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Husband Says He Loves Me But Treats Me Poorly

Dear Neil: I am a married, working mother with 2 young children. My husband and I constantly argue, usually because he spends very little time with me. His work and study take about 80 hours a week, and he has […]

Growing a Backbone

Dear Neil: 2 years ago, one of my friends introduced me to his daughter, and she and I got close very fast. She moved to my town, and wants me to take on a father role to her 5 year […]

Readers Respond to Recent Relationship Advice

Dear Neil: You recently reprinted a letter from a woman who was wondering why she and her husband were no longer having sex. Of all the reasons you offered about why couples quit having sex, you ignored the issue of […]

Can I Develop Love When I Don’t Feel It?

Dear Neil: I am in dire need of your help. I am married to a wonderful man for 5 years who loves me, but I have always struggled with feeling love for him. Mentally I have compared him negatively with […]

What Should I Do About A Problem Sibling?

Dear Neil: I cut my alcoholic sister off because of her drinking and abusive behavior. She had been arrested several times, and it’s painful to keep watching someone make the same mistakes over and over again. Recently, she texted me […]

Readers Talk About What They have Learned From Life

A couple of months ago, I invited readers of this column to write about lessons life has taught them. So today I’m going to let readers describe for themselves what they have learned from life and from their relationships. A […]

It’s My Party and I’ll Cry if I Want To

Dear Neil: My boyfriend/life partner (whom I’ve lived with for 6 years) has had it with my “inappropriate tears.” I tend to cry easily, but my partner thinks that this needs to be fixed. If he doesn’t see a valid […]

Self-Care: The Art of Nurturing Your Body, Mind and Spirit

Perhaps it starts with you losing your sense of engagement with your work, your children or your vital relationships. Perhaps it is because you have too many distractions–increasingly electronic postings, emails, texts or phone calls. Perhaps it is because you […]

Readers Talk About Lessons Life Has Taught Them

A month ago, I invited readers to write about the lessons life has taught them. Of the many email replies I received—lots of which were from people in their 60’s, 70’s, 80’s and 90’s—I will reprint as many as I […]

Rebuilding Trust After an Affair

Dear Neil: Could you address how to rebuild trust after an affair? Reader From New Zealand Dear New Zealand: What we actually mean when we say “I need to be able to trust you again” is really “I need to […]