I Want out!
Right after the events in Lost Edens I met a handsome, charming, gorgeous (not the same as handsome, two different descriptions here) who immediately became a good friend. I remember him telling me that (at 24-years-old) he couldn't believe he wasn't married with kids yet.
This kind of threw me. I didn't get it. He was 24. He explained that he just always thought he'd be married right out of school with kids and who wouldn't want kids. I think I spent the next year asking most single 20-something guys I knew if they couldn't believe they weren't married yet. (Don't worry, I tried to do it with a little tact.)
Then a friend of mine in London said he really didn't think he wanted kids at all. Why not? Because they change your life so much. Point well taken. And one, subsequently, that I think my 24-years-old and wants to be married has now adpoted. He's 30 now and still no wife and kids (but he's still handsome/charming/gorgeous).
I've always known that I fall somewhere in between the two. A lot of book clubs ask me when we're talking about Lost Edens if I'd like to get married again, have kids, and I do a lot of "ummm...well....you know...." because I'm mostly unsure. The best I can say is maybe someday.
Today is not my day. I spent most of the day with my sister and her two girls and by 3:00 in the afternoon I needed out. Silence. Quiet. No more negotiating with a wicked smart 2-year-old. As I walked around her kitchen with my 4-month-old niece in my arms I really needed out and told the refrigerator as much. And, apparently my sister, who was coming down the stairs. "Me too," she said, "story of my life."
But lucky, lucky me. I actually got to hand the kid over and go. I think my calling could be to be an aunt. That could be my in between. So next time a book club asks me if I want to get married and have kids my answer just might be: "no need to. My sister did!"
This kind of threw me. I didn't get it. He was 24. He explained that he just always thought he'd be married right out of school with kids and who wouldn't want kids. I think I spent the next year asking most single 20-something guys I knew if they couldn't believe they weren't married yet. (Don't worry, I tried to do it with a little tact.)
Then a friend of mine in London said he really didn't think he wanted kids at all. Why not? Because they change your life so much. Point well taken. And one, subsequently, that I think my 24-years-old and wants to be married has now adpoted. He's 30 now and still no wife and kids (but he's still handsome/charming/gorgeous).
I've always known that I fall somewhere in between the two. A lot of book clubs ask me when we're talking about Lost Edens if I'd like to get married again, have kids, and I do a lot of "ummm...well....you know...." because I'm mostly unsure. The best I can say is maybe someday.
Today is not my day. I spent most of the day with my sister and her two girls and by 3:00 in the afternoon I needed out. Silence. Quiet. No more negotiating with a wicked smart 2-year-old. As I walked around her kitchen with my 4-month-old niece in my arms I really needed out and told the refrigerator as much. And, apparently my sister, who was coming down the stairs. "Me too," she said, "story of my life."
But lucky, lucky me. I actually got to hand the kid over and go. I think my calling could be to be an aunt. That could be my in between. So next time a book club asks me if I want to get married and have kids my answer just might be: "no need to. My sister did!"
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