Sonya Visor's Blog, page 3

what's gnawing at you?

​Have you ever said you were over something but it gnawed at you? Yep, me too. 

Later, be ready to deal with how to get over "it". Yes, it's time to place a period instead of a comma on the things rolling around in your mind. Dealing with it is parallel to putting in work. It requires you to call things what they truly are.

Freedom starts with truth. You can only work-it-out if you are willing to be honest about where you are. If not, it's just another lie to mask behind. Take my word, it robs you of more than I can express.

What ever your  it  is, if you are ready to release the cares, "weights" that drain your life, come back (Yes, you have to come back :-) and get the nuggets God has for you.

If you utilize them, you will be able to unclog your mind. Freedom in God is priceless and worth the work to become your true you. 
​Prepare your heart now, to receive from God later. I promise, God will be in the midst.

#Truu
#WalkingItOutDaily

so, you know better than me - part 2

I mean come on really, do I know better than God? Maybe you do? Is there anyone who knows better than God?

The answer is a resounding no.

So please tell me why I thought my wonderful idea would work and God's way wouldn't make the cut? I know, right. God. Almighty. Fail? Uh, never that. But that's exactly what it comes down to.

I thought I could go around God's "Let it be" response and "handle" things more effectively and quicker than God's plan. Boy did I set myself up for huge disappointment. Being out side of God's timing is a major gamble because I had some serious consequences to pay. (As I stated in Part 1, I should have listened.) This is exactly where not trusting God will take you.

I must have thought I was standing next to God in the throne room to override the King’s decision. Even the angels have better sense than that. Who in the world do I think I am to bypass God's command and think it wouldn't cost me anything?

That’s just it; I wasn’t thinking but responding out of emotion. One way or another, disobedience always cost something. My decision affected other people's lives, as well as my own.

Now did I mean to jump out here on my own? No, because I thought I was "helping" God. (Like, He needed my assistance). I made the situation ten times worse because I traveled outside of God's plan for one reason--selfishness.

See, I didn't want a by-and-by prayer, I wanted my now answer. Because I didn't see God do anything, so I took matters into my own hands. Not realizing God had indeed moved, it just wasn’t the answer I was looking for. It's the truth. This hurt me because this isn’t my first lesson in this area.

Let me tell you, my decision wasn't worth the agony, stress and emotional roller coaster I set in motion because I couldn't trust God to handle things. My aim was low; when I should have been looking high. God’s ways are never like ours because He Is God. He knows best. He knows what’s best for us. I know I will think more than once about playing God. 

I pray that you will join me because God really does have the master plan. After all, He’s the Master. Will you trust God to MOVE without interference from you? I shared with you to help you recognize your "let it be" situations. It's time to discern when to be still until God tells us to move.

Be Your TruU by trusting God

Isaiah 55:
 8 ¶For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord.

 9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.

so, you know better than me?

A little while ago, I was sitting on the couch about to send a text when I heard the Lord say, "Leave it be...."

I dismissed what I heard and basically ignored him as He repeated himself. (Him being, Almighty, All-Knowing and All-Powerful). I pretended like I didn't hear the Lord and kept on putting my text together. I felt the inward pause, I recognize the pause, I preach about the pause but I pushed pass the pause; with good intentions, of course. Why in the world would I do this, I know better?

The moment I pushed the send button something shifted.

All world-confusion and discord broke out into the lives involved. Now, I'm in a state of agony from a self-inflicted wound. Lord. Why. Didn't. I. Listen? (See, now, I'm calling on the Lord) There's no way to get the text back. There are no do-overs in text-nology. No one has created an app to retrieve-a-text and fix this, even though there's an app for everything else. No. I'm stuck. Left to deal with consequences of the decision I made to send the text, when the Lord repeatedly tried to intervene.

Heavy sigh. Why? Because I know why I did it.

It's the same reason you ignore His voice. I will be back later to talk about it in part two. In the mean time, think about the "why" to see if we both are on the same page.

