Sonya Visor's Blog, page 4
December 31, 2015
hard lessons in 2015
This has been a memorable year, with so many lessons that changed my life. But, I want to talk about three in particular. I had to learn (still in the process) the "art of letting go" of people and situations. Bite into the tough cookie of, "keeping a good attitude" during persecution was a rocky road to battle. The most horrible ride full of bumps, knocks and bruises was to stop being Ms. Fix-It! I'm telling you this process was something special and I will be sure to come back and share with you in a few hours of 2016.
One thing I can say now, is each one of those lessons were needed to move forward in my life. #EndOfTheYearThoughts #6:30P.M.
Stay tuned for more.... :-)
One thing I can say now, is each one of those lessons were needed to move forward in my life. #EndOfTheYearThoughts #6:30P.M.
Stay tuned for more.... :-)
November 26, 2015
Thank-full
I'm thankful to celebrate a wonderful Thanksgiving with family and friends. Today it was truly a blessing to see so many "I'm thankful" post on social media but I must ask, is it only for one day?
It is my prayer that I exchange my complaining for more thanks-giving. Because the truth is, I know I could be MORE thankful. I understand being caught up in the holiday spirit with the family, fellowship and good food because I get into it, as well. In fact, I love family time and the laughter we share with one another. But what happens when the family goes home, the activities are over and you can't make any more food trips? Will we only be stuffed because we only had emotional thanksgiving and not spiritual thanksgiving? My question is for us to search and find out if we are merely giving empty words...
Go with me for a minute.
I no longer want my heart full of emotion because emotions change repeatedly without any warning. Believe me, I know all about the emotional-roller-coaster-ride. It's time to flow in the fullness of heart thanksgiving. What do I mean? Well, just like we filled up our tummies with physical food, we need to fill up our spiritual tank with thanks giving unto God. Becoming FULL of His goodness.
I'm convinced if we do this we will starve our complaints and our language will change, becoming more pleasing to God. Being more thankful will squash negativity designed to rob from us due to our complaining. Thanksgiving unto God is two-fold. It gives to Him and then He blesses us because we operating in His will; one of a thankful heart. That's the Kingdom way.
I challenge you to join me. Even in the midst of bad, there's some good. Find things all throughout the day to get thankful for. It will bless your life because you'll be filled with thanks giving with no room to feed the complaints. Instead, you and I choose life filled words of thanks! Lord, I thank you. All day, everyday.
Be FULL of thanks!
God bless you :-)
It is my prayer that I exchange my complaining for more thanks-giving. Because the truth is, I know I could be MORE thankful. I understand being caught up in the holiday spirit with the family, fellowship and good food because I get into it, as well. In fact, I love family time and the laughter we share with one another. But what happens when the family goes home, the activities are over and you can't make any more food trips? Will we only be stuffed because we only had emotional thanksgiving and not spiritual thanksgiving? My question is for us to search and find out if we are merely giving empty words...
Go with me for a minute.
I no longer want my heart full of emotion because emotions change repeatedly without any warning. Believe me, I know all about the emotional-roller-coaster-ride. It's time to flow in the fullness of heart thanksgiving. What do I mean? Well, just like we filled up our tummies with physical food, we need to fill up our spiritual tank with thanks giving unto God. Becoming FULL of His goodness.
I'm convinced if we do this we will starve our complaints and our language will change, becoming more pleasing to God. Being more thankful will squash negativity designed to rob from us due to our complaining. Thanksgiving unto God is two-fold. It gives to Him and then He blesses us because we operating in His will; one of a thankful heart. That's the Kingdom way.
I challenge you to join me. Even in the midst of bad, there's some good. Find things all throughout the day to get thankful for. It will bless your life because you'll be filled with thanks giving with no room to feed the complaints. Instead, you and I choose life filled words of thanks! Lord, I thank you. All day, everyday.
Be FULL of thanks!
