Getting 'Consent' For Sex Is Too Low A Bar

Such an important article from Lisa Damour, Ph.D.! I cannot state loudly enough how important I think it is to flip the conversation and think about it through the lens of our boys. Consent is gender neutral. And affirmative consent - the idea that every single physical move is mutually acceptable and agreed upon - sets a nearly impossible standard with complicated ramifications. Lisa, I love your last line in this article: "We owe it to our adolescents to remind them that healthy intimate relationships are about a lot more than securing agreement in bed."

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When adults talk to young people about sex, the standard speech includes the warning that they must obtain consent before stepping up intimacy to the next level. Here’s the problem: guidance that centers on the term “consent” suggests that a legal standard for permissible sexual interactions is also a decent or desirable one.Which it isn’t. READ MORE