It is always who you are & never about the other person!

This is very hard to get and as more time passes, the more you understand this truth.

If you donate money, do you think of the person using it in a right way or waste it in unnecessary acts or trivias. Does his happiness matter or strictly his/her wellness pops up in your mind. And stop yourself from donating money and feel resentful later.

I stopped myself so many times from donating just by the thought that they will waste it on their alcohol indulgence. So, in my mind donating is equal to spoiling his life knowingly. But lately I am least bothered about what people will do with the donated money instead the ease with which you give the money makes the begger happy. That happy face in turn makes me happy. And what he does with it becomes the last thing to think about.

So, here you donate because of who you are and not because of who the person at the other end is.

If you feel guil and still somehow feel you are spoiling his life, remember it is his life and he has the free will to choose. You don’t have to uplift everybody. In fact you cannot uplift everybody. The people who need your help will automatically be helped by you! Never think you are doing an underservice. These just said lines are simple but I understood it after a long time later. And still learning the depths it contains!

Respect for all

I always thought that we should respect someone based on their acts and maybe their accomplishments. Ironically, the truth is everyone deserves respect and empathy. The y may have done horrible things in their life but ultimately it is you and not about them, first thing. Second, just accept them as they are. Life presents us with unexpected, unwelcomed experiences and sometimes we make wrong choices too. But accepting others flaws and past will unknowingly help you accept your own flaws and histories. It is a liberating healing process!

Thanks so much! Lots of love