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LIVE today: Our New Reading Plan with the YouVersion Bible App!

We are SO excited about our new partnership with the YouVersion Bible App! With over 100 million users, the YouVersion Bible app reaches such a wide audience and now, those who use it can access our “Biblical Secrets to a Happy Marriage” reading plan (I would call this a daily devotional, but YouVerson uses it not only as a devo but as a way to get readers to dive more specifically into the actual Bible.

If you haven’t tried out the app, download it and take a look at all the reading plans/devos that are available. Just search “marriage” and you’ll find “Biblical Secrets to a Happy Marriage” in the list.

You can access the YouVersion app through your web browser or on your mobile device- iOS, Android, Windows, and Blackberry. Check out the plan and let us know what you think!

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Why does my husband bristle at my business advice?

Dear Shaunti,

My husband runs his own construction business, and even though he’s in charge it really does feel like “our” business in most ways. I used to be in the industry, so I know the market. And I’ve been very supportive of him dipping into our personal finances to personally pay our staff when things have been tight. He knows I’m supportive, and that I really believe in him and trust his ability to grow a great business. But the last few years, cash flow has been really tight and every time I make a suggestion for a new market to try or bring up a caution why one of his ideas might not work, he has been getting more and more defensive. It is affecting our marriage, and I really resent that. I recognize that he feels like I’m criticizing him, but shouldn’t I have the right to say and do whatever I need to, for what is (for all intents and purposes) our family business?

-Sidelined Sally

Dear Sidelined,

Take a look, again, at the last two sentences of what you wrote me. I think you’ll realize your own answer. Sure, you should be able to say whatever you want and need to say to your husband. Absolutely! Just as if you happened to be an equal partner in a purely business relationship, you should be able to raise issues, suggest new markets, and shoot down ideas with 100 percent impunity. But in Dr. Phil’s immortal words, “How’s that workin’ for ya?”

The problem is: you’re not in a purely business relationship. You’re the man’s wife. Now, contrary to popular opinion, perhaps, men don’t want to keep the “little woman” sidelined at home. If a wife is a smart, capable woman who knows his business, most men want her involvement, ideas, help, and so on.

The problem is, that is a secondary desire. In my research it was clear that what a man most needs from his wife, at all times, in all seasons, no matter what else is going on, is something quite different: he needs a cheerleader. A completely solid support. Someone who believes in him when he doesn’t believe in himself, and says “I know you can do it!”

Can you see how his deepest need here is in conflict with his “normal” desire to have the involvement you had in the past? When times weren’t tight, it sounds like this wasn’t an issue. You chipped in, suggested, raised warnings, and it was fine. But today, he gets defensive. Upset. Feels like you’re criticizing him.

The difference is that he’s struggling with feeling like a failure in the business. Every man already feels like an imposter, and wrestles with great self-doubt in a far deeper way than we as women realize. But as long as the business is going along fine, when he asks himself “do I measure up?” he can look at the financial returns and reassure himself.

But where does he look when the business isn’t going fine? He looks squarely to you. Most of all, he wants and needs to see that you believe in him. And he is going to be far more sensitive to your words and actions that seem to imply that maybe you don’t believe in him, or don’t think he can do it. I know it can seem crazy to us, but when he is vulnerable like this, he hears “Maybe you shouldn’t enter that market” as “You stupid idiot, you should know better.” He may know that you would never really think that disrespectfully about him, but it truly does feel that way.

So what do you do? You have to make a choice. And I’ll warn you up front: it may not seem “fair” to you. But you have to choose what is more important: Ensuring that your husband knows that you are unswervingly behind him, and believe in him, so he knows you care about him? Or exercising your very real right to speak into the business in the same way as you do during better times?

