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Loren A. Olson

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Dr. Loren A. Olson was born in Nebraska in 1943, and as former Nebraska senator Bob Kerry said, “Do you think anyone in his right mind would choose to be gay in Nebraska?” He struggled to be straight but eventually lost that fight when he was forty years old, when he left his wife and kids to declare somewhat quietly at first that he is gay.

Dr. Olson counseled his friends for years before realizing that it was possible to make a living practicing psychiatry. Although he sought to maintain a low profile as a psychiatrist, his colleagues made him a Distinguished Life Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association, the National Alliance for Mental Illness named him an Exemplary Psychiatrist, and he inexplicably received awards for his writing.
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Loren A. Olson Write SOMETHING!

I frequently hear from people who say, "I should write a book," but they haven't written anything. They write it over and over in the…more
Write SOMETHING!

I frequently hear from people who say, "I should write a book," but they haven't written anything. They write it over and over in their heads but commit nothing to paper.

I encourage people to write "stream of consciousness." Just put down all of your thoughts and let it flow. Don't edit. Don't censor.

Writing should come from a place of emotion. Editing is an analytical process that engages a different part of the brain.

After you have that "shitty first draft" you can begin to edit. In the process, you are learning to be a better writer. You learn the skills of writing. You can replace forms of "to be" with verbs that bring excitement and emotion. You can add descriptive words that will allow the reader to visualize what you've seen. But for me, all of that comes after I have something concrete that I can work with.

After I have the first revised draft, I often use the "Read aloud" function on MS Word. You hear the rhythm of our writing. You hear mistakes that you can no longer see. You can listen to the flow of the writing.

After that revision, I have someone else read it and comment.(less)
Loren A. Olson The best part of being a writer is hearing back from a reader who says, "I feel like you know me." So often, My readers believe that they come to my b…moreThe best part of being a writer is hearing back from a reader who says, "I feel like you know me." So often, My readers believe that they come to my books for answers, but in fact, what they come for is to feel that they are not so alone. Pain envelopes them and they come for some hope.

I write with a conversational tone so that readers find it easier to related.

One of the best blurbs I've received for my new book, NO MORE NECKTIES:

Olson manages to tell his stories in a way that will help you see yourself and those around you with more compassion and care. Grab a cup of coffee and a slice of banana bread for what feels more like a conversation with an old friend than a book with a beginning and end.
----Carly Thomsen, Ph.D, Author of Visibility Interrupted: Rural Queer Life and the Politics of Unbecoming(less)
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From D. Donovan, Senior Reviewer, Midwest Book Review.

Readers of essays about psychiatry, aging, and life changes will find Dr. Loren A. Olson's No More Neckties a fine blend of medical and personal memoir.

It compliments the prior book, Finally Out, with a focus on Olson's evolving life, from family secrets and forming relationships within the gay community to sexual and social revelations that in Read more of this blog post »
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“some men expressed the view that it can be easier to come out as gay in their communities of faith than to come out as religiously oriented in the gay community. . . To suggest that people must choose between their sexual orientation or their religious beliefs can only prolong their internal dissonance.”
Loren A. Olson, Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight, a Psychiatrist's Own Story

“When reason and passion battle, passion often wins.”
Loren A. Olson, Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight, a Psychiatrist's Own Story

“As a psychiatrist, I have learned to tell my patients who are dealing with significant life conflicts to simplify the decision-making process. We have only three options: change it, put up with it, or get out. In most cases one of those three options can be eliminated immediately. Since attraction to someone of the same sex is not going to change, a married man [or woman] is only left with suffering through it or getting out.”
Loren A. Olson, Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight, a Psychiatrist's Own Story

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“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
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“There are many things worth living for, a few things worth dying for, and nothing worth killing for.”
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“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.”
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“Love sucks. Sometimes it feels good. Sometimes it's just another way to bleed.”
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“Of course I’ll hurt you. Of course you’ll hurt me. Of course we will hurt each other. But this is the very condition of existence. To become spring, means accepting the risk of winter. To become presence, means accepting the risk of absence.”
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message 4: by Rick

Rick McGranahan Loren,
thanx for requestin friends babe! stop by and see my memoir Visiting the Ghost of Puppyboy !
www.rickmcg.webs.com


Andrew Ashling Thanks for the friend invite, Loren.


message 2: by Angel

Angel Hi Loren, thank you so much for accepting my friend request. I enjoyed reading your profile and especially your blog.

Take care


Aleksandr Voinov Hi Loren, thanks for reaching out. I'm honored.


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