Sonya Visor's Blog, page 2
June 30, 2017
It's Half time
So what's going on?
It's wonderful about the fourth!
But....
What is happening in your half time show?
Is it worth a celebration
Or
Has your time given up...
It's time to score
The clock has already begun!
It's time to score!
You can do it!
It's wonderful about the fourth!
But....
What is happening in your half time show?
Is it worth a celebration
Or
Has your time given up...
It's time to score
The clock has already begun!
It's time to score!
You can do it!
May 31, 2017
your love ignored?
This caption speaks to romantic relationships, but we will use it for any love relationship. The words are crystal clear to those who will hear them.
I can't stand to be ignored by those who matter. If you've been ignored before, you think twice about doing it to someone else. However, in some cases, you have to do it. But this blog is not that. :-)
To be ignored is borderline equal to degrading someone, acting as if they don't matter. It hurts to the heart core if you love the person. Because at the crossfire of being ignored, you realize that you have now become an option to the person who has sealed themselves off from you. No access granted until they call "time."
Now there's a choice to make.
Do you let them off the hook for the neglect and them not wanting to be bothered with you? (I know, right.) Or do you take the high road and surrender just because they called you? I mean what do you do, run back?
If you're like me; part of you is a little happy that you're now being acknowledged. But the other part says, "Forget you." I mean, how do you have the audacity to summon me and make me think that it's fine? And then I should be alright with it...
I'd rather leave them hanging. But when you know Jesus, and He puts a heart in you that can't hold a grudge; you can't stay mad. Even though I low-key may want to with the people who've pulled this card.
But I've learned to let it go, and in some cases, I've let them go. It's better to do that than to set myself up with someone who can't be counted on. I've learned to guard my heart because sometimes people take for granted the ones with big hearts. But even a big heart has a limit and will shut it down.
When people continuously think they can play with your emotions without a cost, they teach you how to live without them. Because you do matter. God made you on purpose. You have to forgive, but you might have to love from a distance.
It's easy to deal back what you got. But prayerfully, God will lead you, because you can bet that He won't ignore you.
1 Peter 4:18 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
April 30, 2017
when you have nothing else to give
When you have nothing else to give what do you do? I mean when you're on empty, this means there's nothing to take, right? So then why do people keep expecting you to give them something (whatever it is) if you're at zero?
Even though you say you have nothing they keep coming because they expect you to always be there. Where do you get this something to give from? Where do you pull it from within yourself? The answer to this question is part of the reason you are on empty. Some people thrive on being needed, but those who are tired see things differently. They need a change.
Why do these people come for your help?
I'll tell you why, they expect you to find something to give them because you always do. Some way, some how you fix it for them and they run along. Only to cycle back around as the need arises. Until you get tired. This is the point where you turn and realize it's time to rework this thing. Because this is no longer working for you. It might be working out great for them but you are at the moment when you say, "I'm done."
In this season, I've found that people are getting tired of the takers in life and are now doing something about it.
The givers have changed how they respond to the leeches. They no longer feed them. The givers have learned to let them go because they are woke on the fact, they could never give people like this enough. Takers don't know how to give. Because takers are never satisfied. They will take you for everything you've got if you let them.
God did not set us up to be taken advantage of. In all of His love and grace He knows when to tell us no. It's time to mimic our Father and practice using the word no.
Colossians 4:6 (NIV) Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.
March 31, 2017
march forward
March 4th. (Forth)
Gives a blatant message to position your feet to move.
Be ready, take the stand and walk it out with purpose.
But did that happen?
It wasn't just the 4th but the entire month of March was the launching pad for those who had been idle.
You know, get it done. Get the victory over procrastination.
It was the month to stir and be stirred for all who would receive the challenge.
Focused. No more delay with distractions that don't even matter.
It was a command to March forward.
Get up. Go higher.
Stop watching time go by and roll with it.
Redeem the time.
It's a message to finalize all tasks, without delay.
