Lynn McLaughlin's Blog, page 7

Aspiring Author? Unsure of Your Next Step? It’s Time to Publish!

 

Are you a writer and hoping to publish but you have no idea where to start? My writing sat on a shelf for almost two years. When I knew I wanted to publish and started to look at options, complicated is the adjective that comes to mind! As a new author in 2017, I was taken aback about how much I did not know. Write, edit and publish a book - shouldn’t it have been that easy? How naive I was!

Four publishing options? How do we decide which one to take? That momentous decision is only one step as we continue to write. I chose to follow the Indie route and hired a consulting company for my first book. It was one of the best decisions I made. Experts were made available to me at each phase of the process, from editing to cover design and publication. Their knowledge and experience guided me as I learned how to navigate this new world. Did I make mistakes? Most certainly, but isn’t that how we all learn?

For my current book, I’ve selected a form of hybrid publishing (there are many different options within this publishing path alone). Beta readers are giving me honest feedback for the final formal edit. The public cover reveal of “Jackson” is on the horizon. It’s a very exciting time for authors - our launch day is within reach! But getting there doesn’t happen overnight. It’ a process.

It’s time to start planning the pre-sale, launch and book signing events. but what does that look like in a pandemic? There are countless options, some quite unique. We’ve all had to find solutions to problems we never imagined possible a few months ago.

There are many tricks of the trade leading to publishing, distribution and promotion. What I offer to aspiring authors is second to none. Time To Publish is a four part series and most importantly, personal and interactive which is why I limit each session to no more than 5 people. It’s driven by your goals, not mine. Do you want to save money and time while gaining knowledge without incessantly searching google and YouTube? Contact me for a free consultation. The next series begins Wednesday, August 12th! You won’t regret it.

 

Traumatic Brain Injury - with Brian Tumour Survivor, Lynn McLaughlin

 












































Featured as an On-Demand Podcast on “ Faces of TBI by Amy Zellmer” on Blog Talk Radio.

After the diagnosis of a brain tumour in 2013 and the subsequent surgery and recovery, she was able to gradually move back into her complex role as a Superintendent of Education. It meant finding different ways of communicating, working and coping as she grew to know and understand her new self. Lynn is how driven to help us become self-advocates, learning to make conscious decisions and altering potentially negative outcomes, putting ourselves in the driver’s seat. Lynn is now the host of her inspirational podcast, She is an award-winning author of her first book, "Steering Through It" 

Find Lynn's book on Amazon: https://amzn.to/36RMruE

Episode brought to you by:  Integrated Brain Center

First appeared on: https://www.blogtalkradio.com/facesoftbi/2020/06/29/traumatic-brain-injury--with-brain-tumor-survivor-lynn-mclaughlin

 

Our Hidden champions

 

Behind the Scenes…

 

Behind the scenes in every community, many people volunteer. They are giving, generous, connected to their communities and help others lead happier and healthier lives. They don’t want recognition, hide from the media and blush when someone thanks them publicly.

Linda Lynch and Lynne LaFontaine are two of our hidden community champions! In partnership, this dynamic duo coordinates the complex operations of the community food bank. These women ensure there is enough food on the shelves, schedule volunteers to open the doors of the food bank three days per week, accept donations, send thank you cards and receipts, contact clients, collect documentation and so much more. Following the Ontario order to stay at home in March, Lynne needed to take a hiatus, a choice well respected by all who know her. Linda began volunteering at the food bank 13 years ago after retiring from her teaching career. Her years of experience gave her the tools to step in and manage all operations during Lynne’s absence. Linda is very grateful that her partner has now returned to the team.

Lynne and Linda are advocates and dedicated volunteers who give of their time, knowledge and good will many days a week. Life and financial circumstances for countless people have changed due to the pandemic, with many businesses closing and the economy literally shutting down. Linda’s passion has ensured that, even with unprecedented challenges that began in March, the necessary changes have been made to keep the freezers, fridges and shelves stocked.

How is it possible to do this safely in the midst of a pandemic? This crew of remarkable people are in change mode weekly. Clients need no longer enter the building at 18 Division Street North. Food is prepackaged in boxes and bags, ready for delivery or pickup to ensure everyone stays safe with social distancing as a priority. As people arrive, food and necessities are placed into the vehicle or cart for them. You see, there is another group of volunteers donating their time, working behind the scenes as well: they accept donations, check expiration dates, package products, stock shelves, pack boxes and shop. Thanks to Rob, Jim, Guy, Andy, Matt, Marie, Mary, Sharon. Carol and the volunteers from the Kinsgsville Southshore Rotary Club, the food bank is operating safely and meeting the needs of our community.