This isn’t to say that Choice #1 means you can’t have any input. Again, you have absolutely earned the right to share your thoughts and cautions. But be prepared to do it in a very, very judicious way, with explicit affirmations that you believe in him at the same time. (“Honey, you’ve been the one in all the meetings, so you would know better. And I love the idea of pursuing that market. But since you mentioned that high default rate, I’m wondering if you should ask your risk manager for his opinion? But if you look at it and decide it is worth it to try that direction, I’m with you.”)

If you do that, you are ultimately giving him what every man most needs: the absolute and accurate knowledge that when it comes right down to it, you do trust him in the way you say you do.

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Shaunti Feldhahn is the best-selling author of eye-opening, research-based books about men, women and relationships, including For Women Only, For Men Only, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages and her newest, The Good News About Marriage. A Harvard-trained social researcher and popular speaker, her findings are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show, Focus on the Family, and the New York Times. Visit www.shaunti.com for more.

This article first appeared on Patheos.

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Marriage Monday: Husbands, talk to your wife about whether what you’re working so hard to provide, is what she most needs

Tip #37: Husbands, talk to your wife about whether what you’re working so hard to provide, is what she most needs

Guys, every day you feel the burden to provide. Whether or not you’re the primary bread winner, you’re feeling It is my job to provide for my family. It’s a hard world out there, with lots of financial stresses, and you love your wife and children so much that you exhaust yourself with long hours, a second shift, or lots of travel, to make sure they are taken care of. You wish you had more time with them, but you make that trade-off, that sacrifice, to give them security and show how much you care.

And then comes the day when you start hearing your wife say things like, “Honey, do you always have to work so much?”

What’s a guy to do?!

Here’s what you do: take her comment as a cue that she may be looking to you to provide something more important to her than financial security. When Jeff and I began our research for For Men Only, we learned through interviews and surveys with thousands of women that, more than anything, they desired emotional security with their husbands.

Now, if you’re like Jeff, you’re probably asking “what on earth is emotional security?”

For men, “security” means financial security, period. But for most women, “security” is partly about finances, but far more about your relationship. If she’s like most women, your wife most needs to feel close, because you spend time together. On the survey, seven out of ten married women said they would downsize their lifestyle and even endure financial hardship, if that was what it took in order to get that closeness. This wasn’t universal – three in ten women did need the financial security most – but most women simply prioritize a more family-friendly schedule more than you think they do.

Don’t hear me wrong: This doesn’t mean giving up a challenging job you love, for an ‘easier’ one you hate. The women said they recognized that would be a bad solution all around! But in most cases, there are changes that would work for you and make women feel more secure.

Maybe this means working less overtime so that you can be at dinner with the family more often. Or it could mean being on the road less with work and giving up that extra client revenue in order to have weekends together. Maybe it means you stick with a good but less high-flying career path while the kids are young, so you can leave the office early a few nights a week to make their soccer games. Or maybe you take the high-flying promotion you’ve been angling for, but always always always leave the office at 5 pm on Fridays, to ensure you have a date night with your wife, even if the other executives look at you funny.

When your wife seems to want “more” of you, it would be easy to feel like you’re between a rock and a hard place. Doesn’t she appreciate all I already go through? And now she magically wants more time, more energy, more of me? I only have so much to give! If she’s like most women, your wife does appreciate all that you do. But if you’re hearing things like, “you care about work more than me” she probably wants and needs a trade-off, not more. And the trade-off you’re already making (less time with her; more financial provision) may not be the one she’d choose.

So sit down with your wife and see what is most important. If you’re working overtime for a long vacation or to replace the old car, for example, find out if the less-time-with-you trade-off is really what she prefers. Let her talk it through, as she processes it for a few days. You might find that she truly would prefer the cheaper vacation or to drive the old car, in order to get more time together.

You might find that what she most wants is not what you provide…. but YOU.

Join us next Monday for the next installment in our Marriage Monday series! 

Do you want Shaunti to share these life-changing truths at your church or event? Inquire about Shaunti speaking, here.