It was the time to take charge, in the spirit of completion.
Be consistent.
But did that happen for you?
When I heard march-fourth, I was stirred.
I was excited.
I readied myself.
I worked hard.
I checked things off of my list. Yes, I did.
But the one thing that I needed to do I did not...
But I still take the charge.
Because I will accomplish all that God has set for me to do.
I will march forward because this thing is down deep in my soul.
What about you, will you take the charge? Come on and join me.
It's already done.
We just have to walk it out.
With God.
In His name.
For His glory.
Gives a blatant message to position your feet to move.
Be ready, take the stand and walk it out with purpose.
But did that happen?
It wasn't just the 4th but the entire month of March was the launching pad for those who had been idle.
You know, get it done. Get the victory over procrastination.
It was the month to stir and be stirred for all who would receive the challenge.
Focused. No more delay with distractions that don't even matter.
It was a command to March forward.
Get up. Go higher.
Stop watching time go by and roll with it.
Redeem the time.
It's a message to finalize all tasks, without delay.
It was the time to take charge, in the spirit of completion.
Be consistent.
But did that happen for you?
When I heard march-fourth, I was stirred.
I was excited.
I readied myself.
I worked hard.
I checked things off of my list. Yes, I did.
But the one thing that I needed to do I did not...
But I still take the charge.
Because I will accomplish all that God has set for me to do.
I will march forward because this thing is down deep in my soul.
What about you, will you take the charge? Come on and join me.
It's already done.
We just have to walk it out.
With God.
In His name.
For His glory.
February 28, 2017
is your love helping or hurting?
The month of February is considered the love month for many love birds.
Down the aisle, in most stores around Valentine's Day, you will find chocolates, heart balloons, roses and teddy bears displayed all over the place in the spirit of love. But, what does that mean? If you don't get anything, you're not loved?
I found out a long time ago that a teddy bear with a heart-laced on it means absolutely nothing. Because love is a language that is spoken by what one does; it exceeds the words. How does the love, the person offering to you, feel? Does it build you up or tear you down. This 'love' could be robbing you blind. It could be slow and subtle stealing your life by literally 'wasting' your time in more ways than one.
People say I love you all the time, but their actions do not calculate to this conclusion. Love is real. It adds to you, not subtracting from you leaving you empty. Are you the one always balancing the books and making up the deficits? Being around this person or people should be rewarding. Love Gives. Love Receives. Love Gives.
It should not be a dreaded cloud of darkness. If there is, you better ask yourself in a hurry why do you feel this way. There's a reason, and you need to get to the root of it before it is too late. Don't ignore this; God wants you to deal with this thing. We dismiss too many things that could prove detrimental all because we would not look at the signs.
Love is not selfish and self-serving. Love gives. Love should be refreshing because love is life-giving--like God.
He Is Love.
This is not just in a romantic way but in the family dynamic, as well. The love thing with family can be just as misconstrued. Because people will try to tell you how to love them. If you do not love them the way they feel you ought to by doing their every-request, then there's a problem. That's not how it should be. Why do they get to say 'no' and do what they want to do while you remain in the 'yes' club? Watch the dynamic change when your lips form the word-no. Just watch.
Something is wrong with this.
God has opened my eyes in this season. I have loved my family hard but was it the right way? No, it has not always been. Why? Because my help was self-serving. I didn't want to see people go through. I tried to prop them up to stand, but they didn't want to. So what in the heck was I doing? Getting tired, that's what. Let people be and let them go. Throw your hands in the air, like-you-just-don't-care. Gone ahead. Because if they don't know you love them by now, they never will. God showed me the imbalance and the harm of loving my way even with good intentions. However, I got in God's way.
I thought my 'help' would push them forward, but instead, I caused setbacks while enabling people to remain the same and unwilling to change. Is this love? I'm not talking about tough love, but following God's way of loving people. So that they truly get the help, at the right time and in the right way. Yes, they might have to hit the skids, but they will be better for it. My job is to pray and love them God's way.
