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January 12, 2016

2016 #amwriting New Year Resolutions

Okay, so I'm a little behind on this. But I still think it's great to list out your intentions from time to time, in a place that encourages accountability. So! Here are my writing resolutions for 2016:

1) Maintain my 2000-4000 words per day pace.
2) Publish Jesse's 5th Novel Worth Dying For on time (May 2)
3) Publish Jesse's 6th Novel Dying Breath on time (November 7)
4) Start web serial comic and have 20 comics uploaded by the end of the year
5) Blog 2016 Power Project



I think that's enough to keep me busy! But what about you? What are your writing goals this year?
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Published on January 12, 2016 02:58

January 11, 2016

#Mondayblogs: Stop Complaining #TheBestMe

"It's so cold outside!"
"This food is terrible!"
"Why do I have to do all the cleaning?"
"Oh God, I hate him! Why is he coming over here?!"
"You always make us late for everything!"
"My outfit is ugly."
"Don't make me sit next to her."
"I don't want to get up. It's too early!"
"Why is this taking so long?"

...and so on and so forth....

Complaining. It's happening everywhere, right now. As part of my Power Project resolutions (January's theme is letting go), I resolved to not complain.

I quickly realized what a daunting task this is! It seems almost everything out of my mouth is a complaint.

Part of this could be that I do not seem to possess a unfailing optimistic demeanor like  some people. Take Julie Andrew's characters for example:

I might be thinking: God, why is this place so far away? Are we there yet?

While Julie is all like:


When my friends are sad I'm likely to complain on their behalf: "Hell yes, that person is a dick! Forget about him!"


Julie's approach:

I mean the closest she comes to complaining is by stating simple facts:

Far is actually defined as "at, to, or by a great distance" so we ALMOST have a complaint here, assuming a person dislikes running

And if my lack of endless positivity isn't to blame, it could be the large and encompassing definition of complaining:

1. to express dissatisfaction, pain, uneasiness, censure, resentment, or grief; find fault

Kory's example:  "This coffee tastes like burnt rubber."

also this kind of complaining can appear as a question:


2. to tell of one's pains, ailments, etc.
Kory's example: "I have a horrible cramp in my butt!"

3. to make a formal accusation

Jack: "It's your fault the rum is gone!"

Take all this and combine it with the fact that complaining often proves to be useful. When I complain things happen:
       * people sympathize with me
       *Often someone is nice enough to help me deal with the complaint
       *It offers a means for connection with others: "Oh god, yes! I hate our boss too! What a twat!"
       *It feels GOOD to complain.

So if it has benefits why would I eliminate complaining?

Because even though it has some benefits and feels really good, it also has negative repercussions. 

1. A lot of people hate listening to people complain, especially whiners. Being that person who complains too much can make you bad company. You're going to be that Debbie Downer of the group


2. While you may be looking for connection, you're actually focusing on yourself, making the connection one-sided.  It's great to have someone to commiserate to, but so often I get wrapped up in the joy of complaining and I overlook the fact that the person I'm talking to can't relate, or worse that they have a very different experience. For example, if you were to complain that children are hellspawn that should be pushed out to sea on the melting ice caps, but then realize halfway through your diatribe that you're talking to a person with two kids.

Remind me not to invite you to Jillian's 3rd birthday party new month
3. Complaining is not powerful.  The whole point of my 2016 Power Project is to explore ways to utilize power. Complaining is not powerful. When I complain, I'm asking someone else to do something for me, I'm making the situation worse with my negativity, and I'm inviting myself to be pathetic rather than a go-getter. 

Instead of complaining, I should fix the problem.

If the problem is something I do not have the power to fix, I need to:
1. Question my judgment-is this really a problem? 
2. Practice acceptance and letting go. I can 
          a. stand here all day and complain that my office only has 1 window (not enough light!)
          b. shell out the $$$$ to have more windows installed (fix the problem)
          c. be grateful the room has a window at all (letting go)
          d. go to a coffee shop and drink a soy latte in front of a huge
                window and get over myself. (half fix/half let go)


My point is that complaining narrows my vision and ties my hands. It robs me of my power rather than empowers me. For these reasons, it's got to go.