Shaunti Feldhahn is the best-selling author of eye-opening, research-based books about men, women and relationships, including For Women Only, For Men Only, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages and her newest, The Good News About Marriage. A Harvard-trained social researcher and popular speaker, her findings are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show, Focus on the Family, and the New York Times. Visit www.shaunti.com for more.

The post originally ran at the Christian Post for Marriage Mondays.

Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.

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Marriage Monday from Shaunti Feldhahn: Husbands, talk to your wife about whether what you’re working so hard to provide, is what she most needs

Christian Post Blog Marriage Monday Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

November 10, 2014

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do. 

Tip #37: Husbands, talk to your wife about whether what you’re working so hard to provide, is what she most needs

Guys, every day you feel the burden to provide. Whether or not you’re the primary bread winner, you’re feeling It is my job to provide for my family. It’s a hard world out there, with lots of financial stresses, and you love your wife and children so much that you exhaust yourself with long hours, a second shift, or lots of travel, to make sure they are taken care of. You wish you had more time with them, but you make that trade-off, that sacrifice, to give them security and show how much you care.

And then comes the day when you start hearing your wife say things like, “Honey, do you always have to work so much?”

What’s a guy to do?!

Here’s what you do: take her comment as a cue that she may be looking to you to provide something more important to her than financial security. When Jeff and I began our research for For Men Only, we learned through interviews and surveys with thousands of women that, more than anything, they desired emotional security with their husbands.

Now, if you’re like Jeff, you’re probably asking “what on earth is emotional security?”

For men, “security” means financial security, period. But for most women, “security” is partly about finances, but far more about your relationship. If she’s like most women, your wife most needs to feel close, because you spend time together. On the survey, seven out of ten married women said they would downsize their lifestyle and even endure financial hardship, if that was what it took in order to get that closeness. This wasn’t universal – three in ten women did need the financial security most – but most women simply prioritize a more family-friendly schedule more than you think they do.

Don’t hear me wrong: This doesn’t mean giving up a challenging job you love, for an ‘easier’ one you hate. The women said they recognized that would be a bad solution all around! But in most cases, there are changes that would work for you and make women feel more secure.

Maybe this means working less overtime so that you can be at dinner with the family more often. Or it could mean being on the road less with work and giving up that extra client revenue in order to have weekends together. Maybe it means you stick with a good but less high-flying career path while the kids are young, so you can leave the office early a few nights a week to make their soccer games. Or maybe you take the high-flying promotion you’ve been angling for, but always always always leave the office at 5 pm on Fridays, to ensure you have a date night with your wife, even if the other executives look at you funny.

When your wife seems to want “more” of you, it would be easy to feel like you’re between a rock and a hard place. Doesn’t she appreciate all I already go through? And now she magically wants more time, more energy, more of me? I only have so much to give! If she’s like most women, your wife does appreciate all that you do. But if you’re hearing things like, “you care about work more than me” she probably wants and needs a trade-off, not more. And the trade-off you’re already making (less time with her; more financial provision) may not be the one she’d choose.

So sit down with your wife and see what is most important. If you’re working overtime for a long vacation or to replace the old car, for example, find out if the less-time-with-you trade-off is really what she prefers. Let her talk it through, as she processes it for a few days. You might find that she truly would prefer the cheaper vacation or to drive the old car, in order to get more time together.

You might find that what she most wants is not what you provide…. but YOU.

Join us next Monday for the next installment in our Marriage Monday series! 

Do you want Shaunti to share these life-changing truths at your church or event? Inquire about Shaunti speaking, here.

Shaunti Feldhahn is the best-selling author of eye-opening, research-based books about men, women and relationships, including For Women Only, For Men Only, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages and her newest, The Good News About Marriage. A Harvard-trained social researcher and popular speaker, her findings are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show, Focus on the Family, and the New York Times. Visit www.shaunti.com for more.

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3 sentences that can change our perspective on marriage and commitment

 

“There are two types of couples in this world.”