God bless you :-)
October 31, 2015
an escape, if only for one night
On Halloween people all over the world are celebrating a holiday that gives them the liberty to become anything they want. They're welcome to portray whatsoever to the world. So, people decorate, ready to frighten, dress up, create costumes, purchase masks and masquerade at the party in a chosen role for fun.
I must admit I saw some creative, bold, honorable and adorable costumes today on social media. Some of the costumes even made me laugh, jump, ooh and ahh they were so good. There were people preparing for parties, best costume contests and making great snack ideas! I mean people went all out this year. It was almost as festive, if not more, as the Christmas season. This concerns me.
Why? The truth of the matter is, although most are simply having fun, many are feeding a need that they didn't know existed within the soul. Many have heard of satanic rituals and sacrifices performed only on Halloween night, but they choose to not think about that aspect. It's easier that way. Whether its acknowledged or not there's more to the day than candy and a great costume; there's an evil in the atmosphere. The deal is to know who's side you are on...
It's dangerous ground to hide behind a mask... if only for one night.
Masking is dear to my heart because I masked everyday hiding until set free-to-be-me. I didn't need a national holiday to become "someone" else because I wore a mask to survive. Being me was too overwhelming at the time, so I lived behind walls I created for protection. Eventually, the mask has to come off OR you die trying to live.
What happens at midnight or when the party is over?
I wonder how some of the adults will be when they take off their costumes tonight. Will they be glad to step back into their own lives after having a little fun? Or will depression loom because the masquerade is over and now they have to find other means to hide who they are? It could be quite devastating for some people to come back to their reality.
Probably not too many think along these lines because it's an innocent act to "dress up". Perhaps, that's true for the children. But for the adults it could be a different story if they have used the party to get away and pretend. People are dying to escape their lives because they feel helpless and don't know which way to go.
I knew which way to go, but it took me a while to get there. Jesus is the way to becoming the true person who doesn't need a mask, an excuse or an escape route. Jesus is the escape, the route because He IS life.
This is not judgement on people who dressed up today, but its to expose motives in the lives of people who think they could never be free. It's a lie I once lived but now know the truth.
Only a person who wears a mask know the reason(s) why they do.
I must admit I saw some creative, bold, honorable and adorable costumes today on social media. Some of the costumes even made me laugh, jump, ooh and ahh they were so good. There were people preparing for parties, best costume contests and making great snack ideas! I mean people went all out this year. It was almost as festive, if not more, as the Christmas season. This concerns me.
Why? The truth of the matter is, although most are simply having fun, many are feeding a need that they didn't know existed within the soul. Many have heard of satanic rituals and sacrifices performed only on Halloween night, but they choose to not think about that aspect. It's easier that way. Whether its acknowledged or not there's more to the day than candy and a great costume; there's an evil in the atmosphere. The deal is to know who's side you are on...
It's dangerous ground to hide behind a mask... if only for one night.
Masking is dear to my heart because I masked everyday hiding until set free-to-be-me. I didn't need a national holiday to become "someone" else because I wore a mask to survive. Being me was too overwhelming at the time, so I lived behind walls I created for protection. Eventually, the mask has to come off OR you die trying to live.
What happens at midnight or when the party is over?
I wonder how some of the adults will be when they take off their costumes tonight. Will they be glad to step back into their own lives after having a little fun? Or will depression loom because the masquerade is over and now they have to find other means to hide who they are? It could be quite devastating for some people to come back to their reality.
Probably not too many think along these lines because it's an innocent act to "dress up". Perhaps, that's true for the children. But for the adults it could be a different story if they have used the party to get away and pretend. People are dying to escape their lives because they feel helpless and don't know which way to go.
I knew which way to go, but it took me a while to get there. Jesus is the way to becoming the true person who doesn't need a mask, an excuse or an escape route. Jesus is the escape, the route because He IS life.
