A Slob and a Deliberately Unhelpful Daughter for 09/16/2017

Dear Family Coach: My teen son is a slob, and it drives me insane. The other day I decided to help him clean up. It took us four hours, but everything had a place and the room was spotless. Not a day later, it was back to a disaster area. I was hurt and felt that he was disrespectful to me by not trying to keep his room clean. Am I wrong? — Tidy Mom

Dear Tidy: Yep, you are wrong. Your son didn't mess up his room to spite you. He's just a slob. It's what comes naturally to him. He likely doesn't even see his room as messy. You see a disorganized mess. I assure you sees it differently.

Updated: Sat Sep 16, 2017