One of the things I’ve learned over the years as a researcher, is that when I hear something truly important; when someone shares something that really impacts me; I have to write it down RIGHT THEN or I will forget the exact words. I might remember the gist, but if I lose the exact words, that “aha moment” often loses its power.

So one night recently, I had to stop everything, and write something down. Because it was far, far too important to lose.

I was speaking at a thank-you dinner for a group of people who work with married couples at a particular church. About 200 small group leaders, counselors and other marriage mentors gathered to hear great music, a fun game show put on by the pastor and his wife, and then my talk as I shared some of my research about marriage. Encouraging research that shows there is so much more hope for marriage than we have thought. (For example, that the 50% divorce rate is a myth.) I was sharing data they could use to encourage their people to go “all in” in their marriages, since the temptation to hold back and protect yourself will build a wall and create the very problems you’re trying to protect yourself from.

So there I am, after the talk, interacting with these marriage leaders, and one man quietly comes over and says, “I need to share a story.”

“Okay…?”

He pulled me aside. “Five years ago, our marriage was disintegrating. I felt like I couldn’t do anything right. She felt like I didn’t care about her. We were constantly at odds, with one foot mentally out the door. And suddenly, one day, I stopped. I told her, ‘There are two types of couples in this world. Those that want to work everything out before they commit, and those that want to commit to working everything out. Which do you want to be?’”

I was practically speechless – which, if you know me, is quite a feat. I knew I was hearing something profound. I stammered, “That is an amazing insight.”

He nodded. “Yes, but not from me. I felt like God just gave it to me. And that is when everything changed. Because with the first approach, a marriage will never make it. You feel like with one mess-up, you could be done. But we decided we would commit to working everything out somehow. No matter what. And that is why we are now here today, with a great marriage, leading a small group of other married couples.”

I scrambled for a pen to write down an insight that, in three sentences, was perhaps more important than anything I had said my 45 minute talk.

I will leave them with you, again, so you can share them with others… and ponder your own answer.

There are two types of couples in this world.

Those that want to work everything out before they commit, and those that want to commit to working everything out.

Which do you want to be?

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Marriage Monday from Shaunti Feldhahn: Wives, build a deeper connection with your husband through physical intimacy.

Christian Post Blog Marriage Monday Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn

November 3, 2014

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Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do. 

Tip #36: Wives, build a deeper connection with your husband through physical intimacy. 

There are times when it feels like some “connection” gets lost between spouses. Long days, busy schedules and running around with the kids add physical distance. And confusion, frustration, misunderstandings, stress and grumpiness add emotional distance.

Both husbands and wives instinctively want to find some way to close the gap; we want to feel close again.

For most of us as women, there is a very clear way of doing that: we reach out for a hug, a touch, and a long conversation. Perhaps we want to talk over a meal. Or we want to sit on the couch and really explain about our day and get his feedback. Nothing makes a woman feel closer to her husband than to pour out everything that is going on, and to share life in an intimate way, heart-to-heart.

Would it surprise you if I told you that nothing makes a man feel closer to his wife than to share life in an intimate way, body-to-body?

In most cases, the number one language that will build a deeper connection with your husband is not spoken in words. It is shared through physical intimacy.

Between magazines, television and those go-at-it love scenes in the movies, it is easy to think that “men only care about one thing” –and it can frankly come across as almost a primal, selfish demand. With everything you have to handle as a wife and mom, physical intimacy can seem like something else to check off the “to do” list.

But you need to know that there is so much more going on, deep in a man’s heart, that makes him reach out for you in that way. And believe it or not, it is the same thing that makes you reach out for more conversation with him. He, too, is feeling distance. And he, too, has a desire to rebuild that closeness.

Sex is not just a physical thing for men. It is one of the main ways to his heart. I was shocked in my research with thousands of men for For Women Only that sex is actually primarily a powerful emotional need for men. A need to feel desired and desirable; and a way to feel close with the woman he loves. In fact, God built men in such a way that the bonding hormones which create that sense of closeness are not generally released during conversation – as they are with women. They are primarily released during sex.