Always Be TruU
#Unmasked
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GOD'S WORD® Translation
Scripture says, "If you hear God speak today, don't be stubborn. Don't be stubborn like those who rebelled."

Unapologetically, your truu

What does Your TruU really mean?

Well, lets talk about it. Because it took me years to start the process of becoming my true person. To be real-real about it, it took far too long. See, I've wasted so much time caring the burden of what people think and people pleasing. These are two heavy spirits that have at one time dominated my life until I healed from the process of unmasking. I had to learn (in some cases, still learning) how to no longer apologize for who I am. No longer adjust to fit the people, situation or their opinions.

I mean why was it always me adjusting and no one else? There's no one to blame anyone but myself for masking to please others. When I mask, hid my feelings and acted like everything was alright but it really wasn't it became easier to do. This subject is deep and wide and I'm speaking in general, giving the basics.

So many people have heard about masking but not too many want to go through the process to keep the mask off. So, they settle right there; hiding behind their safe place. In this place, they will never be their true person because who can see a hidden soul? The face that's being shown is a false and will be mistaken identity. To unmask is to be the real you in all situations.

There's a reason why people mask. It's up to you to find the root of why you do.​ Why be sorry for who you are? If you are always apologizing because people don't get you, it's time to re-think this thing. It's time to be true to yourself and be the God given gift you are, around people who will accept you. And if they don't, you are okay with it. That is when you know you are on the road to becoming unapologetically your true you.





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take a step up in line

Why don’t you take a step up?

For too many seasons, I would take a step back in line instead of taking a step forward declaring "it’s my turn". I will use a grocery store analogy but I’m speaking spiritually. Most of the time, I would be polite and allow others to cut while I continuously hold my items waiting for my turn to check out of the line. When, in actuality, I could have checked out five people ago and on my way home; toward my destiny. Well, maybe not five people but you get what I'm saying.

Are you like that too? Watching other people move up, taking your place because you stepped aside and they didn't even ask you to. The people check out, get their goods and go on about their business; while you are still standing there?

I mean, if you’re going to step aside, moving back even; not many people will give up a free space to save time. Of course, people will step right on in, while you and I constantly allow ourselves to stay in neutral. Have you had enough? Are you tired yet?

To be honest, I didn’t realize I was moving backwards by standing still. I saw myself “helping others” but hindering my progress. I’m the kind of person who wants everybody blessed. If I can help you, I will. However, this has gotten me into trouble and taken advantage of on countless days. But with these hard lessons, God kept me through it all.

I'm so thankful I realize that it's okay for me to be blessed, allowing my light to shine. Using the gifts God has given me. No more shrinking back to make others feel better. Shoot, we all have gifts. Are you using yours? If you grind in your own line, you won’t have to worry about somebody else’s.

People are either for you or against you, and you know what?  It's not my problem. Nor, is it my business what they think of me. I’ve wasted too much time worrying about this kind of Mickey Mouse stuff. I’ve given up too many spaces in my line but no more. Are you with me?

If you’re one of those people who have no idea what I’m talking about, good for you honey. Help somebody else move forward, as you continue to stand and shine. But if you are one of the allow-folk-to-cut people, it's not God's plan for you and I to keep giving up our spot. Help yourself stand up by changing your mind. You have the goods on the inside.

​No longer should we toss our pearls to the swine. Recklessly, giving our valuable kindness and goodness to those who can’t even appreciate the gesture.  This is biblical. No, please don’t be bitter but use Godly wisdom. Ask God for it.

I'm humbly learning my worth on so many levels because my tank had run low. Now, I've seen my error and I embrace my place in line. I’m standing there. So when it's time for me to "check out" I take my turn and it's alright. :-) Why? Because we are all in line. You must ask yourself, "Am I moving forward, keeping my place?" Or “Am I allowing others to cut because I think I'm unworthy and not ready for my ordained place?"

In your heart, you know the truth. So tell yourself. Whatever it is? Be TruU with it. After all, we've wasted too much time stepping back. Deal with the truth and step up in Christ. Go on, move on up. :-)

Peace, Love and Joy abundantly to you!