Take a look at your life. Are you helping or hurting your love ones? Ask God to help you love the people He created the right way.
January in and out
I had until midnight, New Year's Eve.
Have you ever been under the wire, pressed for time?
I was down to the last twenty-four hours of 2016, a date to get my manuscript done. God had impressed upon my heart that I couldn't go into 2017 with this unfinished book. That was all I needed to press toward the mark to make it down to the finish line. It didn't mean I didn't have obstacles and didn't have to fight my flesh to stay the course, but I did. The spirit of completion rested upon me, and I made the Lord proud at exactly 11:59 p.m.
The feeling of success propelled me into 2017, as I hit the ground running with a jammed packed January which has come and gone. Now, we're at the end of February, and I'm so thankful for the seeds I planted in January and February that are now being fertilized by God. I know this because He told me which task to do. When we do His to-dos, they will always prosper. What has God asked you to do?
I encourage you to pray, hear and make a list. Seek God for a plan to get those God-given dreams checked off. Don't let another year leave you in the wind because you keep thinking but not doing. I'm sure we've all have wasted enough time. Embrace this season by doing what you can and allow God to do the rest. We are still in the first quarter. So, Happy Do Year!
Now, get to work. :-)
Have you ever been under the wire, pressed for time?
I was down to the last twenty-four hours of 2016, a date to get my manuscript done. God had impressed upon my heart that I couldn't go into 2017 with this unfinished book. That was all I needed to press toward the mark to make it down to the finish line. It didn't mean I didn't have obstacles and didn't have to fight my flesh to stay the course, but I did. The spirit of completion rested upon me, and I made the Lord proud at exactly 11:59 p.m.
The feeling of success propelled me into 2017, as I hit the ground running with a jammed packed January which has come and gone. Now, we're at the end of February, and I'm so thankful for the seeds I planted in January and February that are now being fertilized by God. I know this because He told me which task to do. When we do His to-dos, they will always prosper. What has God asked you to do?
I encourage you to pray, hear and make a list. Seek God for a plan to get those God-given dreams checked off. Don't let another year leave you in the wind because you keep thinking but not doing. I'm sure we've all have wasted enough time. Embrace this season by doing what you can and allow God to do the rest. We are still in the first quarter. So, Happy Do Year!
Now, get to work. :-)
December 31, 2016
happy new year
This has been some year.
A blessed year but a tough one at the same time.
I would never have made it without God; He is the reason I'm here.
He is the reason we are both still here.
We have got something else to do.
Through the good and the bad,
God's goodness reached down and kept us.
There were many obstacles, but many triumphs!
I am thankful for it all.
It caused me to grow and be enlightened.
Situations showed me where I was.
I was uprooted from some things but replanted in other things.
God opened doors and allowed some doors to close.
I am still learning to let people go.
I had to embrace what God was doing in me.
Some relationships flourished, others perished.
I have had to love in tough circumstances.
I am thankful for it all.
I have had to see things I did not want to see.
But it was for my making.
I have not arrived, but I am on my way.
As I reflect back over 2016, there's certainly some things I would have done differently.
But in the words of Fantasia, "It was all necessary."
By the grace of God, see you in 2017.
Be Blessed
Be TruU
A blessed year but a tough one at the same time.
I would never have made it without God; He is the reason I'm here.
He is the reason we are both still here.
We have got something else to do.
Through the good and the bad,
God's goodness reached down and kept us.
There were many obstacles, but many triumphs!
I am thankful for it all.
It caused me to grow and be enlightened.
Situations showed me where I was.
I was uprooted from some things but replanted in other things.
God opened doors and allowed some doors to close.
I am still learning to let people go.
I had to embrace what God was doing in me.
Some relationships flourished, others perished.
I have had to love in tough circumstances.
I am thankful for it all.
I have had to see things I did not want to see.
But it was for my making.
I have not arrived, but I am on my way.
