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Telling' Stories and Confessions
I read a book a few years back called "California Schemin'" by a Scottish guy called Gavin Bain. It was a hugely entertainingstory of a young rapper and his mate who conned the music industry, gaining a record deal and big advance in the process. It was also a true story.
Gavin's new band "Hopeless Heroic" were mentioned fleetingly at the need of the book so I decided to give them a wee try. They were awesome. I posted a comment on the FB page saying so and Gavin replied. We realised we had many interests incommon and have been friends since. However the first time I met the guy, I started telling him all my past and secrets for seemingly no reason. Bless him, Gav sat there with a knowing smile on his bearded wee face, nodding along and offering his own insights. I was far from the first person to do this I suspect.
Since I wrote Paddy's Daddy each new person I've met or old friend I've re-encountered after a few years has done exactly the same thing with me. I've been given others' history, problems, worries, background and confidence. People have shared their own experience with depression either first-hand or of a partner. Sometimes I get stories shared with me that haven't been told to anyone more close to the individual in the person's life .
I do the same thing Gav did . I sit and nod. I feel for them, and am verygrateful that they'vefelt that they can trust me with their innermost thoughts.
I think we do this with people who've biographies we've read, subconsciously to even the score. I think we feel that we have the other person at a disadvantage because we know so much about their feelings, life and emotions, and we want to give them something of ourselves in return. I also think that there's something easy about confiding in someone who's been so open in their own life.
I hate my book Paddy's Daddy. I tell everyone that. It was difficult to write and I'll write some more of that story some day, but for now I never look at it. I don't understand why it seems to help people to read it, but I'm very grateful for every reader and friend who share their stories with me in response. Subconsciously or not.
Paddy's Daddy is available now on Amazon:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Paddys-Daddy-...
Gavin's book has been retitled "Straight outta' Scotland and is available on amazon:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Straight-Outt...
Gavin's new band "Hopeless Heroic" were mentioned fleetingly at the need of the book so I decided to give them a wee try. They were awesome. I posted a comment on the FB page saying so and Gavin replied. We realised we had many interests incommon and have been friends since. However the first time I met the guy, I started telling him all my past and secrets for seemingly no reason. Bless him, Gav sat there with a knowing smile on his bearded wee face, nodding along and offering his own insights. I was far from the first person to do this I suspect.
Since I wrote Paddy's Daddy each new person I've met or old friend I've re-encountered after a few years has done exactly the same thing with me. I've been given others' history, problems, worries, background and confidence. People have shared their own experience with depression either first-hand or of a partner. Sometimes I get stories shared with me that haven't been told to anyone more close to the individual in the person's life .
I do the same thing Gav did . I sit and nod. I feel for them, and am verygrateful that they'vefelt that they can trust me with their innermost thoughts.
I think we do this with people who've biographies we've read, subconsciously to even the score. I think we feel that we have the other person at a disadvantage because we know so much about their feelings, life and emotions, and we want to give them something of ourselves in return. I also think that there's something easy about confiding in someone who's been so open in their own life.
I hate my book Paddy's Daddy. I tell everyone that. It was difficult to write and I'll write some more of that story some day, but for now I never look at it. I don't understand why it seems to help people to read it, but I'm very grateful for every reader and friend who share their stories with me in response. Subconsciously or not.
Paddy's Daddy is available now on Amazon:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Paddys-Daddy-...
Gavin's book has been retitled "Straight outta' Scotland and is available on amazon:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Straight-Outt...