Matthew 7:6
New International Version
"Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.
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James 1:5
New International Version
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
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are you too nice?

Are you too nice?

To me, this is some-kind-of question. I mean seriously, isn't being nice a good thing? It is. That's what I used to think. I had the Rodney King mindset, "Can we all just get along?" When the nice thing is robbed; it is no longer ​good or right.

I know for a fact that I sometimes have the "too-nice" syndrome. People tend to mistake it for weakness, but actually it's a strength. It takes strength to not retaliate when others mistreat you because they feel they have the right. Who gave them permission? It's sad to say, we are partly the blame.

I learned a long time ago, hurting people hurt people. It's like they are walking wounded and bleeding, ultimately spilling all over you. The "too-nice' person find themselves trying to patch up their wounds, only to realize you've been cut by their scars of life. Most "nicey-nice" people are fixers, they want to help everybody stand up and do well. Sometimes, at the cost of putting themselves in harm's way.

My friend always tries to convince me that people don't really know what they are doing.​ Although this could be true, some are oblivious to how obnoxious they are. But then, there are those who know exactly what they are doing and don't care that you know this.

It wouldn't be right not to have those who feel entitled to treat people how they want. Meaning, some people feel "you owe them" so they trample your goodness. Isn't that something? They actually believe you deserve what they dish out. Yes, I believe some of these acts are on purpose because people know the kind of heart the "nice' people have. A tolerable one.
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People with the right kind of balance wouldn't put up with the kind of mess that "nice syndrome" people take. They have it correct, why go around and stay around people who bring you down? What exactly are they serving at your table, to the relationship?

There are many reasons for why people don't do right by others. The last question is, how do you respond to their treatment? Are you hurt, sad or mad? Are you angry with yourself for allowing foolishness toward you? Where does their behavior take you in your heart and mind?

Search your heart, because that's what you can control, to see what is really going on. There's a reason why we allow people to treat us a certain way.

When you discover this, you will be able to balance yourself. Ask God to show you. Then you will No longer cast your pearls (your gift, acts of kindness) to the swine. You will rightfully divide when and where to sow your goodness. You will sow it in a place that can thrive and your peace restored.

Choose this day who you allow to trample all over your life, leaving you there to pick up the pieces.

spring break

A change is in the air, somethings happening and it's far deeper than the grass flourishing and the flowers blooming.

Spring break can launch newness, a rebirth, a renewal, a rediscovery and dedication of who you are in God. There's a prophecy that has gone forth proclaiming that God is separating the sheep from the goat. He's exposing who's, who. It's time to decide who's side you and I are on. Who has power over your life? Are you functioning from the camp of darkness or from the Kingdom of Light (God)?

The choice is yours. Whether you announce it to the world or sit in silence, there's a decision made. The question is, can YOU live with the God you choose?

Be blessed.

it's got to drop!

There's no more life when a plant dries out. There's nothing left but a crispy, crunchy shriveled matter which has no other choice but to drop and fall down to the ground.

Why? The water, the source of its life, is no longer flowing. For whatever reason, light, watering and nourishment has no choice but to dry up the life. The plant can't sustain itself, it has to be fed. This concept is applied to several things because it is the law of nature, agriculture, but you know I want to take it to the spiritual life.

There's something that just keeps coming up in my spirit, if you keep doing the right thing the wrong thing will fall off. I believe it, I've tried it and I know it works. However, consistency is the key element.

Are there some things in your life that need correcting? Changed? Maybe, you have something that needs to die off? How do you plan to go about adjusting your life to rid yourself of the wrong? I can tell you this. If you keep feeding what you want to go away, it will grow up strong, rooted deep in your life. But if you starve it, it will surely shrivel and die. Possibly, taking you down in the process.

Things thrive when nurtured and fed. This works both in the negative, as well as the positive stream. In other words, your actions enforce the good or strengthened the bad to work in your life. You determine the outcome by what you do. Your actions speak louder than anything you can ever say.

