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#FabulousVeilsNovel#Open_Discussion

What’s the main purpose from fasting Ramadan?

 

Are You An Urgency Addict?

“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!” Benjamin Franklin explained. In order to plan we need to have a wider perspective than the daily to-do list which belongs to the ‘Urgency Addicts‘. Stephen R. Covey in his ‘First Things First‘ book introduced the perspective of the week. He clarified how the unit of the day is too short and how people ought to organise their weeks considering that the unit of time is neither the hour nor the day but the week.

In this video I share an example on how to plan our weeks referring to our roles in life and focusing on the big rocks; our top priorities.

#Self-Leadership#Good_Deeds_Competition

“Traditions help create memories. Traditions help impart our life values to our children. Traditions help give children a sense of identity. Traditions help create a sense of belonging. Traditions offer a sense of security.” Alison Lee

 

#FabulousVeilsNovel#Communication_Mistakes

“All relationship problems stem from poor communication.” John Gray, Best Selling Author of ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’, identified fourteen communication mistakes women do in times of conflict. Gray was fair enough to identify fourteen communication mistakes men do as well. In order to have a better planet, we need to have better relationships and without healthy communication relationships die.

 

Coaching For Value

Change is one of the universal laws of life. Everything around us changes. Starting from the weather, the seasons to the leaps in technology. It’s true that some people resist change and that they ought to work on themselves and their mindsets to avoid being left behind. However, what concerns me the most is the people who embrace change. Are they clear about the results they wish for? Is the value they get from change relevant to the time, money and effort they invest?

In order to live happier, become more satisfied and upgrade our lives, we need to be crystal clear about the following:

What do we want to change.
Why do we want to change it.
What value will we get from this change.
What’s the impact of this change on others.

 

Days are slow and years are fast, enough wasting time without having a clear end in mind. If you’re not sure about your end in mind, hire a coach to help you.

 

#FabulousVeilsNovel#Book Review

“It took me a week to read it. I felt as if I lived with and known each one of the characters. I hated them all, loved them all, empathised with them all, pitied them all and felt their happiness and sorrows. Beside the writing style and how it makes you see the scenes in real, the stories are so deep and so touching. Everyone who is oppressed is a victim by choice and criminal by force.

Oppression is a closed end circle that must end.

We must not accept to live the life of victimhood or oppress others for the sake of social acceptance.”

 

Which Type of Abuse Are You Incubating?

“I can’t imagine how stupid you are. What is it, don’t you have a brain?” ‘Stupid’, ‘lazy’, ‘fat’, ‘careless’, ‘dumb’, ‘ignorant’, are few examples of the insults women often embrace passively.

“Insults don’t stick”, a friend once told me. “I don’t care if my husband insults me as long as he pays my checks,” laughingly she added. The same friend, a decade later, went through an aggressive divorce battle and had to give up all her possessions just to rescue herself and her children from a cheater and a domestic abuser. It’s true that words don’t stick, yet their impact does. The emotional pain of insults remains in our nervous system and our subconscious. And gradually we start to belittle ourselves and to accept what we thought we would never tolerate.

Fatma, the poor vulnerable help in Fabulous Veils, thought she was obeying God by surrendering to her husband. The greatest heaven was the reward she awaited in exchange to her husband’s verbal, physical and sexual abuse.

Gameela, the middle class wife, accepted an unhealthy marriage under the name of love. Baring verbal abuse at first and then physical abuse and infidelity.

Madiha, the high class divorced woman, protecting her reputation, remained silent towards her husband’s financial abuse and her manager’s sexual harassment.

Why do women accept abuse?

Brainwashing. Whether at schools, on traditional media channels or social media, we are subject to subliminal messages all the time. Forming, or better say deforming, our beliefs about ourselves and our capabilities. We get raised in an environment that incubate gender inequality. We don’t object that boys be treated differently than girls. We grow up thinking that men’s main role is to work and provide money and women’s main role is to raise children. We let go of our rights, and many of us so often live and die unaware of their rights.

“Advertising, music, atmospheres, subliminal messages and films can have an impact on our emotional life, and we cannot control it because we are not even conscious of it.” Tariq Ramadan

Who are the worst abusers?

Parents who disempower their daughters, from my perspective, are the first and most violent abusers. And husbands who continue to disempower their wives are the most stupid of all. For how could abused women raise healthy and stable children? When we disempower women we actually corrupt the world.

“If you really want to change a culture… empower women.” Greg Mortenson

 

#FabulousVeilsNovel#Open_Discussion

Are we abusers, abused or both?

 

Why Organising Time Isn’t Enough?

Many people complain that they don’t have enough time. No matter how hard they work or how fast they try to become, the problem remain almost the same.

Stephen R. Covey, author of the best selling book “The 7 habits of highly effective people“, dedicated a full book for habit number three ‘First Things First‘. In this life changing book he shared new perspectives for looking at our time and leading our lives.

The first perspective I’m presenting in this video is the perspective of the ‘Roles‘ and how we ought to consider the various roles we’re playing in life and then start dividing our time over these various roles and based on the significance of each role and its importance to us.

#Self-Leadership#Slowing_Down

“Slow down and enjoy yourself a little more, don’t be so serious. Life isn’t a race.” Christiane Lemieux