M.J. Summers's Blog, page 12
April 29, 2014
Some Exciting News from the Desk of MJ
I’m excited to share the first details of a big announcement with you.I have been incredibly fortunate to be offered a four book deal with HarperCollins Canada!
With the deal in the works, it means that Breaking Love will sadly be later than I had hoped. I promise that you will have it in your hands by the end of November 2014.
I have been working on a little something special for you this summer that I hope will make up for the long wait. (Here’s a hint: it’s Ben and Alicia’s story, called Don’t Let Go, and it’s about their sweet, hot lifelong love.) I am SO excited to fill you in on the whole story in May.
Please keep checking back with me, as I will be hosting some fun giveaways in the months to come!
I wish you all the best this spring,MJ
With the deal in the works, it means that Breaking Love will sadly be later than I had hoped. I promise that you will have it in your hands by the end of November 2014.
I have been working on a little something special for you this summer that I hope will make up for the long wait. (Here’s a hint: it’s Ben and Alicia’s story, called Don’t Let Go, and it’s about their sweet, hot lifelong love.) I am SO excited to fill you in on the whole story in May.
Please keep checking back with me, as I will be hosting some fun giveaways in the months to come!
I wish you all the best this spring,MJ
March 31, 2014
The Importance of Body Language
Happy Spring Everyone!
It's been a while since I've posted anything so I thought it was about time that I got on it. I have some exciting news to share with you in a couple of weeks, but for now I was thinking about some of the little things that keep romance alive regardless of how long you've been with someone, how old you get or how big your thighs might be.
I'm writing this for women but the advice goes both ways (except maybe the part about the lip gloss). I'm not trapped in 1950 assuming that only the woman is responsible for pleasing her man. If you've regularly read my posts, you'll recall that I've written a few aimed at men and how they can up their game. Keeping each other happy is of the utmost importance when it comes to the longevity of any relationship.
When people are together for a while, they sometimes forget to keep up with all of those tiny acts of love that had your motor running hot when you were first together. Here's a list of 5 to work on. I guarantee they'll bring back that lovin' feeling...
Eye Contact - When is the last time that you gazed into your fella's baby blues? I mean really gazed into them, noticing the little flecks of colour within, the size of his pupils, his eyelashes lowering as he blinks? Often it's easy for people to go days or weeks even without really looking at each other. We might be talking with each other as we sit side by side in the car or on the couch, or while we are cooking and doing other important tasks, but we don't actually look at each other. So take some time this week to sit facing each other while you eat a meal or have a coffee or just have a talk. Put away the handheld screens and look at each other. Even if it's just for a minute each day, you'll notice that it makes a huge difference in how close you feel. Touching - Take some time to flirt with your body. Give him a big hug or a lingering kiss before he heads out the door (or when he comes in), touch his arm, lazily run your fingertips over the back of his hand, etc. Touching feels good for everyone, men included. This is just one little way you can make him feel adored. Smile - Remember when you first were together and you're face used to light up when you saw him? Yet, do that. Smile at him often as you go through your day or evening together, especially when you greet each other. Give him that look that shows him he's the only one for you. Play up your (ahem) Assets - Ditch the flannel pajama bottoms (I'm talking to myself here) and put on something a little more flattering. You can still be comfortable (yoga pants, anyone?) but try to show off what you've got when you are hanging around the house. Throw on a little lip gloss when you think of it, maybe that perfume that drives him wild, then make sure you need to accidentally-on-purpose reach something on the other side of him so he gets a nice whiff. Lean In and/or Tilt Your Head - Both of these subtle forms of body language show that we are interested in the other person and are engaged in what they are saying. Really focus on him and not what else is happening in the room (unless, of course, you have a child who is playing with matches or there is some other urgent issue to deal with). Listen to him the same way you want to be listened to. Now, there's your spice-things-up homework for the next couple of weeks! I hope it is helpful and that you'll have fun with it!
Wishing you a hot spring,
MJ
It's been a while since I've posted anything so I thought it was about time that I got on it. I have some exciting news to share with you in a couple of weeks, but for now I was thinking about some of the little things that keep romance alive regardless of how long you've been with someone, how old you get or how big your thighs might be.
I'm writing this for women but the advice goes both ways (except maybe the part about the lip gloss). I'm not trapped in 1950 assuming that only the woman is responsible for pleasing her man. If you've regularly read my posts, you'll recall that I've written a few aimed at men and how they can up their game. Keeping each other happy is of the utmost importance when it comes to the longevity of any relationship.
When people are together for a while, they sometimes forget to keep up with all of those tiny acts of love that had your motor running hot when you were first together. Here's a list of 5 to work on. I guarantee they'll bring back that lovin' feeling...
