The Pitfalls Of Comparing And Evaluating Human Connection

1- Sometimes you like certain people and not others.

2- Sometimes people who you like have friends who like them- but those friends don’t like or see your value.

3- Sometimes people who like you are uncomfortable with you in particular scenarios and don’t know how to address it. This creates a story in your head that you are not loved or respected or valued because you think your need for total access should carry the day. This begins to erode any connection.

4- Every relationship is different. Telling each other the truth about what we experience in a responsible manner can create a deeper connection than was ever possible before.

5- Regarding point #2- people who often don’t see value in others actually see very little value in themselves. Disdain, dismissal and rudeness often is covering up deep wounds. Not your job to go there.

6- Trying to force connection guarantees its failure. Invalidating others with ever expanding evidence actually keeps you rooted in the deep dark hole of comparison.

So, why did I write this?

Because it suddenly hit me this week that all relationships are different and all connections are different- and while it all feels very personal, it’s actually not.

It’s just chemistry, connection and vibe. There’s tremendous freedom available- if one is willing…

#letitgo #breathe #letitgo

@CoachMeDave