The Importance of Reputation: Balancing Authenticity and Perception
By Dan First
Proverbs 3:3-4NIV
Let love and faithfulness never leave you
Bind them around your neck, write them on the tablets of your heart
Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.
All of us are known for something… Our behavior is usually the cause of our reputation. It would be a pretty great thing for people to think of us as loving and faithful. This verse makes me think of the multitude of times I have read on social media some form of “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me.”
First of all, that’s not true. Every sane person cares at least a little bit about what broader society thinks of them, and they care even more what their circle thinks. Even people who wish to consider themselves really unique will only stray so far from the accepted norms of their chosen community. The larger majority will take precautions to stay safely within the boundaries of what they know their primary peer group will approve of because they care what those people think.
Oftentimes the people who claim to be living as their “most authentic self” are the most predictable. They faithfully copy the dress code, ideology, and catchphrases of the groups they want to feel a part of. You know what they will think and say before their lips ever move.
BUT, if you are a person who claims to not care what anyone thinks of you… why is that? A bad reputation can only hold you back in multiple dimensions of your life. Your reputation is going to affect the way people see your family members, your spouse, and your children. Your reputation could affect the way people view the organizations you are a part of and care about. Having a good reputation before God ought to be our primary goal, but we should also care what the people around us observe about us. There’s likely to be a lot of truth about our reputation—for better or for worse.
There’s an old Yiddish saying I’ve heard: “If your friend calls you a donkey, ignore him. If five friends call you a donkey, buy a saddle.
About Dan:
Daniel First has been an entrepreneur, song writer, worship leader, recording artist, speaker, and pastor. He has spent thirty years studying and teaching the Bible. He and his wife, Brandy, have been married for 28 years and have 7 children.
Dan’s book “Wisdom Cries Out” talks to us about the meaning of abundant life in God and the scriptures. You can obtain Dan’s book on Amazon , Prairie Lights Blooks and Barnes and Nobles.
