Panache Desai's Blog, page 8

Letting Go of Any Resentment

You’re a loving human being and there it’s not worth you wasting another moment of your precious life to be angry or resentful about anything. Bitterness is not a good look for anyone. At some point in your evolution, once you no longer have a problem with being you, you start to encounter generational patterns that you actually agreed to break on behalf of your lineage. These patterns can be emotional traumas, addictions, and they can be behaviors that are unrecognizable to you.  

Have you ever found yourself saying out loud, ‘“I don’t recognize my behaviour”, or a moment of questioning why you are behaving the way that you are? These behaviors that you don’t recognize are generational patterns. For example, addiction isn’t authentic to you. Addiction is a generational pattern that you are acting out at the moment. To put this in context, nothing belongs to you. Not your thoughts, not your emotions, and not your addictions. Nothing belongs to you. However, we’ve identified with the mind, with our emotions, and with certain characteristics, and then we make them ours. Is the suffering and pain worth holding on to? 

When you have a moment of showing up where you don’t recognize yourself, as if you are behaving like another person, you probably are. Maybe it’s your grandfather, or your grandmother or your father or your mother. Why? Because all of that information is generationally encoded and we tap into it, not recognizing ourselves. 

Once you finish everything on a personal level and then on a generational level, you begin to open the door to being in this cosmic consciousness, a more universal way of being. You become love-centric and everything in your life is expansive and dynamic.

Resting in the awareness of your breath transforms your life into a living meditation. 

Outgrowing Your Created Self

If you are currently grieving the loss of who you used to be, you need to know that you are not that person any more. When you can’t continue to have the same old conversations that you used to have, and you can’t continue to hang out with people that you really don’t resonate with, and you can’t continue to perpetuate situations or scenarios in your life that aren’t loving, you are outgrowing the created self. 

When you outgrow your created self and your identities, you begin to discover who you are beyond it all. There is a grieving process that happens as you begin to break free from the identity and the confines of the limited self. In this phase of transitioning away from the created self, it’s not that it needs to be healed, changed, fixed or improved, it’s just that you have outgrown it.  

The purpose of the ego is to keep you safe until you eventually get to a point in your conscious development where you outgrow its use. When you shift out of victimhood and evolve past the posture of empowerment, you begin to realize your life is as you are. That is Oneness. In that state of being there is no fear. Grace is at work in our lives. 

Sadness and depression may still linger in your heart and it’s important to access this sadness, this greif, this depression because ultimately, when we speak in terms of density, density is just different rates of vibration or emotions in the emotional scale on a vibrational level. Sadness, depression and grief is a very slow vibrational frequency and energy.  It’s not wrong or bad, it just needs our attention. 

Using the energy of Spring, build and create, imagine and innovate, redefine and redesign for yourself what it means to be a human being. 

Resting in the awareness of your breath transforms your life into a living meditation. 

Pivoting Out of Fear Into Love

The Self.  When I use the term, the self, I am not talking about the created self. In my book, You Are Enough, I outlined the distinction between the authentic self, or essential self, and the created self. The short version, or synopsis of my book, is that as long as we continue to identify as the created self, the ego and the identity, we continue to perpetuate our suffering. The reason we are not excelling in every area of life, is because of our conditioning out of our normal state of being. 

I’d like to offer you a shortcut today, a cheat code, a way to access what every incredible being throughout human history has accessed and embodied. I’d like you to begin to love what you have been taught to reject, love what you have concluded that you have to repress, love what you have denied, and especially, meet every single part of you with the love that it deserves to receive. At some point, you have to realize the futility of being afraid. 

Fear can be useful – when there’s a Tyrannosaurus Rex that wants to eat you as an appetizer! At that point, you want to run. In that context Fear is useful – you run and live another day.  But I am here to tell you, that fear is used to control you. Fear is being used to manipulate you. Fear is being used to confuse you. The mind and your physiology, under the influence of fear, will remain in a state of survival. And in that state of survival, you will never ever know anything other than suffering. 

When your brain and body is on love, you will experience life in a completely different way. I’m not talking about romantic love, or love that is conditional or relational. I’m talking about the love that lives within you – your essential nature, the truth of who you are. It’s time to permanently pivot out of fear and out of the illusion into what’s real.  The absolute nature of reality is love. 

