Patrik Olterman Rodhe's Blog, page 8

It’s not about sex

In the past week I have been in countless conversations about mine and Hanna’s chosen path. For the most part it has been deep and meaningful conversations where some parts of our journey and the sharing of it has been deeply healing for someone. Some conversations have been less than friendly and a very small portion downright hostile. What all these conversations have had in common is that they all centre around sex.

Granted I talk about sex and sexuality a lot, I write about it even more....

How tantra saved our marriage

Anyone that was around when Hanna and I met knows that we had such an energetic attraction that generated sparks. And anyone we ever met assumed that when we got married that vibrant passion was carried into the marriage and into the bedroom with us.

Nothing could be further from the truth. From our wedding night sex just didn’t work right. It was awkward and not at all passionate. It was physically impossible at times as our bodies tried to tell us to change something. So we did what any Chr...

Holiness and wholeness

Holiness is a big deal. It is the purpose of the Christian spiritual path. For some the word means sin-free for others it means living according to specific rules and having ordered your life in a specific way. For me Holiness means coming home. To be united with the divine spirit of love and to truly be myself, my true self.

“For me to be a saint means to be myself. Therefore the problem of sanctity and salvation is in fact the problem of finding out who I am and of discovering my true self...

It’s happening!

After years of people telling us week in and week out, and after long contemplation, and after much soul searching, prayer, conversation and just a little bit of divine intervention we have decided to do it!

It was simply a coincidence that we ran into an old friend who asked if we had been in contact with MCC. And as we contacted them it became obvious to them and to us that it was a divinely inspired encounter.

We are starting a new church in Malmö! MCC Malmö will be a community church focu...

Why I am religious AND spiritual

It has become very popular in the west to state that one is “spiritual and not religious”. For years I have felt that Religion was a bad thing and that religious was a derogatory term.

For me religion was all the man made traditions and customs that many times where contradictory to scripture and inhibiting the leading of spirit. So when people asked me if I was religious I would say no.

I would rebel against the “minister of religion” title and like Hanna I would say that I am not here to se...

We are the dead

Halloween has just passed and as little ghosts and skeletons have been in and out our door in a quest for excitement and candy we have been clearing out som skeletons out of our closet.

In many ways it has been the death of the old story, the old life and the old paradigm. Clearing out the old rotting story and ideas out of the closet and airing out the stink. To make room for something new, something alive and vibrant.

At the heart of our pirate theology is this idea of death as the liberato...

Coming out …

Yesterday was a bit of a coming out process for me. The minute after I hit the publish key on my blog post was filled with a sense of immense release and freedom followed by “Oh my god, what have I done?”.

For a moment I thought maybe not so many people would read it and it would pass by unnoticed but then it quickly became clear that was not going to be the case as my WordPress reported over and over again that I was generating high traffic on the site. After half the day we had hit highest...

Our sacred journey

So if you have been reading my blog for a while you know that over the last couple of years I have deconstructed my faith and the Christian tradition me and Hanna have belonged to. This has included deconstructing our sexuality and the institution of marriage.

This has led to the transformation of our faith and our entire worldview. Such a change also results in real changes in the way that we choose to live our lives, show up in the world and manifest our future.

Radical honesty

To start w...

How to really touch someone

So I am hearing a lot of women say: He just doesn’t know how to touch me. Touch is one of our most basic forms of communication and is so important. It is at the very base of the mallow pyramid and one of our deepest needs. So here are some tips on how to touch.

Touch with consent

Don’t just grab somebody without their consent. Ask: May I touch you? Make sure you have their permission. This is crucial, in to much of our lives we have given up control and delegated responsibility to others, b...

Yes, you are decent people, but that is not what I had in mind

The words are from a poem written by a Hassidic mystic as he was adressing his disciples. So many times we confuse the call of religion with the call of society, to become decent, functional people.

If our idea of following the spiritual path is to become successful or to fit in to today’s society we are not following the voice of spirit but rather the spirit of the world.

The goal is not to become nice, or decent in fact if we turn to the Judeo-Christian texts it seems the opposite. The Navi...