All volunteers are in awe of the generosity of residents. At the end of each month, a list of what is needed is posted in the window. People drop off supplies at the front door or make monetary donations. A thoughtful family recently made creative gift bags for children. Local farmers and greenhouses continue to be very charitable with the contribution of fruits and vegetables including Mastronardi Produce, Nichols Orchard, Top Line Greenhouse, Allegra Acres and Five Star Farms. Green Heart graciously donates single person meals regularly. We are grateful.

The Kingsville Food Bank is not part of the larger cooperative and operates as an independent organization. It opened in 1996 in what we now refer to as the old fire hall under the leadership of Annie Metcalfe, followed by Marilyn Mayville-Allen and their teams. Needs in the community continued to grow and the food back location was changed two additional times. A series of circumstances resulted in Linda stepping in as a Coordinator for a short time three years ago. Lynne and Linda now report to a nine member Board of Directors and the food bank is funded solely through donations.

None of this would be possible without Lynne and LInda’s leadership. Their kind, caring, committed nature drives them to make every decision based on what is best for families. They are welcoming, know everyone by name and are tireless in making any change necessary to ensure the food bank will remain open every Tuesday and Thursday (9:00 am - 12:45 pm). Hours were extended to include Wednesday evenings (5 - 7 pm) several months ago through a partnership with the Kingsville Southshore Rotary Club and their active group of volunteers. Anyone who is in need is encouraged to contact the food bank at (519) 733-8591.

Thank you Lynne and Linda, our hidden champions. Who would you like to recognize and celebrate from your community?

  

“I’m sorry to tell you…”

 

It was July 13th, 2013, a day that will be forever ingrained in my memory. I was sent to the emergency department immediately following an MRI. Alone, l heard the terrifying words, “I’m sorry to tell you…you have a brain tumour”. A mother of three teenage children at the time, it almost ended my life. I am passionate about helping others not make the same mistakes I did during that year of my life. Crises come to us in many ways. How can we be empowered to survive and find our “new normal”?

It’s Brain Tumour Awareness Month in Canada. Let’s join together to raise awareness!

This is a list of common symptoms which, alone or combined, can be caused by a brain tumour (malignant or non-malignant). If you, or someone you know is experiencing any of them, consult a doctor. I ignored them for too long!

Behavioural changes

Cognitive changes

Dizziness or unsteadiness

Double or blurred vision

Frequent headaches

Hearing impairment

Morning nausea and vomiting

Seizures

Weakness or paralysis

Free resources can be ordered by mail from the Brain Tumour Foundation of Canada and supports are available for both patients and caregivers. Youtube also has webinars on a host of topics. There are over 120 different types of brain tumours, making treatment complex.

Although as many as 60% of children with brain tumours will survive, they are often left with long term side effects.

In May 2019 the Brain Tumour Registry of Canada was launched with the goal of collecting data on every malignant and non-malignant brain tumour in Canada. The first Canadian Survival Report is now available with excellent information which will drive research. The Foundation is committed to research that is changing treatment options and improving the quality of life for patients.

Every day 27 Canadians hear the same shocking words I did almost 7 years ago. On Saturday, June 27th Canadians from coast to coast will join together for our virtual community walks. My team, “The Tumour Raiders” is only one of hundreds across Canada.

“Turn May Grey ” has interesting meaning this year with hair salons closed. Many of us certainly are, in a way we never predicted! There are many ways to support: join or sponsor a team or individual for the walk in June, make a donation, share this information to raise awareness or cheer us on!

 

My Gift to You - WHO WOULD HAVE IMAGINED?

  












































 

Six weeks ago, who were you spending time with? What were you doing?

Two of our children were finishing mid-terms in pursuit of their degrees. Our oldest was in the midst of his research, studying for his PHD. Ken and I were ripping out our old kitchen and replacing all the “pieces” step by step.

I was excited to have been a guest speaker at three events at the end of February and beginning of March and looking forward to those booked for the future. My college students had all begun their field placements with success. My podcast series was off and running and second book entering the cover design stage. My husband, a retired police officer, was working part time as a FEDEx driver.

FULL STOP.

We were hearing reports of a virus overseas. We’ve had them before. Wasn’t that too far away to really worry about in Essex County? The Covid-19 journal I began a month ago attests to how quickly things changed… daily if not hourly. Unprecedented, to say the least.

If you’re out of the country, come home.

Your travel insurance will be suspended in 10 days.