So the next time you are feeling distant from your husband, and perhaps even offended that he would want you, physically, when you’re barely speaking to each other… see that as the signal of man who deeply loves you and desperately wants to rebuild that sense of closeness that both of you have lost, and which both of you are longing for.

Commit to building closeness through sexual connection, not just sedate conversation. And I think you will see there is a tender heart lying behind all that testosterone.

Join us next Monday for the next installment in our Marriage Monday series! 

Do you want Shaunti to share these life-changing truths at your church or event? Inquire about Shaunti speaking, here.

Shaunti Feldhahn is the best-selling author of eye-opening, research-based books about men, women and relationships, including For Women Only, For Men Only, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages and her newest, The Good News About Marriage. A Harvard-trained social researcher and popular speaker, her findings are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show, Focus on the Family, and the New York Times. Visit www.shaunti.com for more.

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Marriage Monday from Shaunti Feldhahn: Husbands, instead of getting frustrated at how much your wife chatters, see it as a signal of a specific need for connection.

Christian Post Blog Marriage Monday Tip Of The Day from Shaunti Feldhahn 

October 27, 2014 

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do. 

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Tip #35: Husbands, instead of getting frustrated at how much your wife chatters, see it as a signal of a specific need for connection.

We all know that women tend to be more talkative and expressive of their emotions than men. In fact, women’s brains are usually structured to process things by talking them through, while men’s brains generally process things internally.

So guys, that means you are sometimes puzzled, overwhelmed or – let’s face it – annoyed when your wife rambles about things that seem trivial to you. Why is she telling me about her day step by step? Why doesn’t she cut to the chase of telling me the one thing I need to know that happened today? 

Your wife may simply be a “talkative” sort. But I’m betting there is more going on.

When a woman talks with a close friend or loved one, bonding hormones are released in her brain. So in addition to already being more verbal and more likely to talk than you are, if she is feeling a disconnect between you, she is going to reach out with more communication to try to build that sense of closeness again.

So learn to see that signal and take it seriously. Don’t just push aside what she is talking about to “cut to the chase,” because the details are a waste of time. Instead, seize the opportunity to signal something back: that you want connection too. (Even if for you, sex is more likely to build that connection than talking… which we will be covering in an upcoming column!)

Learn the skill of listening to your wife’s feelings so she’ll feel heard. Ask questions so she knows you’re “there”. That makes her feel cared for and connected. And it might surprise you that it will do something for you, too: it will actually increase how much you care about what she’s sharing. Remember that what you feed, will grow. If you “feed” your interest instead of your exasperation, you’ll actually get more interested. And she’ll sense that.

For example, if your wife left you a long voice mail at work, find a time when you can call or text her back about a least one of the issues she raises. Or raise it when you get home. Ask whether little Courtney’s skinned knee is better, and how the accident happened, and what Courtney said and what your wife did.

Be careful, though: your wife might keel over from shock.

This doesn’t mean you have to spend 20 minutes on it; even a few minutes will help. But I think you’ll see that building this type of connection is the best possible use of your time because it will lead to far fewer arguments and less “volume” for you in the end.

On a final note, if you still find the talking is overwhelming you, it is important to discuss that with your wife. After all, she cares about what matters to you, too. So after you have worked on the “connection” for a few weeks, perhaps say something like this: “I care about what matters to you, but I can’t always tell which issues matter most. I’ve noticed that if I try to think through all of them I will get overwhelmed. So it comes across as not caring. How can we arrange this so that I can focus on what matters most to you, honey?”

See what she comes up with and discuss your preferences so you can figure out what works best for both of you.

Actively listening and taking interest in what your wife is sharing will truly strengthen the connection you have together, and as those talking-generated bonding hormones are released she will feel how much you care. Which will make your wife very, very happy, and lead to more peace in your home.