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Published on January 11, 2016 03:23

January 9, 2016

My Secrets of Adulthood #TheHappinessProject #selfhelp

Secrets of Adulthood—or Things To Remember
Again, here I am talking about Rubin and the Happiness Project. She introduced a concept called “Secrets of Adulthood”. They are observations to live by. Here are mine:·         What you do every day is more important than what you do once in a while·         Anger grows only when you feed it·         The best time to start is now·         Exercise. You’ll be glad you did·         If you can breathe, you’re okay·         You can’t change someone. Change yourself·         Don’t complain or nag. Get them involved·         Eat right. You’ll feel better·         Don’t know where to start? Start by making a list!·         There is no such things as “all or nothing”·         The couch makes you tired·         Too much sugar makes you sad·         Reading makes you smart. Gratitude gives you perspective. Journaling gives you peace. Practice all three every day.·         Delaying a nagging task only increases your anxiety over it. The more it upsets you, the sooner you should get it over with.·         It doesn’t matter how I look. It matters how I make people feel.·         It is more important to listen than to talk


What’s your secrets of adulthood?
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Published on January 09, 2016 03:22

January 8, 2016

Read a #poem #Friday #amreading poetry

The Wild Iris

by Louise Gluck

At the end of my suffering
there was a door.

Hear me out: that which you call death
I remember.

Overhead, noises, branches of the pine shifting.
Then nothing. The weak sun
flickered over the dry surface.

It is terrible to survive
as consciousness
buried in the dark earth.

Then it was over: that which you fear, being
a soul and unable
to speak, ending abruptly, the stiff earth
bending a little.  And what I took to be
birds darting in low shrubs.

You who do not remember
passage from the other world
I tell you I could speak again: whatever
returns from oblivion returns
to find a voice:

from the center of my life came
a great fountain, deep blue
shadows on azure sea water.
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Published on January 08, 2016 03:20

January 7, 2016

The Power of Letting Go #ThePowerProject #2016 #selfhelp

Though I decided to deviate from Gretchen Rubin’s Happiness Project, there were still concepts that I found helpful to my Power Project. One way she organized her research and self-study was by month—introducing one focus/concept per month and developing her resolutions accordingly.
Being the magpie that I am, I made January my month to explore The Power of Letting Go.
This month's mascot!Let it go! Let it go!

I’ve heard plenty ‘a guru pontificate on the power of letting go, but I’ve always resisted it. It seemed too passive of an approach. I’m trying to learn how to be powerful here! Not lay on my back and take it! But then I thought of some of the amazing people from history who enacted power through passive actions. Harriet Tubman and Rosa Parks come to mind. And the actions of these amazing women provide me with enough belief that power—true, transformative, world-changing power—can come from a place of seeming passivity. So, long story short, at last I am embracing this idea of letting go.
Letting go is related to the Buddhist concept of non-attachment. It’s not clinging to negative emotions. Not feeding your anger. Not going over grievances again and again in your mind. Not worrying about things that coulda, woulda, mighta happen. Or complaining.
So I chose a few resolutions for the month of January that I think will help me explore The Power of Letting Go.
·          Don’t complain·          Forgive·          Get rid of something·          Appreciate myself
I can tell you that after a week of going at this, “Don’t complain” has been the absolutely toughest resolution so far. Who knew I was so disgruntled?! I will write a post about complaining later. This post is simply about January in general and some posts you can expect in the coming weeks, all in the vein of “letting go”.
Forthcoming posts:
The Power of Not Complaining
The Power of Forgiveness
The Power of Getting Rid of Your Shit (De-cluttering Physical/Mental Space)
The Power of Doing it Now
The Power of Appreciating Yourself and Your Progress
Letting Go of Thoughts
Letting Go of Stories and Self-Limiting Beliefs
Letting Go of the Need to Speak
Letting Go of Worry and Fear
Letting Go of the Need to Be Right
Letting Go of Judgment
Letting Go of the Need to Control
Do you struggle with any of these? Any resolutions of your own? Let me know! J
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Published on January 07, 2016 10:27

January 6, 2016

Kory's #2016 #ThePowerProject

Hi everyone:

I hope you've survived the holidays and that your lives are settling down. Mine is at last (Hallelujah!), but it is only the calm before the storm. The semester starts Monday, so I'll be back to teaching in a heartbeat. What about you? How's life?

Now that we've played catch up, I want to tell you about my plan for the blog this year. I think I'm going to play with the design some more, maybe even move it--eep! But that sounds awfully ambitious, so let's just commit to a face lift for now.

The content will focus mostly on The Power Project. What's The Power Project you ask? Well, let me tell you! But beforewarned, I'm about to get pretty personal. I don't always share personal information about myself, but when I do...hoo boy! (Oh okay, not really. I have to save something for the memoir!)

So where it start....Well, I read the Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin last month. Yes, I know this book came out in 2009 and it was all the craze. I've been a little busy okay? From 2009-2016 I was finishing my second master's degree (hell it was fun the first time! Why not get a SECOND masters?), I met the love of my life, started teaching college students how to write, was writing my own books, got engaged, bought a house and I'm planning a wedding and going back to school... I didn't have time to read about being happy!