The border is closed. Vultures are cleaning out the grocery stores.

Local shops, small business owners are shut down with two days notice.

Schools and childcare centres are closing.

Only essential services remain open.

HOLD ON!

Retired medical practitioners and first responders are being hired back to work. Health care workers are on the front line. We’re searching for masks, face shields, medical gowns and ventilators. Field hospitals are being created. Businesses are re-tooling to make what we desperately need to survive. An entire generation in Italy and Spain have now been taken by this thing. It’s coming our way. One. Ten. Fifty. Almost three hundred…confirmed cases in our county and continuing to grow. People are ill, fighting for their lives. Long term care and retirement homes are locked down. Over one million people in Canada are now without employment.

Today, we say, “We have to flatten the curve.”

Today, nurses, doctors and first responders are staying in hotels or living in trailers to keep their families safe.

Today, we’re checking in on family and friends through online video chats.

Today, elementary, secondary, college and university students and teachers have moved to online learning, including myself and my children.

Today, we line up and wait six feet away from each other to enter a pharmacy or grocery store.

Today, we suffer heartache and can’t visit those in hospitals or palliative care…can’t come together to grieve the loss of a friend or loved one.

This is more than real. It’s incomprehensible. The coming weeks and months will be like nothing we have known before. People we know and love will fall ill. Businesses will close their doors permanently. People will have no job to go back to. Reality is about to smack each of us in the face, if it hasn’t already.

The world is giving us time to re-set in countless ways. Environmentally, we’ve had a drop in global emissions, waterways are running clear, air pollution has dropped substantially in major cities around the world. We have direct evidence of the positive impact we’ve have as human beings on our planet, because we’ve been forced to. We can’t ignore this and go back to the way things were. We have a responsibility to learn and re-envision a new normal with the power to create what that new normal will be - for ourselves, our communities and this world. This time can also be seen as a gift for those of us blessed to be staying home. Time to self-reflect, heal, read, be with our families...Time to find ourselves and what really brings us happiness and fulfillment...Time to take a stance and decide that we’re not going back to the treadmill of “stuff”. We’ll move forward with a new sense of purpose and realization of what really matters. Let’s not settle for anything less.

Today, I’m making masks as my “gift” to people. Who would have ever imagined?

 

If you could go back in time…

 

Once a month, I get together with two long time friends for a walk along the trails somewhere in our county. The Chrysler Greenway runs for 42 kms along the length of the old railway lines, giving us countless locations to choose from. Walking in nature is uplifting in and of itself, but catching up with friends during that time makes it a perfect two hours.

A short time ago, we decided to meet close to the area where I lived during my childhood. From the time I was 10 years old, my mother and 3 siblings lived in a farmhouse on the outskirts of McGregor, Ontario.

My friends and I started walking south along the trail, where trains used to barrel by, a couple of acres behind the farmhouse. Almost immediately, I started pointing and sharing memories: “That was the corn field we loved to play hide and seek in; There’s the remnants of the barn where we used to laugh hysterically as we jumped into the hay loft; The field where the horses roamed; Where my sister screamed as she fell and broke her collar bone…”

My mother used to say she had to “steal from Peter to pay Paul” to save for rent and make ends meet every month. We couldn’t afford to heat the upstairs in the winter and closed off that area of the house. We ran a water line from the well once a week to fill the reservoir in the basement. We were happy because that’s all that mattered to my mom. Family - there is nothing more important. She instilled that in each of us and her legacy lives on.

Smiling, I had a vision of myself as a 10 year old, running through the corn fields and stopping suddenly. The young, “me” glanced over to see her 56 year old self walking by. Time Warp! What had she imagined her life would be like 46 years later? What was that young girl thinking of in those times? Her dreams? Her fears? My dreams and fears as I struggled to figure out my life’s path.

If you could go back in time would you change anything? It serves no purpose to dwell on what could have or should have happened. But, are we achieving our goals? Have we overcome obstacles by challenging and confronting our fears? What’s stopping us from finding our “why” and true purpose in this life? Reflecting and learning from the choices we made along the way can guide us now and in our futures. Perhaps in the coming weeks, as many of us self-isolate due to the COVID-19, we can take this time as an opportunity to refocus, reconnect and make positive choices for ourselves and those we love.

 

Interview by AllAuthor

 















































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Where did you grow up as a child? What was your favourite holiday as a child and why?

