Seven Cheap Dates

Since marriage is less of an economic necessity or survival issue in our modern society, we have been given the freedom and responsibility to be our own matchmakers. Traditionally men paid to demonstrate their ability as a provider, and while I still think it's good to demonstrate responsibility and the other person's importance to you with your spending, we have less need to be tied to tradition.  This isn't a case of spending more but spending well. Over spending on dates sets up unrealistic expectations, which is not fair for either party.

Here are some thrifty but still potentially romantic date ideas (for varying stages of dating):

1. The Walk - This is a classic. Healthy, free, leaves much opportunity for talking, hand holding, etc. Appropriate shoes needed. Take some time to consider where you'll be walking; planning a loop helps so you're not retracing the exact same territory.

2. Let's Get Coffee - Even if the coffee is overpriced, this is still a cheaper option than the full meal. The relaxed atmosphere in most cafes can help ease those first date jitters. Most coffee shops offer tea or chocolate for non-coffee drinkers. Ice Cream may be a good alternative for warm weather.

3. Grocery Shopping - Not recommended for first dates, but great for growing relationships. You can learn a lot about someone from how they shop, see where your tastes coincide and differ, discover allergies and attitudes about health.

4. Community Events - Check your local government website and see what free and low costs events are being offered to the public. Pick out the ones that sound interesting to you, and then ask your sweetie which they'd most like. (Obviously options will vary by area, churches and community groups may be more likely to host community events than the government in smaller towns.)

5. Dinner and a Movie (at my place) - For first dates, I recommend a public, well lit place unless this is a friend you already know and trust. However as the relationship grows this is a great way to show off your cooking skill (or learn some), and talking or cuddling during a DVD won't get you kicked out of the theatre. Picnics in public parks are a great variation on this for good weather days.

6. Cooking Together - This is a variation on the last idea. Cooking "with" rather than "for" someone gives you a chance to see how well you work together. Are you able to compromise on spices? Can you agree on a dish?

7. Play a Game - Checkers, chess, backgammon, Scrabble, Othello, etc. Games are a fairly low tech option. You can dust off something lost in your closet. Many classic games like checkers or card decks can be picked up at the dollar stores or yardsales. I've seen multi-game sets at all price levels. This can be a light, fun date idea, but playing chess by candle light can be pretty romantic. Either way, it's a great way to see how the other person handles competition. Are they a graceful loser? Graceful winner? If they feel compelled to cheat at Parcheesi, this might be a red flag.

What's your favorite Cheap Date idea?