Long story short, I really enjoyed the book. And while I was not inspired to create my own Happiness Project (I learned to self-sooth long ago, as will be revealed soon), I was inspired to develop a similar project.

Hence #ThePowerProject was born.

There were (are) many times in my life when I've felt powerless. My mother has had chronic drug, alcohol issues. She contracted Hepatitis C from a "dirty" needle. And my father is....something else. We'll come back to him. 

As an adult (after lots of therapy!) I've learned that I'm not a victim, all the things that happened were super shitty but not my fault, I am not the story I create of myself, yadda yadda.

Yet still at times (this month) I would find myself tumbling into that familiar hole....let's call it Pit Hopeless. I always fall into Pit Hopeless after I come around the corner of Mount OHMYFUCKWHATJUSTHAPPENED? I've had to climb out of it more times than I can count.

When I found out that my depressingly poor mother is living with a heroin addict--I felt powerless. When I found out that my too-young sister is pregnant. AGAIN--I felt powerless.
When I found out that I can't keep eating 10 Lindt truffle balls a day because I've gained 10 pounds this month--I felt utterly hopeless and powerless, people!

It takes true will power and strength to climb out of Pit Hopeless. And it is on these climbs that I often found myself considering the nature of power: "What is power? Why do I seem to have it but my mother doesn't? Is it learned or innate? Why do some abused people pull themselves out of their hellish lives and thrive, while others absolutely crumple beneath it?"

I don't have a degree in psych so all my knowledge and experience is purely from trial and error.  LOTS OF ERRORS. But the fact remained that I'm fascinated by power and the seemingly real truth that people, especially women, feel chronically powerless.

So. Instead of devoting a year to singing in the shower and dancing in my underwear and shit (sorry Gretchen, I've been doing it for years!), I want to devote a year to exploring Power. What is? Do we have it? Is it an illusion or something we can harnass? Do we control it or does it control us and so on.

I'm going to chronicle this "journey"...somewhere...on this blog or another, I'm not sure. And I welcome you to share too. But for me this journey is about answering a question that's dogged my every step since I was a kid:  Do I have the strength to overcome all this? Is it enough to be just myself in a whole that seems like it needs so much more? Am I powerful? And if yes, why am I powerful?

I guess we're about to find out.


Side note: Don't panic about this blog project, Jesse fans! I promise the books will continue to come out on time. After all, Jesse Sullivan is itself an exploration of power, don't you think? It would be amiss to sideline her now ;)
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Published on January 06, 2016 07:27

December 24, 2015

#Holiday #Sale for #Book lovers and #giveaway

Here in the Benedicto-Shrum household, the holidays are in full swing! We've got the Christmas music blaring, Kim is wrapping presents and Josie is sleeping in front of the fireplace (it's not on because it's so warm, but the stockings are hung nonetheless :)
Before I start making Christmas dinner, I just wanted to announce that I'm having a temporary sale of the Dying for a Living boxset. Through Saturday (12/26) you can get Dying for a Living, Dying by the Hour, and Dying for Her, for just $0.99.

So if you have a kindle to fill, a scifi loving cousin who needs a gift, or you're just looking for a deal yourself, I hope you'll take advantage of the sale.
If you are a kindle user, you can get your discounted boxset here.
If you need an .epub file (for you ibooks, nook readers) you can it here.
***This past month as also been the month-long blog tour for Dying Light, my newest release in the series. In addition to all the awesome interviews, reviews and spotlights that've been going around, there is also a giveaway.

Click on any of this week's recap posts to play:
December 21- Urban Fantasy Investigations Interview
December 22- CYB Book club spotlight
December 23- Book-O-Craze spotlight
December 24- Character Interview and book review
If you want to read the other interviews and reviews from this tour, check out my weekly recaps (Week 1, Week 2, Week 3).

There's so much good stuff, so take your time.

And of course, I'm wishing you and yours a happy holiday and a merry new year! :)

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Published on December 24, 2015 13:41

December 18, 2015

#Book #Blog: Weekly #Recap and #Giveaway #amreading #amwriting #urbanfantasy #darkfantasy

And here we are wrapping up week #3 of the Jesse Sullivan Dying Light tour. We shared some awesome content on some awesome blogs this week, including an awesome review of all four books and another interview.

