Vicki Hoefle's Blog, page 24
March 22, 2013
Yo Parents! Will You Be Joining Us March 30th- POSTPONED
UPDATE: We apologize for any inconvenience but the event has been postponed until fall 2013. Please email jennifer@parentingontrack.com with questions. Thank you. Hey parents! If you can’t see the image, click the link to find out more about the RICK ACKERLY event on March 30th. OR view it on Pinterest! 
Yo Parents! Will You Be Joining Us March 30th?
Hey parents! If you can’t see the image, click the link to find out more about the RICK ACKERLY event on March 30th. OR view it on Pinterest! 
March 19, 2013
Don’t Want to Focus on Rules and Rewards? Focus on What You Want (Objectives)
In a previous post, we refreshed the topic of “internal” vs. “external” motivators and how they affect children’s learning and thinking process. There is plenty of research, from Ackerly and other experts, saying reward systems are not the way to go if you want self-regulated,(calculated) risk takers, and problem solving thinkers. This applies to home [...]
March 15, 2013
Surviving the Messiest Week of Your Life: DO NOTHING SAY NOTHING (Web Event)
On Tuesday March 19th, you’re invited to ask Vicki Hoefle YOUR questions about surviving and thriving through the Messiest Week of Your Life: Do Nothing Say Nothing. CLICK HERE to register (it’s free!). About DO NOTHING SAY NOTHING (#DNSN) In Vicki Hoefle’s book, Duct Tape Parenting: A Less is More Approach to Raising Responsible, Respectful [...]
March 12, 2013
The Questions To Keep Asking Ourselves as Parents and Educators
If we, as parents and educators, believe that every child is driven by an internal “genius” – an energy that naturally, without adult steering, will lead toward the discovery of the true “self” – then it is essential to keep asking ourselves, with every activity, lesson or during the daily grind: What is the goal [...]
March 9, 2013
Duct Tape Update: What Happened AFTER Her Brother Shaved Her Head?
Drumroll… IT GREW BACK! Highlight for mom: Because she chose to “duct tape” her reactions, she enhanced the relationship with her child. She let the lesson run its course, and her daughter accepted the “natural consequences” of shaving her head! Highlight for Lily: Well, it was “fun” having her brother buzz it, but “it didn’t [...]
March 7, 2013
The Hidden (Awesome) Outcomes of Internal Motivation (Infographic)
Children naturally enjoy doing valuable work and are not afraid to make mistakes- they learn to discover success through feedback from peers, teachers, materials and so forth (not just because they follow rules or get a sticker). When nurtured, respected and trusted, internal motivation leads to the same desired outcome: positive or “good” behavior. Beyond [...]
March 5, 2013
The Hidden Outcomes of External Motivation (Infographic)
When discussing both education and parenting, motivation is a recurring theme. What, at its core, motivates children to not only learn but to behave with respect and kindness? How do teachers motivate learners while adhering to school rules and standardized testing? How do parents motivate children to do their chores and cooperate in the family? [...]
February 27, 2013
Thieves of Discovery: Goodies and Punishments and Stickers, OH MY
If you have a child in school, then you may know first-hand how schools are employing external motivators (both positive and negative) to entice our kids into doing their homework, following playground rules and behaving appropriately in the classroom. You may have seen the latest and greatest star charts, GOOD JOB stickers, goodies, currency (allowing [...]
February 21, 2013
Are you Nurturing the Genius in YOUR Child?
Every child, according to Rick Ackerly, is born with a guiding energy or “genius” that drives the child on a grand quest to the discovery of his or her authentic “self”. This “genius” or curiosity “spark” is what propels children to naturally enjoy learning how to participate intellectually, socially, emotionally and physically with the world. This [...]
