Positivity

I’m reading Bombshell by Suzanne Somers, and it’s giving me a lot to think of it. She interviews doctors in this book. I’m almost at the end and just read one piece of advice that doesn’t cost a penny: Get rid of the negative people in your life.

I can absolutely say that my writer friends are all positive. Every. Single. One. I’m not talking about sharing occasional doubts or concerns. Because who doesn’t have them? To smile and pretend that the sun is out when hail is pounding on your roof isn’t going to fool you or anyone else. Bad things happen, and when it does, we bitch – like an email I sent to a friend yesterday about a technical problem I was having with an etailer. My subject line read: I hate [etailer name].

But after that initial whine, we sent back and forth a flurry of emails about a non-writing subject we’re both passionate about. I ended up feeling great. And because of our emails, I made positive decisions.

What brought this post on is that another writer friend – a cancer warrior – needed a hip replacement due to radiation from an earlier treatment. She’s young for a hip replacement, but instead of whining, she was looking forward to getting it done so she wouldn’t be in pain anymore. The operation was just yesterday afternoon. Last night, I saw she’d commented on a mutual friend’s Facebook post. I heard from her sister this morning, who said that last night my friend was playing Words with Friends.

Just love it! It’s true that we can’t choose our family but we can choose our friends. And you know what? My friends are absolutely fabulous!

What about you? Do your friends tend to be positive or negative?