Understanding the OCD Cycle

For those of us living with OCD, it often feels like we’re trapped in a cycle—constantly fighting our intrusive thoughts and feelings, yet getting pulled back in time and time again. The cycle is predictable and relentless. But the good news is that by understanding this cycle and implementing key strategies, we can start to break free and reclaim control over our lives.

The OCD Cycle Explained

At the core of OCD is a cycle that keeps us stuck in a loop of fear, anxiety, and compulsions. Let’s break it down step-by-step, so we can see how it all works and, more importantly, how we can start to disrupt the cycle.

Intrusive Thoughts, Images, Urges, and Sensations The cycle begins with an intrusive thought, which could be an image, urge, or sensation that feels unsettling. These thoughts often appear out of nowhere and can be terrifying, confusing, or confusingly realistic. For example, you might have an intrusive thought that you’ve said or done something that you’ll regret, or that you’re somehow in danger. OCD thrives on the unpredictability and intensity of these thoughts.Attaching Meaning Once the intrusive thought enters our minds, we tend to attach meaning to it. Typically, we assign negative meaning and over importance, telling ourselves the thought must be significant or dangerous. We start thinking, “What if this thought is true? Does this mean something about me?” This attachment fuels the anxiety and sends us into a spiral, as we desperately try to figure out what the thought “means.”Anxiety (Feelings) The next step is the emotional response: anxiety. As soon as we attach meaning to the intrusive thought, our minds are flooded with fear, guilt, shame, grief, frustration or anger. We experience physical symptoms like racing heartbeats, sweat, tightness in our chest, or even panic. The emotional distress we feel makes us want to immediately get rid of the thoughts and feelings, increasing our urgency to do something to stop them.Desire to Remove As the anxiety (or other feelings) grows, we feel an overwhelming desire to remove or eliminate the discomfort. We want to push the thoughts and feelings away or rid ourselves of the anxiety. This is where OCD plays a trick: it convinces us that in order to find relief, we must find a way to make the thoughts go away. This can lead to compulsive behaviors, like checking, reassurance-seeking, or mental rituals.Compulsion In the compulsion phase, we take action to reduce the anxiety. We engage in physical actions (like reassurance seeking, checking, or cleaning) or mental acts (like praying, repeating phrases, or rumination). The compulsion gives temporary relief, but it’s fleeting. The cycle is not broken, and the thoughts return, often stronger than before. This sets us up for the next round of the cycle.Confirmation of Threat After performing the compulsion, we might feel temporarily calm, but it doesn’t last. OCD often makes us believe that the danger or threat hasn’t been properly dealt with. So, we go searching for reassurance or engage in another compulsion, which reinforces the belief that we need to keep doing more compulsions to feel safe. OCD convinces us that the threat is real, and this constant cycle of compulsions locks us into the loop.1. The Four Techniques to Step Out of the OCD Cycle

Now that we understand the cycle, the good news is that we can use specific techniques to break free. In our OCD Coaching Program, we teach four unique techniques that help us step out of the cycle and regain control over our lives. Here’s how we can implement them:

Expect & Accept The first technique is about expecting and accepting that intrusive thoughts will occur. They’re a normal part of the experience of living with OCD. Instead of resisting or trying to control the thoughts, we learn to accept their presence without attaching any meaning to them. By doing this, we stop feeding the cycle and begin to reduce their power over us.

2. The 4 Core Responses to Break the OCD Cycle

To break free from the cycle, we need to apply new ways of responding to the intrusive thoughts that no longer give meaning to them and reinforce the OCD cycle. This involves practicing four core responses:

Accepting Statements
Acceptance involves recognizing that the thoughts and feelings are here, but choosing not to react to them. By accepting the presence of the thoughts without judgment, we avoid amplifying the anxiety. For example, you might say, “Okay, I’m having this thought right now, and that’s okay.” You’re not trying to make it go away, you’re simply acknowledging it.Uncertain Statements
OCD thrives on our need for certainty. One of the best ways to break the cycle is by embracing uncertainty. Instead of searching for a definite answer, we allow ourselves to be unsure. For example, “Maybe this thought is meaningful, maybe not.” By doing this, we’re letting go of the need to resolve the thought, thus reducing its power.Indifference
Indifference is one of the most powerful responses we can have toward OCD. When we respond with indifference, we stop reacting emotionally to the thought. You can practice this by literally shrugging it off—“Meh, that’s just a thought”—and moving on with your day. The less emotional weight we give the thought, the less power it has.Agreement
The most surprising response might be agreeing with the thought. This is about disarming OCD by accepting it for what it is. For example, “Sure, maybe I am a bad person for having that thought,” but you don’t engage with it or dwell on it. By agreeing sarcastically or nonchalantly, you take away the urgency that OCD creates.3. The Letting Go Technique: Allowing Feelings to Be There

One of the most overlooked aspects of OCD recovery is allowing feelings—not just thoughts—to bubble up and be with us. When we try to suppress or eliminate these feelings, they only become more intense and persistent. The Letting Go technique teaches us how to experience these emotions without trying to get rid of them.

When we let ourselves feel anxiety, guilt, anger or any other uncomfortable emotion without judgment or resistance, these feelings naturally pass. We don’t need to try to force them away. It’s about giving them space to exist without letting them dictate our actions or reinforce our compulsions.

This technique is a crucial part of our OCD Coaching Program, which is why we’ve seen so much success with our clients. By learning to let go of the need to control emotions, we can stop fueling the OCD cycle and start living with greater peace and calm.

4. Exposure & Response Prevention (ERP)

The final step in breaking free from OCD is Exposure & Response Prevention (ERP). This technique involves exposing ourselves to the feared thought or situation and then preventing ourselves from performing the compulsion. For example, if we have a fear of contamination, we might touch something “dirty” and resist the urge to wash our hands.

ERP helps retrain our brains and teaches us that we can handle the discomfort without needing to do anything to reduce it. The more we practice, the less power OCD has over us.

5. Breaking the Cycle and Regaining Control

The OCD cycle can feel overwhelming, but we have the power to break free. By implementing these techniques, we can start to create space between ourselves and the thoughts, reducing their intensity and frequency over time. It takes practice and consistency, but with the right tools and support, we can stop reacting to the cycle and take back control of our lives.

If you’re struggling with OCD and want to break free from the cycle, our hands-on coaching program is here to support you. We work with you every step of the way, guiding you through the process of ERP, teaching you the Letting Go technique, and helping you apply the 4 Core Responses to reclaim your life from OCD.

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