If you keep on doing the wrong thing "acting" like you want to change, you can bring destruction your way. If you are willing to do the work and not give in to what you like but what you need to water your life, you will see. The wrong zaps the water, the right causes the water (the spirit) to flow. A set mind, to consistently do the right thing, will cause the bad to retreat, dry up and die. It has to.

The question remains, how do you do the right thing when you want to do the wrong? When you set your mind, no matter how you feel, the determination will cause your actions to line up with the Word of God.

Try it, you WILL see for yourself....the bad WILL fall off! #DoGood #StarveTheBad

V.D. "valentine's day"

Today's noted as the most romantic day of the year. I am a romantic at heart and love to do all things romantic. It blesses me to see people celebrate love and I also enjoy being celebrated. I don't make a big deal out of this day but who doesn't like to receive love surprises. I know I do. :-)

But this blog goes out to the ones who are in the waiting zone for their own Valentine. I pray for those who desire to love and have it returned. There's nothing wrong with wanting this until it consumes you. What do I mean? When you want this more than anything else, its dangerous territory.

Having a relationship does not guarantee this day is all that. Even if you have your own special one, the day can still go south. Because expectations can kill any romance. The woman has a general idea of how this day should go until it flops.

Maybe, the guy missed all the daily hints given and ran out to get a last-minute no-thought gift. You don't see any chocolates and you can totally forget about dinner reservations anywhere because he simply didn't plan or think about it. The worst, your girlfriend's man got it right and she's sporting a new bracelet and necklace. You're happy for her but this has you looking crazy because your man didn't even think inside that box.

But answer this, does this mean he doesn't love you? And if he did get the completed list does this mean he truly loves you?

Could it be that some of us spend too much time looking across the street at so-in-love-Shelly-em that we can't appreciate what we do have? Let me make it plain, stay with me for a minute.

There's a woman who received her heart's desire but beaten terribly the night before.
There's a woman who had a candlelit dinner after her husband dined with his mistress.
There's a woman who's mad at the world because her husband forgot this day.
There's a woman​​​​ ​​who received a gift but complained and the man wished he hadn't even tried.
There's a woman who didn't get anything but her man would die for her.

The truth of the matter is we can't believe the hype. Don't go by how it looks. All we know, is what we live because only God knows the heart. The only unconditional love I know about is the love of God.

Be thankful for what love you do have from family. Celebrate and treat yourself to something this week. Be grateful because you are special with or without a valentine. A teddy bear to hold, a flower to smell and some chocolate to eat does not supply the love yearned. Because when this day is over, what does the person really have? Is it true love or a fairytale...

completion

Completion is a powerful force. The ability to move forward and to put a period in place of a comma. It closes out a chapter and automatically opens a new one for us to live out. Completion launches you into the next "thing" or command from God. The key is, be on the right task at the required moment. That, my friend, can only be done in God.

You can only be in the aligned place with the One who positions you for victory. To get the victory, you have to go through the process. In order to go-through, you must keep moving. Stalling is not an option if you want to complete ordained tasks in your life. I'm not talking about being busy just-to-be doing something. Anybody can do that because it requires nothing. I'm speaking of the God calling to-do lists. The things that the Great I AM puts in your heart, for you to do. 

But guess what? You can't do you looking over at Little Debbie or Jack Peppers. No ma'am, no sir. It doesn't matter what these people are doing. Who cares? Over there is not our business. We don't have to keep up with others, the goal is to keep in step with God.

In order to do this, we must keep our eyes on God. What do I mean? Our hearts have to get single-minded, focused only on what His will is. He will then direct our paths. I find when I'm all over the place, God is not in any of that. That's my creation and I end up frustrated and irritated. But when it's all about Him, I find a grace that gets me to the end of the thing. It brings a smile to my face because God is Super Awesome and smiles when His child gets to the finish line. Only to start something new (or build upon) all over again. :-)

I urge you to keep moving in God. You are on your way to something great, but if you want God you look pretty good right now. Yes, you do! A heart after God is always on the right side. 

Ecclesiastes 9:11
I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all.