Eye Contact - When is the last time that you gazed into your fella's baby blues? I mean really gazed into them, noticing the little flecks of colour within, the size of his pupils, his eyelashes lowering as he blinks? Often it's easy for people to go days or weeks even without really looking at each other. We might be talking with each other as we sit side by side in the car or on the couch, or while we are cooking and doing other important tasks, but we don't actually look at each other. So take some time this week to sit facing each other while you eat a meal or have a coffee or just have a talk. Put away the handheld screens and look at each other. Even if it's just for a minute each day, you'll notice that it makes a huge difference in how close you feel. Touching - Take some time to flirt with your body. Give him a big hug or a lingering kiss before he heads out the door (or when he comes in), touch his arm, lazily run your fingertips over the back of his hand, etc. Touching feels good for everyone, men included. This is just one little way you can make him feel adored. Smile - Remember when you first were together and you're face used to light up when you saw him? Yet, do that. Smile at him often as you go through your day or evening together, especially when you greet each other. Give him that look that shows him he's the only one for you. Play up your (ahem) Assets - Ditch the flannel pajama bottoms (I'm talking to myself here) and put on something a little more flattering. You can still be comfortable (yoga pants, anyone?) but try to show off what you've got when you are hanging around the house. Throw on a little lip gloss when you think of it, maybe that perfume that drives him wild, then make sure you need to accidentally-on-purpose reach something on the other side of him so he gets a nice whiff. Lean In and/or Tilt Your Head - Both of these subtle forms of body language show that we are interested in the other person and are engaged in what they are saying. Really focus on him and not what else is happening in the room (unless, of course, you have a child who is playing with matches or there is some other urgent issue to deal with). Listen to him the same way you want to be listened to. Now, there's your spice-things-up homework for the next couple of weeks! I hope it is helpful and that you'll have fun with it!
Wishing you a hot spring,
MJ
February 11, 2014
Sephora Giftcard Giveaway with Emma Lauren
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Happy Valentine's Day from fellow author Emma Lauren and myself!
Enter now to win a $50 or $25 Sephora Giftcard and get yourself a little treat!
Click here to buy a copy of Emma's Smokin' Hot Book WHEN IT'S LOVE (It's one of my favourite sexy reads!) http://tinyurl.com/mc7v6ty
Happy Valentine's Day from fellow author Emma Lauren and myself!
Enter now to win a $50 or $25 Sephora Giftcard and get yourself a little treat!
Click here to buy a copy of Emma's Smokin' Hot Book WHEN IT'S LOVE (It's one of my favourite sexy reads!) http://tinyurl.com/mc7v6ty
February 8, 2014
Coming November 2014... Breaking Love
Breaking LoveSeductive. Heartwarming. Passionate.
MJ is at it again! She's cooking up another steamy romance for your reading pleasure.
Luc Chevalier is a satisfied man—or so he thinks. His businesses are thriving, and he has all the excitement, money and beautiful women any man could want. He dines at the best restaurants and stays at the most luxurious hotels as he makes his way around the globe. So why does he suddenly find himself so restless?
Megan Sullivan is a single mom with a rather ordinary life. She is comfortable with things just the way they are. She has a six-year-old son, Elliott, a cozy house in Boulder, Colorado, and a photography business to put food on the table. Her ex lives hours away in Florida providing enough space for him to feed his drug addiction without exposing Elliott to his illness. She's on her own, and she intends to keep it that way.
Megan is convinced by her best friend to take a trip to Paris for a few days. Little does she know she is about to be thrust into the arms of Luc Chevalier, a sex god if ever there was one. They agree to one night together and no more. In that one night, he manages to draw out the vixen that Megan has carefully hidden way for years. Once she has a taste of what she's been missing, she finds it almost impossible to go back to her life as it was.
Will two people who don't believe in happily ever after manage to put aside their doubts and find their forever?
Join Luc as he discovers that everything he never wanted is the only thing he will ever need.
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MJ is at it again! She's cooking up another steamy romance for your reading pleasure.
Luc Chevalier is a satisfied man—or so he thinks. His businesses are thriving, and he has all the excitement, money and beautiful women any man could want. He dines at the best restaurants and stays at the most luxurious hotels as he makes his way around the globe. So why does he suddenly find himself so restless?
Megan Sullivan is a single mom with a rather ordinary life. She is comfortable with things just the way they are. She has a six-year-old son, Elliott, a cozy house in Boulder, Colorado, and a photography business to put food on the table. Her ex lives hours away in Florida providing enough space for him to feed his drug addiction without exposing Elliott to his illness. She's on her own, and she intends to keep it that way.
Megan is convinced by her best friend to take a trip to Paris for a few days. Little does she know she is about to be thrust into the arms of Luc Chevalier, a sex god if ever there was one. They agree to one night together and no more. In that one night, he manages to draw out the vixen that Megan has carefully hidden way for years. Once she has a taste of what she's been missing, she finds it almost impossible to go back to her life as it was.
Will two people who don't believe in happily ever after manage to put aside their doubts and find their forever?
Join Luc as he discovers that everything he never wanted is the only thing he will ever need.
Coming April 2014... Breaking Love
Breaking LoveSeductive. Heartwarming. Passionate.
MJ is at it again! She's cooking up another steamy romance for your reading pleasure.
Luc Chevalier is a satisfied man—or so he thinks. His businesses are thriving, and he has all the excitement, money and beautiful women any man could want. He dines at the best restaurants and stays at the most luxurious hotels as he makes his way around the globe. So why does he suddenly find himself so restless?
Megan Sullivan is a single mom with a rather ordinary life. She is comfortable with things just the way they are. She has a six-year-old son, Elliott, a cozy house in Burlington, Vermont, and a photography business to put food on the table. Her ex lives hours away in Florida providing enough space for him to feed his drug addiction without exposing Elliott to his illness. She's on her own, and she intends to keep it that way.