And I've yet to mention the great prizes up for grabs by yours truly:
3 audiobooks (as audible codes; no audible subscription necessary
A signed boxset (Books 1-4) in paperback (International)
Books 1-4 ebook set of the Jesse Sullivan NovelsSo play along if you have the time by visiting any (or all) the links below:

December 14- Series Review
December 15- Interview
December 16- Spotlight
December 18- SpotlightMore about the fourth novel in the Jesse Sullivan series:
In the wake of her handler's death, Jesse has never felt more alone. Her best friend is distracted by a new love. Her mentor Rachel is missing and her boyfriend Lane isn't returning her calls. 
Worse, a Necronite with the ability to heal any wound wants to kill Jesse and absorb her power of pyrokinesis. With little to hold her to Nashville, Jesse agrees to work as a freelance agent for Jeremiah Tate, a pharmaceutical tycoon in Chicago. Together they plot revenge against Caldwell, the mastermind responsible for the genocide of over 100,000 Necronites worldwide. When Jeremiah fails to dominate Jesse and her abilities, tensions escalate, dividing her from her allies. Then Caldwell gives Jesse an ultimatum she cannot refuse.
Amazon
Amazon UK
Barnes and Noble
Kobo
iBooks
Smashwords
Fans of contemporary and urban fantasy will enjoy this series. Don't be surprised to find dark humor, lots of snark, and a murder mystery, all wrapped up in a single thrilling, action-packed ride.Called "addictive" by New York Times Bestseller Darynda Jones, those interested in strong female leads are sure to take a shine to Jesse Sullivan, the reluctant anti-hero of this series.
Unfamiliar with Jesse and the gang? Start with book 1, Dying for a Living. It's free!


AmazonAmazon UK
Barnes and NobleiBooks
Kobo
Smashwords
Prefer audio? We've got you covered there too. After you download the kindle ebook (free), the audiobook is just $1.99.See for yourself.
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Published on December 18, 2015 07:51

December 12, 2015

#Blog Tour and #Giveaway #Recap

Here we go! Another successful week and all the fun things, recapped for your enjoyment:

December 7- Literary Musings Interview
December 8- My face! (A video Q& A)
December 9- Guest Post about Murder and Writing Tips
December 10- 10 Tales with Badass Leading Ladies
December 11-Roxanne Rhoads Interview


Keep up the fun! :D


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Published on December 12, 2015 14:18

December 4, 2015

#Blog Tour and #Giveaway

Four weeks! Just like that four weeks flew by. I suppose this is the testament that the holidays and the end of the semester are now in full swing here in our household, if four whole weeks can fly by in a blink.

This post is meant to be a wrap up for week #1 of the Jesse Sullivan Dying Light tour. We shared some awesome content on some awesome blogs this week, including 5 Holiday Gifts for the Undead in Your Life and a fun interview.

And I've yet to mention the great prizes up for grabs by yours truly:
3 audiobooks (as audible codes; no audible subscription necessary
A signed boxset (Books 1-4) in paperback (International)
Books 1-4 ebook set of the Jesse Sullivan NovelsSo play along if you have the time by visiting any (or all) the links below:

November 30- Jesse's sassy YouTube Playlist
December 1- Q&A Interview
December 2- Dying Light Review
December 3- Spotlight and Sample Chapter
December 4- I Smell Sheep Guest Post (Gifts for the Undead)
December 4- Spotlight and Excerpt
December 4- Spotlight and Excerpt
More about the fourth novel in the Jesse Sullivan series:
In the wake of her handler's death, Jesse has never felt more alone. Her best friend is distracted by a new love. Her mentor Rachel is missing and her boyfriend Lane isn't returning her calls. 
Worse, a Necronite with the ability to heal any wound wants to kill Jesse and absorb her power of pyrokinesis. With little to hold her to Nashville, Jesse agrees to work as a freelance agent for Jeremiah Tate, a pharmaceutical tycoon in Chicago. Together they plot revenge against Caldwell, the mastermind responsible for the genocide of over 100,000 Necronites worldwide. When Jeremiah fails to dominate Jesse and her abilities, tensions escalate, dividing her from her allies. Then Caldwell gives Jesse an ultimatum she cannot refuse.
Amazon
Amazon UK
Barnes and Noble
Kobo
iBooks
Smashwords
Fans of contemporary and urban fantasy will enjoy this series. Don't be surprised to find dark humor, lots of snark, and a murder mystery, all wrapped up in a single thrilling, action-packed ride.Called "addictive" by New York Times Bestseller Darynda Jones, those interested in strong female leads are sure to take a shine to Jesse Sullivan, the reluctant anti-hero of this series.
Unfamiliar with Jesse and the gang? Start with book 1, Dying for a Living. It's free!


AmazonAmazon UK
Barnes and NobleiBooks
Kobo
Smashwords
Prefer audio? We've got you covered there too. After you download the kindle ebook (free), the audiobook is just $1.99. See for yourself.
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Published on December 04, 2015 15:20