When you go beyond the identity, beyond the emotions, the mind, the body, what you have, the material possessions or your status in the world, and you experience the truth of yourself, you will experience a love that is beyond description. 

Resting in the awareness of your breath, connects you to the truth that you are love, that you are light and that you are an infinite being in every way. 

You Are an Answer, Not a Problem

We need to talk. 

I know that running around, having people buy into your limitations, or even you buying into your limitations has been your way of fitting in. Why? Because everyone around you is suffering and this is how you find a way to belong.  

I see you beyond these limitations and I see you as love. Who you really are is light beyond description, the most beautiful golden sensitizing light you’ve ever seen, emanating out of all that you are in every direction. What you represent on this planet is a unique possibility and potential that only you can fulfill. 

You are at a crossroads of either continuing to pretend that you are limited, that you are a problem, and, either you’re going to apologize for your presence on this planet, or you are going to finally allow today to be the day to accept who you are, accept what dwells within you and set yourself free. 

The western world has been engaged in personal and spiritual development for over 70 years or more. At some point, we have to have the courage to know what we know and begin to embody and live everything that we have been told by every great human being throughout human history. They have all said the same thing: 1) God loves you. This is a universal message, 2) Where you are God is –  another universal message, and, 3) God is love. Therefore, you are love – a universal message. 

Every being from every tradition and every religion and path, has shared the same thing, from revelation, from their direct experience. How is it that anyone that truly and profoundly experiences this revelation with the divine, experiences the same thing?  It must be the truth. What does this truth mean about you? 

What that means is you are love, you are light. You are an infinite being.  

Today is the day we stop denying the truth of who we are. Today’s the day we stop apologizing for being ourselves and we stop making ourselves wrong. You are not a problem, you are not a burden. You are an answer, a solution and a blessing. What you’ve gone through in your life does not define you. In any moment you can accept who you are and set yourself free.  May now be that moment. 

Resting in the awareness of your breath, connects you to the truth that you are love, that you are light and that you are an infinite being in every way. 

The Authentic Version of You

Right now, we are in the midst of the biggest breakthrough: A shift into presence, into residence. When we experience an expanded state, or a greater vibrational frequency, we are not experiencing anything but our natural state of being.

The longer I am alive, the more I begin to see with absolute clarity that the answer to every question or perceived problem you are experiencing in your life, is Oneness. 

The more you actually allow yourself to remember your natural state of being, the more your life just works. It breaks down to this very simple fundamental level: if there is currently anything going on in physical level with you in your life, rest in the awareness of your breath throughout the day and live in the acceptance of your humanity. Don’t fix it, don’t heal it, don’t change it, don’t improve it. Just simply accept it. 

In this acceptance, you’ll begin to open up to the infinite love and light that you are. This infinite love and life will begin to restore harmony and balance in your body. 

We don’t need to be healed. We all have the capacity for self-healing. We don’t need to be empowered. We all have the capacity for self-empowerment. We don’t need to be enlightened. We all have the capacity for self-actualization. In every one of these three examples, notice that the self is the source of the experience. Self-healing. Self-realization. Self-love. Self-actualization. The Self I am referring to is the authentic version of you. 

When you begin to pivot out of personality and into presence, and you begin to align with your natural state of being, harmony and balance begins to restore in every area of your life. 

Rest in the awareness of your breath for a living mediation.

How to Stop Empowering Your Limitations

You have empowered your limitations. You feel a feeling and you make it mean something about you. Typically, you’re making it mean that you are not loveable, that you’re not doing it right, or you’re not good enough. And, you use it to disqualify and invalidate you. 

It’s the same thing with the mind. You think a thought and all of a sudden you are off to the races! Limiting thoughts like “this meditation thing isn’t working . . . I’m still thinking thoughts”.  And if that doesn’t work, you begin to use stuff that is happening at the level of the body or you reach for something that is happening in the world. 

What do you think would happen if for just one day, you could make everything mean that you are divine and allow yourself to make feelings and emotions mean that you are loved? What would happen if you made thinking thoughts mean that you are divine and you are loved? And, what would happen if you made feeling feelings, on a sensory level, or at the level of the body divine?