Megan is convinced by her best friend to take a trip to Paris for a few days. Little does she know she is about to be thrust into the arms of Luc Chevalier, a sex god if ever there was one. They agree to one night together and no more. In that one night, he manages to draw out the vixen that Megan has carefully hidden way for years. Once she has a taste of what she's been missing, she finds it almost impossible to go back to her life as it was.
Will two people who don't believe in happily ever after manage to put aside their doubts and find their forever?
Join Luc as he discovers that everything he never wanted is the only thing he will ever need.
MJ is at it again! She's cooking up another steamy romance for your reading pleasure.
Luc Chevalier is a satisfied man—or so he thinks. His businesses are thriving, and he has all the excitement, money and beautiful women any man could want. He dines at the best restaurants and stays at the most luxurious hotels as he makes his way around the globe. So why does he suddenly find himself so restless?
Megan Sullivan is a single mom with a rather ordinary life. She is comfortable with things just the way they are. She has a six-year-old son, Elliott, a cozy house in Burlington, Vermont, and a photography business to put food on the table. Her ex lives hours away in Florida providing enough space for him to feed his drug addiction without exposing Elliott to his illness. She's on her own, and she intends to keep it that way.
Megan is convinced by her best friend to take a trip to Paris for a few days. Little does she know she is about to be thrust into the arms of Luc Chevalier, a sex god if ever there was one. They agree to one night together and no more. In that one night, he manages to draw out the vixen that Megan has carefully hidden way for years. Once she has a taste of what she's been missing, she finds it almost impossible to go back to her life as it was.
Will two people who don't believe in happily ever after manage to put aside their doubts and find their forever?
Join Luc as he discovers that everything he never wanted is the only thing he will ever need.
December 30, 2013
The Mysterious Success of a Stay-At-Home-Mom Turned Erotic Romance Author
Happy New Year Everyone!
2013 is winding down and I wanted to take this opportunity to show my gratitude for the amazing support that I've received with my debut novel, Break in Two. Since I released it on November 6th, it has held the top spot in the Western Romance Category on Amazon.ca and Amazon.co.uk almost everyday. More recently, it has spent a few days at #1 in the US in the same category. I've received over 500 reviews between the various Amazon sites and Goodreads, almost all of them very kind.
I've had a lot of people ask how I managed to pull this off. While luck has been on my side, it really comes down to hard work and research actually. For the entire month of October, I slept only 3-4 hours/night while trying to finish editing my book and researching how to market it. Not exactly a sexy answer, but it is the truth.
For those of you who are launching a book soon or are looking to increase sales, I hope this will save you some time!
These are the 10 best things that I did to gain exposure for my book:
Nick Wale of Novel Ideas : I happened to read an interview featuring Nick on Simon Duringer's blog (http://simonduringer.com/blog/) in the late fall. I decided I wanted someone as forward thinking and successful as Nick in my corner, so I contacted him right away. He has managed to have several interviews put in various blogs around the UK and North America, he featured me in his monthly e-zine, "Novel Ideas", and gave me loads of tips/hints for my launch. All of his continued hard work on my behalf has put my book in front of countless people, getting my book off to a great start. He is also a genuinely caring person who is really passionate about seeing indie authors succeed and doesn't believe in charging an arm and a leg for his help. So even if you have a tiny budget for marketing your novel (like $30), get a hold of Nick. http://nickwale.org/ Blog Tour: I was lucky enough to get Book Enthusiast Promotions to host an Author Spotlight for me. They have a HUGE reach in the romance world and the cost was very reasonable for the value. They will be hosting a Blog Book Tour for me from January 20-24th as well, which should help to keep my sales going for a while! http://bookenthusiastpromotions.com/m-j-summers-author-spotlight-nov-23/ A Great Cover: My husband and I designed the cover together. We found the graphic on Shutterstock and then chose the font based on an article I read about fonts for book covers (http://www.thebookdesigner.com/2011/08/5-great-fonts-for-book-covers/) I wanted something beautiful, compelling and professional. I also wanted something that people would be happy to have on their shelf. I think we managed that nicely. Social Networking: Now, I only joined Twitter and Facebook in June and started trying to network with other authors and bloggers. I have found this an extremely welcoming and helpful community. There are dozens of Facebook Groups, Google + groups, etc to join in order to help promote your novels, ask for reviews, get advice, etc. I haven't spent too much time trying to post links to my book around the groups since it launched - just a little at the beginning. I don't honestly think it's all that effective to promote your book to a bunch of other authors who are also trying to get people to buy their books. It makes more sense to me to use social networking to make connections with people who you can share ideas with and form friendships in order to support each other. I also try to keep my posts either helpful or entertaining. Facebook Author Page: I created a Facebook author page and use that to pay for advertising around Facebook. I am able to 'target' my ads to my audience. I have boosted posts when I launched the book, when I lower the price of my book and also to get more readers for my blog as well. I generally spend about $10-30/day on boosting posts for a few days. I like that you can see how many people see the post and how many click-throughs so you will know if the ad was effective. Goodreads Profile : The serious readers of the western world go here to find their next book, discuss books, keep track of what they've read and what they want to read. I set up my author profile, giving as much information as I could and linking my blog to my author profile. The site is easy to use and allows you to provide a lot of information about yourself and your work. You can join groups that are specific to your genre and add your book to their "to read" shelf in some cases as well. Host a Goodreads Giveaway: The day my book launched, I set up a giveaway for one signed copy of my book. I quickly had hundreds of people sign up to win the prize, many of whom added my book to their "To Be Read" file. This helped my book gain exposure on this important site. (On Nick's advice, I have started another giveaway again.) Here's an article on How to Host a Goodreads Giveaway: http://blog.bookbaby.com/2013/06/promoting-your-book-through-a-goodreads-giveaway/ Amazon Author Central: Take a few minutes to set up an Author Central account and definitely add as much content as you can to it. I think it really helps give you a polished look and will add that always important content to your Amazon Author Page. Here is a terrific video on how to increase your sales on Amazon. I've watched it several times and employed most of her advice. http://t.co/pKjgNLbJqi A Professional Author Photo: this helps people feel connected to you. Photos that hide you or look like you took them with your webcam in a dimly lit room, don't have that same professional feel. When people are going to spend their hard earned money and valuable time reading a book, they want to feel like it is written by a real author who really cares about the quality of what they are putting out there. Book Trailer: Nick came up with a most beautiful trailer to promote by book for Christmas. It is SO well done that I put in a Google ad on Youtube to promote it for $10/day for a few weeks. We had a very high rate of people watching 100% of the video (some weeks as many as 19% watched to the end which is almost unheard of). There was a link at the end to my Amazon page to buy the book. I didn't see all that many clicks through but I really believe it helped in the 'long game' of marketing this book. It was seen by over 70 000 people in my target audience.So that's it for now. If you have any questions or comments, please let me know! Please share your best marketing ideas in the comments section below as well so we can all gain from each other's experience. I'm a complete newbie at all of this, so I know I have a TON to learn still.
