to speak their mind, freely.

Tolerance is not a force to bend free will.
Tolerance is not a vacuum to silence a free voice.

Tolerance is never accusatory.
Tolerance is never the extreme.

Tolerance is a two-way street, where neither side collides.
Tolerance is a six-sided die, that falls where it lands.

Tolerance is seeing into each other's eyes, and listening through each other's ears.
Tolerance is seeing opinion for what it is, and having your own.

Tolerance is always a disagreement, but never an argument.
Tolerance is always a state of mind over matter, never a matter of states over minds.

Tolerance is sometimes difficult to maintain, but maintainable.
Tolerance is sometimes easy, when both sides agree to disagree.

Tolerance is everyone's wish, not just yours.
Tolerance is everyone's responsibility, not just theirs.

Tolerance is easy to say, but hard to do.
Tolerance is easy to do, but only if you want to.

This is Lucy Barnes, signing off. Until next time.
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message 1: by Sara (new)

Sara But nobody wants to be tolerated. It has such an ugly ring to it. Acceptance seems more diplomatic, don't you think?

message 2: by Jonathan (new)

Jonathan Emrys http://www.museumoftolerance.com/site...

"MOT stands for Museum of Tolerance, the only museum of its kind in the world. It is the educational arm of the Simon Wiesenthal Center, an internationally renowned human rights organization dedicated to promoting respect and mutual understanding, through education, community partnerships, and civic engagement."

message 3: by Sara (new)

Sara Touche.

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