David M. Butcher's Blog

January 5, 2017

Good, Bad, and Ugly

In my last post I suggested people read my book and give it a review, good, bad or ugly. One reader did just that. Her review was good, bad, and ugly at times. She went chapter by chapter. She loved some chapters (the Good) and hated parts of others (the Bad).

The problem (the Ugly) is---she read with an obvious bias and totally misunderstood those parts that "made her blood boil". She stated that "I knew what he meant" and she undoubtedly did not know what I meant in many instances.

My example in one chapter about how a man might subconsciously have a number of "musts" in his life read to her like I was describing a "perfect life" when quite the opposite was the intent. She got hung up on what constitutes a "good man" in another instance. I don't have any idea how she came up with what she says about chapter five. I did not intend to belittle anyone, cook, welfare recipient, no one. If you start out to be something else and circumstances force you to be one of these, though . . . you probably aren't going to be happy.

Read it all here: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3...
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Published on January 05, 2017 10:38 • 43 views

October 9, 2016

You May Not Like It

You may not like what I say in my book, Handling Strife. While I provide some points for living more joyfully, I also challenge some of the beliefs of the traditional Christian church. I pray, however, that you understand my reasoning. I worked hard to explain why I say what I say in the book.

Read it with an open mind and you may find yourself wondering about some things. Then you can research those things for yourself. See what you find.

If you've read this far and would be willing to read the book to provide feedback or online reviews, message me for a free copy. I welcome your challenges to my thinking and any other feedback. I appreciate any reviews, good, bad, or ugly, especially at Goodreads.com, Amazon.com, BarnesandNoble.com, or your favorite online store (200 online stores worldwide). A simple title search for "Handling Strife" will discover the book.
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Published on October 09, 2016 07:52 • 21 views • Tags: bible, bible-questions, christian, happiness, happy, self-help

September 16, 2016

Constantly Amazed!

I am amazed every time I read this book even though I wrote it. I read it several times while proofreading, editing or formatting and twice since I got the paperback proof. It is definitely inspired writing. It is available online at Amazon.com, Smashwords.com, and your favorite online eBook retailer.

A co-worker read the book recently and this is what he said about it.

Handling strife;

That is a subject that we all have to deal with, if not today, then some other day. Mr. Butcher's book provides remarkable insight and wisdom. I enjoyed the book so much that I feel strange calling him Mr. Butcher. I refer to him as Dave from here on out.

Reading Dave's book felt like sitting on his porch on a spring day drinking lemonade---two friends discussing life’s ups and downs. Even though this is a self-help book you do not get the feeling that Dave is speaking from a pure academic position. His examples of the trials he experienced in his lifetime, and his failures in dealing with them, gives you the feeling of a friend giving you the best advice he can.

I've worked with Dave for a number years now and never knew the depth of his feelings for people, his desire that no one fail to achieve in life because of strife. I read Dave's book in two days, it just fascinated me that much. I didn't want to put it down. Would I recommend his book? Yes! This opinion breaks one of the rules that my father gave me before he passed, which was ‘never give anyone advice because you can only tell them what you would do’. Read Dave's book, Handling Strife. It will be a blessing to you.

Charles E.
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Published on September 16, 2016 11:49 • 29 views • Tags: handling-strife, happier-living, happy, strife

September 15, 2016

Book Signing

I will be signing books this weekend during the craft/vendor show at the 19th Street Church of God at 19th & Murdoch in Parkersburg, WV from 8am to 4pm. I look forward to seeing you there!
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Published on September 15, 2016 16:11 • 16 views • Tags: book-signing, handling-strife

September 2, 2016

Lynch'em!

From Handling Strife.

"Remember those lynch mobs in the old Western movies? It usually took only one person, egging all the others on, to create more and more anger until they stormed the jail. If the sheriff wasn’t careful, things would get real ugly.

It still happens all over the world today. Anytime you see an angry mob, you can bet that one person or one small group pretty much started it all. One person with emotionally distorted vision riles another, who riles another, and the snowball is rolling. It happened in Ferguson and again in New York City. It happened in Baltimore, Chicago, and Cleveland.

You can see it for yourself. Look at the emails you get. That message, perhaps from a well-meaning friend, that stirs your emotions and urges you to pass it on is not a bad example of this lynch-mob phenomenon. Those messages get passed on and on because they stir emotions and distort a person’s vision and thinking.

The same thing happens for the good as well. People can convince others in a seemingly good way. Organized religion is probably a prime example. Many religious leaders advocate specific things that their congregations go along with. One example—is it truly important to determine which day of the week is the Sabbath? No wonder there are so many different denominations or schools of thought.

With only a grain of truth, people can be convinced of nearly anything. That is why con artists will make sure there is some truth in what they say. If this part is true, so is the rest, right?

There is probably some truth in the teachings of all religions, of all religious sects, of all Buddhist schools, of all Christian denominations, and all cults. With a little bit of truth, something that can be shown or experienced, a leader can convince his flock that everything else he says is true.

A person gets an idea in his head. He rationalizes it to be true. He then convinces others of his truth and they follow him. They separate themselves from others and become a new denomination, school, sect, or cult. They may be, and often are, like the blind leading the blind.

Search for the whole truth, reality, and rationality in everything. Try to understand the situation without getting emotionally involved, with empathy, not sympathy. Impassioned activism is almost always distorted, however big or small the distortion may be. When you strive to straighten others out, or to punish others for what you think they’ve done, you will probably only wind up fighting an endless fight, arguing an endless argument, and winning nothing but enemies or infamy."

Have a great day!
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Published on September 02, 2016 08:29 • 31 views • Tags: handling-strife, happier-living, happy, strife

August 27, 2016

So Confusing!

I had questions.

I had to go to church as a child. My parents and grandparents took me along. Sunday school could be fun at times and the teachers told some amazing stories.

By the time I reached my late teens, though, I had questions. Science classes and other classes in junior high and high school had taught a little bit of physics. By then I had been swimming many times and knew I couldn't walk on water, much less create a dry path through the middle of it. The story of Noah and the Ark, and other stories seemed impossible as well.

I decided it all sounded like fairy tales. Somehow, we were supposed to believe these stories and not those that were labeled as fairy tales. I no longer believed any of that crap. I quit going to church. I quit associating with church people. I became a liar, a cheat, and even a thief.

Handling Strife outlines the path I found to make my way back. It tells how I resolved many issues and eventually became a Christian freethinker. It includes some of the questions I had about religion, and how I answered some of them. Perhaps those answers can help you too.
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Published on August 27, 2016 06:05 • 29 views • Tags: christian, church, freethinker, questions, religion

July 24, 2016

How Happy Are You?

"Folks are usually happier on the way to a picnic than on the way home." Samuel Butler (1835-1902)

Are you on your way to a "picnic", so to speak? When you are pursuing your dreams with a loved one, and without undue obsession, you can be your happiest. What "picnic" is in your sights?
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Published on July 24, 2016 10:25 • 21 views