Thank you to everyone who has helped me along the way, who has supported me, bought my book and reviewed it! Your kindness has meant more than you could ever know. You amaze me.
All the best to you and yours in 2014! May it be your best year yet and may they all get better from there!!
XOXO MJ
2013 is winding down and I wanted to take this opportunity to show my gratitude for the amazing support that I've received with my debut novel, Break in Two. Since I released it on November 6th, it has held the top spot in the Western Romance Category on Amazon.ca and Amazon.co.uk almost everyday. More recently, it has spent a few days at #1 in the US in the same category. I've received over 500 reviews between the various Amazon sites and Goodreads, almost all of them very kind.
I've had a lot of people ask how I managed to pull this off. While luck has been on my side, it really comes down to hard work and research actually. For the entire month of October, I slept only 3-4 hours/night while trying to finish editing my book and researching how to market it. Not exactly a sexy answer, but it is the truth.
For those of you who are launching a book soon or are looking to increase sales, I hope this will save you some time!
These are the 10 best things that I did to gain exposure for my book:
Nick Wale of Novel Ideas : I happened to read an interview featuring Nick on Simon Duringer's blog (http://simonduringer.com/blog/) in the late fall. I decided I wanted someone as forward thinking and successful as Nick in my corner, so I contacted him right away. He has managed to have several interviews put in various blogs around the UK and North America, he featured me in his monthly e-zine, "Novel Ideas", and gave me loads of tips/hints for my launch. All of his continued hard work on my behalf has put my book in front of countless people, getting my book off to a great start. He is also a genuinely caring person who is really passionate about seeing indie authors succeed and doesn't believe in charging an arm and a leg for his help. So even if you have a tiny budget for marketing your novel (like $30), get a hold of Nick. http://nickwale.org/ Blog Tour: I was lucky enough to get Book Enthusiast Promotions to host an Author Spotlight for me. They have a HUGE reach in the romance world and the cost was very reasonable for the value. They will be hosting a Blog Book Tour for me from January 20-24th as well, which should help to keep my sales going for a while! http://bookenthusiastpromotions.com/m-j-summers-author-spotlight-nov-23/ A Great Cover: My husband and I designed the cover together. We found the graphic on Shutterstock and then chose the font based on an article I read about fonts for book covers (http://www.thebookdesigner.com/2011/08/5-great-fonts-for-book-covers/) I wanted something beautiful, compelling and professional. I also wanted something that people would be happy to have on their shelf. I think we managed that nicely. Social Networking: Now, I only joined Twitter and Facebook in June and started trying to network with other authors and bloggers. I have found this an extremely welcoming and helpful community. There are dozens of Facebook Groups, Google + groups, etc to join in order to help promote your novels, ask for reviews, get advice, etc. I haven't spent too much time trying to post links to my book around the groups since it launched - just a little at the beginning. I don't honestly think it's all that effective to promote your book to a bunch of other authors who are also trying to get people to buy their books. It makes more sense to me to use social networking to make connections with people who you can share ideas with and form friendships in order to support each other. I also try to keep my posts either helpful or entertaining. Facebook Author Page: I created a Facebook author page and use that to pay for advertising around Facebook. I am able to 'target' my ads to my audience. I have boosted posts when I launched the book, when I lower the price of my book and also to get more readers for my blog as well. I generally spend about $10-30/day on boosting posts for a few days. I like that you can see how many people see the post and how many click-throughs so you will know if the ad was effective. Goodreads Profile : The serious readers of the western world go here to find their next book, discuss books, keep track of what they've read and what they want to read. I set up my author profile, giving as much information as I could and linking my blog to my author profile. The site is easy to use and allows you to provide a lot of information about yourself and your work. You can join groups that are specific to your genre and add your book to their "to read" shelf in some cases as well. Host a Goodreads Giveaway: The day my book launched, I set up a giveaway for one signed copy of my book. I quickly had hundreds of people sign up to win the prize, many of whom added my book to their "To Be Read" file. This helped my book gain exposure on this important site. (On Nick's advice, I have started another giveaway again.) Here's an article on How to Host a Goodreads Giveaway: http://blog.bookbaby.com/2013/06/promoting-your-book-through-a-goodreads-giveaway/ Amazon Author Central: Take a few minutes to set up an Author Central account and definitely add as much content as you can to it. I think it really helps give you a polished look and will add that always important content to your Amazon Author Page. Here is a terrific video on how to increase your sales on Amazon. I've watched it several times and employed most of her advice. http://t.co/pKjgNLbJqi A Professional Author Photo: this helps people feel connected