You’ve been powering the limitations and giving them a meaning. Life and light has been taking the form of that meaning and delivering you the experience of it. 

Embrace your power by liberating yourself from empowering your feelings, your thoughts, and physical sensations or material manifest phenomenon. It’s time you realize the absolute truth that who you are is the supreme self expressing through the many – the one expressing to us all. 

Resting in the awareness of your breath transforms your life into a living meditation. 

This Is What People Will Remember About You

You love so much.

You love everybody so much and that’s why you get frustrated, and why you get angry. What you are beginning to realize is that no matter how much you love yourself, you can’t make other people love themselves. 

At some point you have to recognize that every soul is on it’s own perfect journey and you have to allow everyone in your life, regardless of the relationship, to have their own journey. You don’t need to be the lifeguard in everybody’s life or micromanage and control every single person in your experience because you are afraid. Instead, how about you just begin to tell the truth: I love you and I am scared. 

“I love you and I am scared”

For the smoker you love, tell them that you love them and you are scared and why you are scared, and for the drinker in your life, tell them you love them and why you’re scared. Let those that you love know that you are experiencing fear. 

Vulnerability is the antidote and it provides you an entry point to authentically experiencing what’s really going on underneath, which is sadness. 

It can be hard to watch the people you love make choices that are self-destructive everyday. It can be hard to know something, to have an insight, and knowing that sharing that insight with another person could transform their life. And, when you do, they can’t hear you. 

Recognize that your attainment is for you, your love is for you. The more you allow yourself to be freed of the attachments you have to every person in your life, the easier and smoother your experience of being a human being becomes. It’s exhausting micromanaging, controlling and advocating on the behalf of the well-being of everyone in your life. If you are doing it at the cost of your peace, and the cost of your love, what’s the point?

In the end, what are people going to remember? They are going to remember the love that you shared with them, the love they felt when they were with you. They’ll remember the love you communicated with them on a consistent basis. The only thing that is real here here is love. 

Instead of going to the default setting of being afraid of something, and coming from a place of anger, frustration, or rage, please just tell the truth of how you feel.

“I really love you and I am scared. I‘m scared of the choices that you’re making are going to lead to you not being here anymore. . . you really matter to me, I see you, you are an integral part of my life.”  And that is the truth. That is the truth, the communication, the vulnerability and where the freedom comes from. 

Your freedom comes from aligning with the truth and expressing it. Speaking from your heart sets you and the other person that you are communicating with free. 

Rest in your silence of you breath for a living meditation.

An Invitation To More Love

I’ve had to go through some pretty interesting things on a personal level in order to be who I am today. Experiences I would never have actually consciously created, things that on an egoic level I would have never signed up for. But all of these things and experiences are actually everything that I needed in order to fully wake up to be who I am today. 

I’ve discovered through the course of my own personal journey, that the acceptance of what is happening, no matter what that may be in the moment, provides me a sense of relief. And, as much as it’s provided me a sense of relief, it is providing an ever-expanding global community a sense of relief. 

There always comes a point on your journey where your comfort zone is going to be challenged, where who you are at the level of your identity, and your ego is going to be fundamentally shaken. Sometimes the Universe even holds you upside down by your ankles for a little bit and proceeds to gently rock you until all the fear falls out. In those moments, it can be uncomfortable because at the level of your identity, you don’t know how you are going to get through it, or find a place of resolution. You can’t get there because you are continually trying to figure out the issue and the problem by using the limited apparatus that is your mind. 

At some point we have to get to a place where we recognize that “I would rather defer to my heart”, and “I would allow my heart to be the chief problem solver in my experience”. I do this by first acknowledging that what I’m perceiving to be a problem is actually an invitation to more love. 

What you perceive to be a problem is actually shaking you out of your comfort zone so that you can let go of more of who you think you are, and surrender to this infinite space that lives within you, which is the truth – and it’s love. 

Give yourself the gift of a pause, the gift of relief. You don’t have to figure everything out. Your life isn’t a mystery that has to be solved. When we surrender and let go, we give ourselves the gift of relief. Allow yourself the opportunity to witness the resolution as it unfolds at the level of the heart. 