Taken from For Men Only.

Join us next Monday as we explain to women that men build closeness through physical intimacy instead of just talking.

Do you want Shaunti to share these life-changing truths at your church or event? Inquire about Shaunti speaking, here.

Shaunti Feldhahn is the best-selling author of eye-opening, research-based books about men, women and relationships, including For Women Only, For Men Only, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages and her newest, The Good News About Marriage. A Harvard-trained social researcher and popular speaker, her findings are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show, Focus on the Family, and the New York Times. Visit www.shaunti.com for more.

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Calling for a Correction

Anyone who has read The Good News About Marriage, or heard me talk about it, knows that the thickets of marriage and divorce data are really dense and complicated.  Even though complex numbers are my field, I ventured into the deep forests of this data years back with trepidation, sure that at some point I would end up in quicksand–which for an analyst means misunderstanding something, and making an embarrassing mistake. Sure enough, I just did.

Two weeks ago, I wrote a quick analysis blog titled “Record Share of Americans Have Never Married – Really?” about the fact that a recent PEW report title was overstating the “never married” thing since, I thought, it was analyzing people still unmarried by age 25, when the median age of marriage was 27. It just came to my attention today that somehow, either I misunderstood the age boundary, or I was analyzing a slightly different report, or something changed, because clear as day (today) is the fact that this particular PEW report does include people over the age of 25. I went back to the original URL I was looking at (which I saved) but the link no longer works, so I can’t examine what I was looking at before, to know if something changed. And given the rigor PEW puts behind all of their research, and that it is rare in the research arena for a report to be re-issued with new data, it is far more likely that I simply misunderstood something.

Regardless, it is clear that my old analysis no longer applies.

I’m taking down my previous analysis, of course, but I didn’t think that was sufficient. The whole point of me diving into this area of marriage and divorce analysis over the last few years is to get the TRUTH out and counter the myths, urban legends and bad data that spread like crazy over the internet. So if I have made an error – for whatever reason – and shared it with others, I need to publicly say that and correct the record.

I also need to be sure this doesn’t happen again. Most likely, instead of trying to get a quick analysis out in order to equip leaders to respond to breaking stories and headlines, I’ll need to allow time for a second researcher to look at the issue, and double-check my analysis.  The importance of multiple reviewers was why Tally Whitehead, my senior researcher, and I worked so closely together and got so many other researchers to look at The Good News About Marriage data and conclusions before we released it.  So although I don’t want to slow down my responsiveness to ongoing news too much, I want to be SURE that going forward, I don’t release avoidable mistakes either.

In the meantime…. mea culpa. I’m embarrassed and a bit frustrated that, yep, the quicksand finally found me.

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Stream of consciousness thoughts from the Toronto airport

Stream of consciousness thought from the Toronto airport: So I am in the process of traveling to Ottawa to speak at a fun marriage/relationships/parenting event tonight, and arrived Toronto airport just fine from Atlanta, cleared customs quickly, walked briskly toward the security line to check in for my domestic connection to Ottowa—and realized…this isn’t gonna be brisk!

An hour later I have just now cleared through the looooooooong security liiiiiiine; an hour I spent realizing just how SPOILED I am with my US Pre-Check and frequent-flier Priority status when I am flying around the US.

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Win a Marriage Library – with the Christian Marriage Author Pinterest Board

Win a Marriage Library of TWELVE Books–with the Christian Marriage Author Pinterest Board!

I am so excited about being a part of the new Christian Marriage Authors Pinterest board, started by an amazing woman, Sheila Wray Gregoire! The board features a bunch of great Christian authors who have lots of great insight and wisdom to share about marriage from many different perspectives and I hope you check them out!

To celebrate the launch of the Pinterest board, we are giving away a marriage library of 12 books! There are three grand prize winners, so just enter through the Rafflecopter link to WIN!

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There are several ways to earn multiple entries, so be sure to check out the Pinterest board and enter the contest.

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