to you. Photos that hide you or look like you took them with your webcam in a dimly lit room, don't have that same professional feel. When people are going to spend their hard earned money and valuable time reading a book, they want to feel like it is written by a real author who really cares about the quality of what they are putting out there. Book Trailer: Nick came up with a most beautiful trailer to promote by book for Christmas. It is SO well done that I put in a Google ad on Youtube to promote it for $10/day for a few weeks. We had a very high rate of people watching 100% of the video (some weeks as many as 19% watched to the end which is almost unheard of). There was a link at the end to my Amazon page to buy the book. I didn't see all that many clicks through but I really believe it helped in the 'long game' of marketing this book. It was seen by over 70 000 people in my target audience.So that's it for now. If you have any questions or comments, please let me know! Please share your best marketing ideas in the comments section below as well so we can all gain from each other's experience. I'm a complete newbie at all of this, so I know I have a TON to learn still.
Thank you to everyone who has helped me along the way, who has supported me, bought my book and reviewed it! Your kindness has meant more than you could ever know. You amaze me.
All the best to you and yours in 2014! May it be your best year yet and may they all get better from there!!
XOXO MJ
December 12, 2013
The Sexiest Christmas Shopping Guide EVER
Hello Fellas!
For those of you who don't know me, I am MJ Summers, best-selling contemporary romance author. I have a naughty and nice present for those of you who are desperately seeking the perfect gift ideas for your special girl this Christmas.
I have selected the sexiest gifts that are sure to put a smile on her face (and yours). All of the legwork has been done for you. No need to get out of your chair even! Just click on the links below and wait for the UPS truck to arrive.
Now most of these things are to be opened at your own private holiday celebration. Get one or two items, or splurge on them all and let the fireworks begin!
Kama Sutra Massage Oil
The creme de la creme of massage oils. They have it perfected. Delicious scents and flavours, luxurious feel. Prices range from $10 - 25 depending on what you choose.
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=bl_sr_hpc?ie=UTF8&field-brandtextbin=Kama+Sutra&node=3760901
Luxury Plush Blanket
This one goes hand in hand with the massage oil. Put this over your bottom sheet using the oils. Not only will it protect your sheets, it will feel amazing at the same time. Click here for blankets priced from $49 and up.
http://www.bedbathandbeyond.ca/store/product/snowy-soft-throws/134916
We-Vibe
This product is featured on Oprah.com in a beginner's guide to erotica. The We-Vibe is considered the vibrator for couples and can greatly enhance your sexperience together. Prices range from $49 to $150 depending on which model you choose.
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=bl_sr_hpc?ie=UTF8&field-keywords=We-Vibe&node=3760901
A Sexy Novel - Break in Two This season's must have novel to set the mood. With over 120 reviews on Amazon.com and a 4.5/5 star rating overall, you can see that women (and men) are LOVING this book. I have even had women email me to tell me that they learned some new moves to try out with their husbands. (It also has a super romantic Christmas 'ahem' climax).Get the book. Pour her a glass of wine, go have a shower and see if she can make it past page 53 without giving you the nod.
Available only on Amazon, you can choose print ($12.49 USD) or kindle version ($3.89 USD). You can gift a kindle e-book quite easily. http://www.amazon.com/Break-In-Two-MJ-Summers-ebook/dp/B00GHM379G/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1386906090&sr=8-1&keywords=break+in+two
Lingerie This can be intimidating for a lot of guys, so I'm taking the guess work out of it for you with my Lingerie Buying Guide: Get the Right Size - Take a quick peek in her underwear drawer to find the sizes of a few of her bras and panties. Write it down. Most lingerie shops and websites have sizing charts to ensure the proper fit. Get Something She'll Feel Beautiful In - you might like to see her in a set of pasties and a leather thong, but she might be feeling overexposed and self-conscious. If she loves the reflection she sees in the mirror, she'll feel much less inhibited. Start by thinking about the parts of her body that she complains about:Does she hate her tummy? Choose a baby-doll fit or a merry widow (with ruching if you can find it - ruching hides all kinds of flaws) Does she wish she had bigger or perkier breasts? Go with something with a push-up bra built in (teddy, nightie, baby-doll, merry widow)Does she try to hide her thighs? Go with a slightly longer nightie. Where to buy lingerie:
If you are in the US - Victoria's Secret has got it what you want. An excellent selection that won't break the bank. http://www.victoriassecret.com/sleepwear/lingerie
If you are in Canada - la Vie en Rose is the place to go. Their lingerie fits beautifully, feels nice, is well-priced, covers what she wants to hide and shows off what you want to see. Perfection. http://www.lavieenrose.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/Category1_10052_10001_-1_5001001185_Y_image_0_LINGERIE
Visit my Pinterest Page for examples of my favourites. You can't resist, can you?
http://www.pinterest.com/mjsummersbooks/sexiest-christmas-shopping-list-ever/
I hope this is helpful for you and that you have the most romantic holiday season of all time.