This is not judgement on people who dressed up today, but its to expose motives in the lives of people who think they could never be free. It's a lie I once lived but now know the truth.
Only a person who wears a mask know the reason(s) why they do.
June 30, 2015
Sex and the Church Girl
Sex and the Church Girl
By Sonya Visor
How do you stop something that feels so good to your body, but is bad for your soul?
It’s the ongoing battle of the struggling Christian woman--fornication. You have tried to endure and wait for the man of your prayers, but nothing has happened yet. Even though you are all-together-tired, you continue to remain faithful and strive to keep your promise before God, "Lord, I'll wait."
After many tears, watching other couples, words of encouragement and prayers, you meet someone. You begin to spend ample time with him, share your dreams, goals and then bam, it happens! An "innocent" touch awakens your sexual appetite and the door is cracked. If the truth is all-the-way told, it didn't take much to open the door. All of the suppressed “trying to be good” unction’s surface and your feelings bounce all over the place to have the attention of the opposite sex. You were fine until the holding hands and snuggling began. A huge no-no, you’ were too close, but that's a different blog! Lol.
Soon you are daydreaming, hearing wedding bells and all because of some unchecked "feelings" which caused your guard to be down. Not long after, you wonder or maybe even ask God if he is the one? Your feelings tell you, “Yes!” However, all along the way of getting to know this person there are horns blaring, whistles blowing, and angels yelling, "Run!. But, the urges, the chemistry (lust) become stronger, the body aches and craves for him, to be everything you've imagined. You've convinced yourself that he's the one and now no one else can tell you otherwise.
Your witness, the Holy Spirit, is out for the count because the flesh is in control. The Lord will not go against your will. So, you go there, you surrender and allow your flesh to speak for you. You give in first to yourself, then to him...
The entire time, there's a no, in your head, but your body reaches for the yes, by allowing him to undress you. In the back of our minds we think, "well, he did this" and then "he did that” to release yourself from some of the blame. But, ultimately, it was you who allowed yourself to be taken into the moment. You shut everything down, but the hormones raging to receive this love you yearn, needed and deserved. Now, it's over...
Was it even worth it? Did it live up to the hype?
Let’s be real for a minute and answer a few tough questions.
How do you feel inwardly when it’s over? Is there any guilt, shame, or the least favorite—are you still lonely when the act is over? Does your partner disengage afterward? Do you feel used? Are you having mixed feelings; you feel bad, but… Or maybe, you don’t experience any negative feelings at all. If this is the case then you need to check your heart with God. If you experience one or more of the above mentioned, then you need to ask yourself why you continue to allow your body to be used and your mind abused. This is a powerful question because there is a root cause.
The ultimate reason is simply—self. There has to be an inner love issue of conflict going on. We often tend to only think about our needs, desires, and happiness. But, if the truth be told we rob ourselves when we settle on the Ishmael--counterfeit when we could have had Isaac—the promise.
I know it’s hard for a sexually alive, vibrant person to hold on and hold out until they receive the answer to their prayers. After falling into this trap myself, I’d rather had waited and kept myself, a Queen, for my King. Now, don’t get me wrong, you are still a Queen after the fall. But you must ask yourself, how many times am I willing to take off my crown?
Pick up your crown and position it properly, in Christ, because you will walk differently with the crown on. The way to keep your crown on is by guarding your heart with the Word and having a prayer life. Talk to God. Seriously, if you don’t know your worth, most won’t tell you. If anything they will lower your worth by the actions produced in the natural. It will take a moment to build oneself back up, but it can be done. God's the One who knows the true gem that you are. He's just trying to get you to see it from His perspective. If you can trust God with your heart and body, you will run into the one who’s ordained for you.
Believe me, a King recognizes and wants a Queen by his side. A woman who knows her worth is a powerful asset to a true man of God. Your mistakes don’t determine your outcome unless you allow it. Put your crown on, Girl!
You are a treasure—because you are worth the wait!
