672 Helpful or Codependent? The Patterns in Your Relationships to Watch For

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“When we are codependent, we’re acting out our discomfort with someone else’s negative emotion by taking it on. We try to fix it ourselves, even though it is not our side of the street.” – Terri Cole

 

Intro

Is the way you care for people in your life more like codependency than real, authentic love? It’s scary to think about, I know. But if you are codependent, recognizing that fact is the first step toward expressing the healthy, reciprocated care you really want to share with the people in your life.

In this episode I will guide you through the signs and symptoms that might indicate codependency in all different types of relationships: romantic, work, parent-child, and friendship. I also share what it looks like to be in recovery from codependency, so you know what to look forward to if you do think you might be codependent and you want that to change.

Highlights:02:30 Codependency is an unhealthy investment in the decisions, feelings, and circumstances of the people in your life to the detriment of your own wellbeing.03:30 How much urgency do you feel to fix other people’s problems?04:50 Do you relate to people as projects?07:10 What do you feel when someone in your life is in a tough situation?08:55 Misconceptions and the importance of recognizing high-functioning codependency11:25 Codependency in romantic relationships: Can you find satisfaction in your own life?12:00 Do you recognize your relationship is unhealthy but stay anyway?12:20 Do you prioritize your partner at the expense of your own wellbeing?13:10 Are you always aware of your partner’s mood and what they’re doing?14:10 Codependency at work: Gossiping about people who aren’t there14:35 Do you do work that isn’t yours and then feel resentful because of it?14:50 Codependency with your child: Do you do more for your child than is age appropriate and healthy?16:10 Are you too afraid of your child’s rejection to discipline them effectively?17:10 Codependency in friendships: Is there an imbalance between giving and taking?18:25 Signs of recovery from codependencyLinks Mentioned:

Find the downloadable guide I made to guide you through the symptoms of codependency here.

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