Be sure to check out the rest of my posts to find out What Women REALLY Want for more tips on how to be the most romantic guy on the block (ie. the one who is always gettin' some).
Happy Shopping!MJ
For those of you who don't know me, I am MJ Summers, best-selling contemporary romance author. I have a naughty and nice present for those of you who are desperately seeking the perfect gift ideas for your special girl this Christmas.
I have selected the sexiest gifts that are sure to put a smile on her face (and yours). All of the legwork has been done for you. No need to get out of your chair even! Just click on the links below and wait for the UPS truck to arrive.
Now most of these things are to be opened at your own private holiday celebration. Get one or two items, or splurge on them all and let the fireworks begin!
Kama Sutra Massage Oil
The creme de la creme of massage oils. They have it perfected. Delicious scents and flavours, luxurious feel. Prices range from $10 - 25 depending on what you choose.
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=bl_sr_hpc?ie=UTF8&field-brandtextbin=Kama+Sutra&node=3760901
Luxury Plush Blanket
This one goes hand in hand with the massage oil. Put this over your bottom sheet using the oils. Not only will it protect your sheets, it will feel amazing at the same time. Click here for blankets priced from $49 and up.
http://www.bedbathandbeyond.ca/store/product/snowy-soft-throws/134916
We-Vibe
This product is featured on Oprah.com in a beginner's guide to erotica. The We-Vibe is considered the vibrator for couples and can greatly enhance your sexperience together. Prices range from $49 to $150 depending on which model you choose.
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=bl_sr_hpc?ie=UTF8&field-keywords=We-Vibe&node=3760901
A Sexy Novel - Break in Two This season's must have novel to set the mood. With over 120 reviews on Amazon.com and a 4.5/5 star rating overall, you can see that women (and men) are LOVING this book. I have even had women email me to tell me that they learned some new moves to try out with their husbands. (It also has a super romantic Christmas 'ahem' climax).Get the book. Pour her a glass of wine, go have a shower and see if she can make it past page 53 without giving you the nod.
Available only on Amazon, you can choose print ($12.49 USD) or kindle version ($3.89 USD). You can gift a kindle e-book quite easily. http://www.amazon.com/Break-In-Two-MJ-Summers-ebook/dp/B00GHM379G/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1386906090&sr=8-1&keywords=break+in+two
Lingerie This can be intimidating for a lot of guys, so I'm taking the guess work out of it for you with my Lingerie Buying Guide: Get the Right Size - Take a quick peek in her underwear drawer to find the sizes of a few of her bras and panties. Write it down. Most lingerie shops and websites have sizing charts to ensure the proper fit. Get Something She'll Feel Beautiful In - you might like to see her in a set of pasties and a leather thong, but she might be feeling overexposed and self-conscious. If she loves the reflection she sees in the mirror, she'll feel much less inhibited. Start by thinking about the parts of her body that she complains about:Does she hate her tummy? Choose a baby-doll fit or a merry widow (with ruching if you can find it - ruching hides all kinds of flaws) Does she wish she had bigger or perkier breasts? Go with something with a push-up bra built in (teddy, nightie, baby-doll, merry widow)Does she try to hide her thighs? Go with a slightly longer nightie. Where to buy lingerie:
If you are in the US - Victoria's Secret has got it what you want. An excellent selection that won't break the bank. http://www.victoriassecret.com/sleepwear/lingerie
If you are in Canada - la Vie en Rose is the place to go. Their lingerie fits beautifully, feels nice, is well-priced, covers what she wants to hide and shows off what you want to see. Perfection. http://www.lavieenrose.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/Category1_10052_10001_-1_5001001185_Y_image_0_LINGERIE
Visit my Pinterest Page for examples of my favourites. You can't resist, can you?
http://www.pinterest.com/mjsummersbooks/sexiest-christmas-shopping-list-ever/
I hope this is helpful for you and that you have the most romantic holiday season of all time.
Be sure to check out the rest of my posts to find out What Women REALLY Want for more tips on how to be the most romantic guy on the block (ie. the one who is always gettin' some).
Happy Shopping!MJ
December 7, 2013
Your Sexiest Christmas Ever (Part 1)
The holidays are upon us and with all the hustle and bustle, it's easy to forget all about romance. I totally understand - you're thinking about shopping, cooking, in-laws, wrapping gifts, attending Christmas parties and school plays. You might even have rolled your eyes or laughed at the idea of the 'sexiest Christmas ever'. But this time of year can be wonderfully romantic if you put yourself in the right frame of mind.
I want to invite you to squeeze in some time for romance and - of course - for sex. I have a few ideas to help you get through your Holiday To-Do List quickly so that you'll have time to cuddle up in front of the fireplace with your sweetie and share a bottle of wine.