As I reflect back over 2016, there's certainly some things I would have done differently.
But in the words of Fantasia, "It was all necessary."
By the grace of God, see you in 2017.
Be Blessed
Be TruU
November 30, 2016
So much to be thankful for
God has me cry more than once in the past weeks and it's only the beginning. I will be back to share more with you. But right now, I'm on a tight deadline. I just wanted you to know that I was thinking of you; and I pray that God is doing great things in your land. Thanksgiving is key, it is living with a heart of gratitude.
By HIs grace, I"ll be back tomorrow.
Sonya
By HIs grace, I"ll be back tomorrow.
Sonya
October 31, 2016
mercy saw me
Mercy saw me in a place no one else could reach me.
I lived in a safe place, a haven I created to protect myself from darkness that poked me from the outside.
This safe haven allowed me to cover the hurt, the shame, and the self-inflicted guilt I walked in because
I didn't know what to do. But I had to do something to protect myself from "them".
From those who caused pain.
From those who didn't understand.
From those who smeared my innocence for their own desires.
From those who caused me to hide who I am.
I hid who I was because I didn't tell the truth about the state I was in.
Hiding the truth was easier. It became second nature to keep secrets.
To live.
Behind the mask.
The mask was the smile, the fun voice and the fantasy escape "all-is-well" and it was no where near being well.
The mask couldn't hold in truth, but I kept it glued with lies.
It was better this way. So, I thought until my mask begin to attack me.
It no longer protected me but haunted and tormented me.
I wanted it off but it remained in position, until one day...
The power of LOVE shattered and broke the chains of bondage off of my life!
Now there I stood unmasked.
Free Indeed
Because Mercy saw me and pulled me out of the pit of yesterday.
Who is Mercy? Mercy is the compassion of God Almighty.
Now, I can live for today.
Unmasked. Delivered. Living my truth in God.
Today many fight for the right to dress up in a costume, choosing to become someone else. But, I fought for years to be free from masking to BE exactly who I am in God. #Unmasked #Free #Unapologetically #TruU
Lamentations 3:23
Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning.
#Thankful
I lived in a safe place, a haven I created to protect myself from darkness that poked me from the outside.
This safe haven allowed me to cover the hurt, the shame, and the self-inflicted guilt I walked in because
I didn't know what to do. But I had to do something to protect myself from "them".
From those who caused pain.
From those who didn't understand.
From those who smeared my innocence for their own desires.
From those who caused me to hide who I am.
I hid who I was because I didn't tell the truth about the state I was in.
Hiding the truth was easier. It became second nature to keep secrets.
To live.
Behind the mask.
The mask was the smile, the fun voice and the fantasy escape "all-is-well" and it was no where near being well.
The mask couldn't hold in truth, but I kept it glued with lies.
It was better this way. So, I thought until my mask begin to attack me.
It no longer protected me but haunted and tormented me.
I wanted it off but it remained in position, until one day...
The power of LOVE shattered and broke the chains of bondage off of my life!
Now there I stood unmasked.
Free Indeed
Because Mercy saw me and pulled me out of the pit of yesterday.
Who is Mercy? Mercy is the compassion of God Almighty.
Now, I can live for today.
Unmasked. Delivered. Living my truth in God.
Today many fight for the right to dress up in a costume, choosing to become someone else. But, I fought for years to be free from masking to BE exactly who I am in God. #Unmasked #Free #Unapologetically #TruU
Lamentations 3:23
Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning.
#Thankful
September 30, 2016
how do you stop helping people?
How do I stop lending a "helping hand" to those I see in need? This is the tough question every enabler ought to ask themselves before it's too late. Too late for who? I believe it's crucial for both the giver and the receiver. It is imperative, during a season of change, to determine the kind of help you're giving. Is it God inspired or an emotional tug on your heart?
It's hard for me to see people get swept up in a storm that could have been avoided. So, I get out in front of them waving yellow flags, verbal warnings, and dropping hints. And boy do I encourage on overdrive, wearing myself out. But guess what? Some people still don't hear me and others get mad or both. Enough, Sonya!