King James Bible
But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.
2 Corinthians 13:5
Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you--unless, of course, you fail the test?
By Sonya Visor
How do you stop something that feels so good to your body, but is bad for your soul?
It’s the ongoing battle of the struggling Christian woman--fornication. You have tried to endure and wait for the man of your prayers, but nothing has happened yet. Even though you are all-together-tired, you continue to remain faithful and strive to keep your promise before God, "Lord, I'll wait."
After many tears, watching other couples, words of encouragement and prayers, you meet someone. You begin to spend ample time with him, share your dreams, goals and then bam, it happens! An "innocent" touch awakens your sexual appetite and the door is cracked. If the truth is all-the-way told, it didn't take much to open the door. All of the suppressed “trying to be good” unction’s surface and your feelings bounce all over the place to have the attention of the opposite sex. You were fine until the holding hands and snuggling began. A huge no-no, you’ were too close, but that's a different blog! Lol.
Soon you are daydreaming, hearing wedding bells and all because of some unchecked "feelings" which caused your guard to be down. Not long after, you wonder or maybe even ask God if he is the one? Your feelings tell you, “Yes!” However, all along the way of getting to know this person there are horns blaring, whistles blowing, and angels yelling, "Run!. But, the urges, the chemistry (lust) become stronger, the body aches and craves for him, to be everything you've imagined. You've convinced yourself that he's the one and now no one else can tell you otherwise.
Your witness, the Holy Spirit, is out for the count because the flesh is in control. The Lord will not go against your will. So, you go there, you surrender and allow your flesh to speak for you. You give in first to yourself, then to him...
The entire time, there's a no, in your head, but your body reaches for the yes, by allowing him to undress you. In the back of our minds we think, "well, he did this" and then "he did that” to release yourself from some of the blame. But, ultimately, it was you who allowed yourself to be taken into the moment. You shut everything down, but the hormones raging to receive this love you yearn, needed and deserved. Now, it's over...
Was it even worth it? Did it live up to the hype?
Let’s be real for a minute and answer a few tough questions.
How do you feel inwardly when it’s over? Is there any guilt, shame, or the least favorite—are you still lonely when the act is over? Does your partner disengage afterward? Do you feel used? Are you having mixed feelings; you feel bad, but… Or maybe, you don’t experience any negative feelings at all. If this is the case then you need to check your heart with God. If you experience one or more of the above mentioned, then you need to ask yourself why you continue to allow your body to be used and your mind abused. This is a powerful question because there is a root cause.
The ultimate reason is simply—self. There has to be an inner love issue of conflict going on. We often tend to only think about our needs, desires, and happiness. But, if the truth be told we rob ourselves when we settle on the Ishmael--counterfeit when we could have had Isaac—the promise.
I know it’s hard for a sexually alive, vibrant person to hold on and hold out until they receive the answer to their prayers. After falling into this trap myself, I’d rather had waited and kept myself, a Queen, for my King. Now, don’t get me wrong, you are still a Queen after the fall. But you must ask yourself, how many times am I willing to take off my crown?
Pick up your crown and position it properly, in Christ, because you will walk differently with the crown on. The way to keep your crown on is by guarding your heart with the Word and having a prayer life. Talk to God. Seriously, if you don’t know your worth, most won’t tell you. If anything they will lower your worth by the actions produced in the natural. It will take a moment to build oneself back up, but it can be done. God's the One who knows the true gem that you are. He's just trying to get you to see it from His perspective. If you can trust God with your heart and body, you will run into the one who’s ordained for you.
Believe me, a King recognizes and wants a Queen by his side. A woman who knows her worth is a powerful asset to a true man of God. Your mistakes don’t determine your outcome unless you allow it. Put your crown on, Girl!
You are a treasure—because you are worth the wait!
King James Bible
But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.
2 Corinthians 13:5
Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you--unless, of course, you fail the test?