Get things Done Ahead of Time: Nothing robs you of your mojo like rushing around like a maniac. Try shopping, wrapping and doing other prep as far ahead as possible, so you can take your time. Go for a shopping date. If you have kids, get a sitter and make an evening of it. Have your list ready to go and hit the stores together. You can have fun with it if you are in the right frame of mine. Try to keep your patience and enjoy being a team. Reward yourselves by going out for a quiet dessert or maybe even a movie if you finish early enough. You Do NOT Need to Be Sober to Wrap Presents: Make an evening of it. Grab a bottle of wine, put on a romantic movie that you love and start wrapping. If you do it a few days ahead of time, you'll know you are getting ahead of the game at the same time. Lower Your Standards: Does the house need to be absolutely spotless to have people over? What if it was just 'good enough' but you were in a great mood? I think it might be worth it.Hire it Out: If your budget isn't stretched too far this year, consider having someone come in to clean your home right before Christmas. This can save you many hours, leaving you more relaxed. The last two years, I have ordered Christmas dinner from a catering company. It isn't that much more expensive than buying all the ingredients and I was able to spend Christmas day with my kids and my husband instead of in the kitchen. On Christmas night, I didn't have achy tired feet and the feeling like I missed out on all the fun. I got to be part of it too! I let go of my ego attachment to serving a wonderful meal and just decided to enjoy. I'm planning to do it again this year. (I'll make the big meals again when my children are older).Delegate: If hiring it out isn't for you, maybe you can delegate. Are there other people in your home who can help with the preparations? If you are having relatives for a meal, can they each bring something to take the pressure off you? Don't think you have to do it all on your own, only to end up feeling resentful when the big day arrives. Take care of Yourself: What do you do to show self-care? Sleep enough, eat healthy, exercise, maybe go for a message if you can? Do those important things that keep your energy levels up and put a smile on your face. Date Night: Make a list of romantic things you want to do with your significant other and make them a priority. Go for a drive or a walk in the evening to look at the Christmas lights. Book a dinner out or have a candle-lit dinner at home. Pick a favourite movie to watch together. Snuggle up on the couch under a cozy blanket and just be together. Even if you just find the time to do one or two romantic things together in the next few weeks, it will go really far for creating wonderful, warm feelings and memories. After all, isn't love what the holidays are all about?Okay, so that's it for tonight! The babysitter just got here and my husband and I are off to do our Christmas shopping date.
Coming Soon: Part 2 of Your Sexiest Christmas Ever - and it's About to Get Hot in Here...
I want to invite you to squeeze in some time for romance and - of course - for sex. I have a few ideas to help you get through your Holiday To-Do List quickly so that you'll have time to cuddle up in front of the fireplace with your sweetie and share a bottle of wine.
Get things Done Ahead of Time: Nothing robs you of your mojo like rushing around like a maniac. Try shopping, wrapping and doing other prep as far ahead as possible, so you can take your time. Go for a shopping date. If you have kids, get a sitter and make an evening of it. Have your list ready to go and hit the stores together. You can have fun with it if you are in the right frame of mine. Try to keep your patience and enjoy being a team. Reward yourselves by going out for a quiet dessert or maybe even a movie if you finish early enough. You Do NOT Need to Be Sober to Wrap Presents: Make an evening of it. Grab a bottle of wine, put on a romantic movie that you love and start wrapping. If you do it a few days ahead of time, you'll know you are getting ahead of the game at the same time. Lower Your Standards: Does the house need to be absolutely spotless to have people over? What if it was just 'good enough' but you were in a great mood? I think it might be worth it.Hire it Out: If your budget isn't stretched too far this year, consider having someone come in to clean your home right before Christmas. This can save you many hours, leaving you more relaxed. The last two years, I have ordered Christmas dinner from a catering company. It isn't that much more expensive than buying all the ingredients and I was able to spend Christmas day with my kids and my husband instead of in the kitchen. On Christmas night, I didn't have achy tired feet and the feeling like I missed out on all the fun. I got to be part of it too! I let go of my ego attachment to serving a wonderful meal and just decided to enjoy. I'm planning to do it again this year. (I'll make the big meals again when my children are older).Delegate: If hiring it out isn't for you, maybe you can delegate. Are there other people in your home who can help with the preparations? If you are having relatives for a meal, can they each bring something to take the pressure off you? Don't think you have to do it all on your own, only to end up feeling resentful when the big day arrives. Take care of Yourself: What do you do to show self-care? Sleep enough, eat healthy, exercise, maybe go for a message if you can? Do those important things that keep your energy levels up and put a smile on your face. Date Night: Make a list of romantic things you want to do with your significant other and make them a priority. Go for a drive or a walk in the evening to look at the Christmas lights. Book a dinner out or have a candle-lit dinner at home. Pick a favourite movie to watch together. Snuggle up on the couch under a cozy blanket and just be together. Even if you just find the time to do one or two romantic things together in the next few weeks, it will go really far for creating wonderful, warm feelings and memories. After all, isn't love what the holidays are all about?Okay, so that's it for tonight! The babysitter just got here and my husband and I are off to do our Christmas shopping date.
Coming Soon: Part 2 of Your Sexiest Christmas Ever - and it's About to Get Hot in Here...
November 28, 2013
One Spicy Interview!
Hello All and Happy Thanksgiving!
I was fortunate enough to be interviewed by Simon Duringer, the King of Interviews this week. His questions were provocative, fun and thought-provoking. He had me blushing and scratching my head more than once.
He had all sorts of questions from how my book has hit #1 across the UK and Canada in the first two weeks since the release date to how well-endowed my husband is. Wasn't expecting that one!