The very thing I call help could be interfering with what God wants to do in their lives. You can best believe God has already tried to get their attention. Bottom line; people want to do what they want to do until they can't do it any longer.
To see if you should take "help" notice, ponder these few points:Were you asked to help or did you jump in?Okay, so they asked you but did you know when to STOP or did you overdo it?Did you pray for God's guidance of what to do?Do you step in and give unsolicited advice all the time?Did you go about fixing the person's problem while the receiver sat back and watched you dive in? I mean you "got it" right... this would be enabling.When you do help are you done or do you nurse their situation? This is when you constantly ask questions, trying to help, when the people are ready for you to step off the rescue mode.If you find you can relate to one or two of these points, ask yourself what are you doing?
I've had to ask myself this harsh truth because to extend a hand to somebody who doesn't want it goes against God. Because He gives us all free will. The choice is ours and God will not push against a person's will, so why should we try to?
No longer beg to wiggle into a space that's not made for you. When God sends you to the person, He gives you rest. To be burdened down with an issue that's not yours is a heavy load. We are not designed to carry our own burdens, let alone somebody else's. At this point, it's more damaging and you have to back off for your own sake.
The prayer is that they see it for themselves before the storm comes or their time runs out.
Maybe the storm is exactly what's needed to give them a new perspective and opportunity to change. A chance they probably wouldn't have had without going through the rocky roads the winds of change ushered into their lives. The journey of life will teach anyone willing to learn.
The season has changed and it's time to stay out of it, leave people to mind and tend to their own business. After all, it's their life to live. Especially if God didn't tell you to "help", I've found the most powerful aid I can offer is to pray for people behind the scene. Then allow God to do the rest.
May God's will be done before all the flowers turn to weeds. #SeasonShift #ShenaPropheticWord
It's hard for me to see people get swept up in a storm that could have been avoided. So, I get out in front of them waving yellow flags, verbal warnings, and dropping hints. And boy do I encourage on overdrive, wearing myself out. But guess what? Some people still don't hear me and others get mad or both. Enough, Sonya!
The very thing I call help could be interfering with what God wants to do in their lives. You can best believe God has already tried to get their attention. Bottom line; people want to do what they want to do until they can't do it any longer.
To see if you should take "help" notice, ponder these few points:Were you asked to help or did you jump in?Okay, so they asked you but did you know when to STOP or did you overdo it?Did you pray for God's guidance of what to do?Do you step in and give unsolicited advice all the time?Did you go about fixing the person's problem while the receiver sat back and watched you dive in? I mean you "got it" right... this would be enabling.When you do help are you done or do you nurse their situation? This is when you constantly ask questions, trying to help, when the people are ready for you to step off the rescue mode.If you find you can relate to one or two of these points, ask yourself what are you doing?
I've had to ask myself this harsh truth because to extend a hand to somebody who doesn't want it goes against God. Because He gives us all free will. The choice is ours and God will not push against a person's will, so why should we try to?
No longer beg to wiggle into a space that's not made for you. When God sends you to the person, He gives you rest. To be burdened down with an issue that's not yours is a heavy load. We are not designed to carry our own burdens, let alone somebody else's. At this point, it's more damaging and you have to back off for your own sake.
The prayer is that they see it for themselves before the storm comes or their time runs out.
Maybe the storm is exactly what's needed to give them a new perspective and opportunity to change. A chance they probably wouldn't have had without going through the rocky roads the winds of change ushered into their lives. The journey of life will teach anyone willing to learn.
The season has changed and it's time to stay out of it, leave people to mind and tend to their own business. After all, it's their life to live. Especially if God didn't tell you to "help", I've found the most powerful aid I can offer is to pray for people behind the scene. Then allow God to do the rest.
May God's will be done before all the flowers turn to weeds. #SeasonShift #ShenaPropheticWord