Rest in the awareness of your breath for a living mediation.

You Are The Magic

Most of you that are healers think that you need to use a modality until you remember that you are the magic. Once you understand that you are the magic, you’re free and you don’t need the wand anymore, or to twitch your nose, or blink your eyes. You don’t have to repeat any phrases or mantras, you just show up in your spectacular self and you bring your own magic to the party. 

Life becomes so much simpler when you know who you are. At some point you have to acknowledge the magic in you and you have to realize that that five year old inside of you is the magic.  When you resolve your inner conflict with your inner-child, and your inner-child feels safe, and you’re back to being child-like again, you’re free. 

Being child-like is returning to your pre-programmed, pre-conditioned self. It’s getting back to raw curiosity, pure joy, and enthusiasm. The more you realize that you are not defined by anything that is happening, the more you realize that you have the capacity to tap into your beautiful inner-child. When you connect from the beautiful being that you have in you, you’re free because that is where the magic is. 

Your inner-child becomes your healer. Your inner-child becomes your inspiration and source of creation. The whole point of any spiritual practice is to cultivate your inner-child, that part of you that isn’t stressed out or overwhelmed. Our power resides in the aspects of ourselves that we haven’t turned and faced. 

The whole point of any spiritual practice is to cultivate a light-heartedness, a playfulness, to connect with that beautiful sweet inner-child that dwells within you and is the source of all the magic in your life. If there was really a point of reference for what the soul is, without limiting the expansive experience of light, I would say that it’s the happy, healthy, and whole inner-child – the radiant and luminous inner-child. 

When we look at transformation, we realize it’s about helping that beautiful, sweet being that dwells within us to feel loved, safe, appreciated and nurtured. Transformation then, becomes the byproduct of you loving, appreciating and nurturing yourself. The more we are able to end the resistance to being ourselves, and simply live from our hearts, abide in our truths as we are, and step out of the rigidity, conformity and superficiality that we are asked to live inside of every day, we discover our super power. 

Lightheartedness is a sign of awakening.  You are either going to leave this planet with a smile on your face, or you’re going to be one of those selfies, who takes everything seriously . . . it’s up to you. The good news is, it’s not too late. 

Light heartedness, joy, playfulness, and curiosity are the root causes of innovation. That’s the source of your magic, the awe, the reason you wake up in the morning. 

Rest in the awareness of your breath for a joyful living meditation. 

Life is Moving You Toward More Love

If everything is love and you are love, then what exactly about you is not loved? There are no excuses. Relax into the truth and you will begin to experience yourself in a different way. The state of connection that you’ve been trying to access your whole life has always been present within you. 

At some point, you just have to understand that you are doing it to yourself. That revelation can either be a relief or it can be a further point of frustration for you, depending on how responsible, accountable and willing you are to hearing the truth. That means there are some fundamental principles that are permeating reality. For some reason, we have been conditioned to believe, and we further reinforce that conditioning, to have us disconnect from these principles. 

You are love. Not some future version of you, not some past version of you but the version of you that you are right now. You are love. There isn’t some power, or some force, or some energy that wakes up every morning and thinks of innovative and new ways to mess with your feng shui. That is not happening. There is not some being that has a power over you, who’s waking up every morning that messes with your vatsu. That is not going on. 

There is only one thing happening here: you are love. In addition, life is moving you to more love. And that is the only thing that is going on. It’s time to recognize that your reality is actually supporting your evolution.

Wow! Think about how amazing this is. Your reality is supporting your evolution. There is nobody messing with you. Everything that is happening is supporting your evolution. The only question is, why are you not allowing that? Why do you not allow yourself to embrace the truth? At the deepest level of who you are, is love. 

Another question I have is why are you still in resistance to life’s events? Why are you fighting against what life is bringing into your life in every moment? What are you getting out of it? First of all, think about how boring it is, and how tired you feel everyday trying to prove that you are good enough. You are trying to overcome all of these perceived obstacles that you are facing because you believe that there is some energy that wakes up every morning and messes with you. After a while it just gets tiring. 

Today, I want you to put this into practice: I would like you to relax into yourself. Living breath awareness is a beautiful way to allow yourself to have that entry point into presence at every moment.