Check it out here:
http://simonduringer.com/latest-news/simons-10-q-interview/m-j-summers/m-j-summers/
Cheers!
MJ
I was fortunate enough to be interviewed by Simon Duringer, the King of Interviews this week. His questions were provocative, fun and thought-provoking. He had me blushing and scratching my head more than once.
He had all sorts of questions from how my book has hit #1 across the UK and Canada in the first two weeks since the release date to how well-endowed my husband is. Wasn't expecting that one!
Check it out here:
http://simonduringer.com/latest-news/simons-10-q-interview/m-j-summers/m-j-summers/
Cheers!
MJ
November 23, 2013
Feeling Alive
Hi Everyone!
It is that time of year again, winter is here. If you live in a climate like mine, the weather has turned cold and the nights are much longer. It's easy to want to curl up in the house for several months and not do anything, which can lead to a case of the winter doldrums.
I wanted to share with you some ideas to help you keep that wonderful "I'm alive!" feeling that often accompanies spring and summer. I hope they help, if you are one who finds yourself feeling stressed out or lacking energy this time of year.
1) Exercise Regularly - I know, I know. It's cold and dark out and you don't want to leave the house. I feel that way sometimes when it's time for me to hit the gym or take the dog for a big walk. If you can't bring yourself to go out, workout at home. Put on some music and dance, walk up and down the stairs over and over, do some push ups, use any exercise equipment that you might have collecting dust in yourself. Even if it's just 15 minutes/day - do it. I have to remind myself that I will NEVER regret having gone, whereas if I don't go, I will ALWAYS feel like I let myself down.
Try to find something that you will love doing, maybe yoga, swimming, pilates, walking with a friend, or taking your kids tobogganing (a great way to make memories as well as get exercise).
2) Go Out With Friends - Fight the urge to sit at home. Get out with your favourite people for a coffee, walk, trip the museum, dinner, a movie, shopping or whatever you love to do in the summer. Make sure you schedule it ahead of time. It gives you something to look forward to in addition to developing those oh so important human connections (the real ones, not just the social media ones).
3) Physical Touch Helps - hugs and kisses and other ways of touching help our brains to release those feel-good chemicals. Make opportunities for touching someone you love each day. Sex is terrific for this too, so shave your legs, ladies and get busy!
4)Eat Well - I know comfort food is calling my name when the temperature drops. It's key for me to continue eating loads of fruits and veggies all year long. I don't enjoy salad as much in the winter, but I do love a healthy, hearty soup. I try to make a huge pot of vegetarian chili, minestrone or other veggie soup each week and have lots of leftovers.
5) Make a Winter "Bucket" List - Think of 10 or 20 things you want to do this winter to get you out of the house. Try a new sport such as skiing, rock-climbing, or snowshoeing. Try a new activity such as painting ceramics at a shop, learning more about photography, making Christmas ornaments, knitting or whatever you've wanted to do that you've been putting off for another time. Commit to yourself and do it.
Making sure that you have something to look forward to each week helps you to feel more alive.
As always, I wish you happiness and love!
MJ
It is that time of year again, winter is here. If you live in a climate like mine, the weather has turned cold and the nights are much longer. It's easy to want to curl up in the house for several months and not do anything, which can lead to a case of the winter doldrums.
I wanted to share with you some ideas to help you keep that wonderful "I'm alive!" feeling that often accompanies spring and summer. I hope they help, if you are one who finds yourself feeling stressed out or lacking energy this time of year.
1) Exercise Regularly - I know, I know. It's cold and dark out and you don't want to leave the house. I feel that way sometimes when it's time for me to hit the gym or take the dog for a big walk. If you can't bring yourself to go out, workout at home. Put on some music and dance, walk up and down the stairs over and over, do some push ups, use any exercise equipment that you might have collecting dust in yourself. Even if it's just 15 minutes/day - do it. I have to remind myself that I will NEVER regret having gone, whereas if I don't go, I will ALWAYS feel like I let myself down.
Try to find something that you will love doing, maybe yoga, swimming, pilates, walking with a friend, or taking your kids tobogganing (a great way to make memories as well as get exercise).
2) Go Out With Friends - Fight the urge to sit at home. Get out with your favourite people for a coffee, walk, trip the museum, dinner, a movie, shopping or whatever you love to do in the summer. Make sure you schedule it ahead of time. It gives you something to look forward to in addition to developing those oh so important human connections (the real ones, not just the social media ones).
3) Physical Touch Helps - hugs and kisses and other ways of touching help our brains to release those feel-good chemicals. Make opportunities for touching someone you love each day. Sex is terrific for this too, so shave your legs, ladies and get busy!
4)Eat Well - I know comfort food is calling my name when the temperature drops. It's key for me to continue eating loads of fruits and veggies all year long. I don't enjoy salad as much in the winter, but I do love a healthy, hearty soup. I try to make a huge pot of vegetarian chili, minestrone or other veggie soup each week and have lots of leftovers.
5) Make a Winter "Bucket" List - Think of 10 or 20 things you want to do this winter to get you out of the house. Try a new sport such as skiing, rock-climbing, or snowshoeing. Try a new activity such as painting ceramics at a shop, learning more about photography, making Christmas ornaments, knitting or whatever you've wanted to do that you've been putting off for another time. Commit to yourself and do it.
Making sure that you have something to look forward to each week helps you to feel more alive.
As always, I wish you happiness and love!
MJ