I grew up on the outskirts of McGregor, a small town in Southern Ontario. When I was in grade 4, we moved two times and I attended three different schools that year. For a few months that year, we lived with our cousins in Wheatly, Ontario. There were 9 of us between the ages of 4 and 11. I will never forget that Christmas morning. Imagine nine children excitedly sneaking around before dawn, thinking we were fooling our parents. The gifts under the tree came right to the door of the room. Christmas was my mom's favourite time of year and I follow in her footsteps because it brings are families together.

What did being an author mean to you as a child? What does it mean to you now?

I was always an avid reader. I loved writing and entered contests in my elementary school with, "Our Little House" from the perspective of the oldest of four children in a single parent household. It was a winner when I was in grade 7 and I think what ignited my love of writing. I cherish the journals I wrote through high school until today.

What was the first memoir you ever read and how did it change you?

Not Without My Daughter by Betty Mahmoody. It opened up a world of which I had limited understanding of. The horrors of what was happening on the other side of the world became real because of the author’s talent in telling the story.

What is "Steering Through It' about? How did you come up with this name?

The book was written and had been formally edited. There were at least three titles but I was not happy with any of them. "Steering Through It' came as a result of a conversation between my husband and I while commuting one day. The title then lead to renaming chapter headings and linking the theme of sailing throughout the book. The design of the cover then began, with a talented artist (Sari Richter). The cover says it all!

Since how long have you been a member of 100 Women Who Care Windsor/Essex?

I joined 100 Women Who Care in 2018 after hearing about it from a friend. We make an immediate postiive impact in our neighbourhoods.

Why did you decide to retire from being the Superintendent of Education with the Greater Essex County District School Board in September of 2018?

That is not an easy question. I loved my position and was inspired by the difference my team was making for our students, staff and families. It was becoming more and more challenging to maintain a healthy lifestyle after I returned to work following my illness. I promised myself and my family that my health would be a priority. Although I don't dwell on it, I know there is a chance of a brain tumour recurence, which keeps me grounded. My career was very important to me but it does not identify me as a person. I am very active, have begun my own business, hosting a podcast called, "Taking the Helm", public speaking and loving every minute.

How was your experience of completing your first Detroit International 1/2 Marathon in November 2019?

Incredibly emotional! I was very committed to training for six months prior to the event but was still uncertain about whether or not I would be able to meet my goal. Rounding the bend for the last 1/2 mile was overwhelmingly triumpant and emotional. I joined my team members, all of whom crossed the finish line despite challenges.

What challenges do your face while teaching future Educational Assistants at St. Clair College?

I love teaching and was excited to be back with a group of students again. It's a very big part of who I am. My only challenge was learning the policies and procedures of the college.

What sparked the idea for "Steering Through It: Navigating Life-Threatening Illness...Acceptance, Survival and Healing?"

I began journalling when I was diagnosed with a brain tumour. Those journals kept me sane throughout the repeated triumphs and failures. A year after my surgery, it was very clear to me that my family and I could help others going through a life changing event.

How difficult it was to share your most personal thoughts, fears and triumphs over the most challenging year of your life with your readers?

My personal "story" is not difficult to share at all. There are countless life lessons that I speak about now, hoping to guide others to make decisions today, rather than waiting for that moment when life stops. It was the experiences of my family that were first difficult to share. Until they wrote about it, I really had no idea what had been happening behind the scenes. It was truly moving.

What kind of takeaway do you want your readers to get from readings your books based on issues that impact the search for justice and equal opportunity in the modern world?

Advocacy! We have to advocate for ourselves and if we are caring for someone who is not in the position to do so, then we must act on their behalf. We should first, understand the diagnosis and treatment options. Only do research on reputable medical based sites. There are many "words of advice" throughout the book.

How did you keep up your mental and emotional strength while dealing with and surviving a brain tumour?

I wouldn't let myself attack it in any other way. I kept negativity away and welcomed anything that anyone wanted to offer. Even if I was not feeling up to it, when someone wanted to visit, I opened the door. I set daily goals which were very small. After each week, the growth/change was incredibly celebratory. One small step at a time.

How do you think concepts such as Kindle, and e-books have changed the present or future of reading?

Books are more accessible. We can order them from the comfort of our own home. They are less expensive than paperbacks or hardcovers.

What book ideas are you currently working on?

My second book is about to go into the cover design stage and the release date will be early this summer. It's very different thank Steering Through It and I know is going to change lives! It's a very exciting time when something you have been working on for so long is coming to fruition! I will begin planning the launch in April.

Finally. what intrigued you most about the AllAuthor website? As a premium member now, have your thoughts about it changed?

A fellow writer recommended it. I had never heard of it before. There are many options, some of which I am not taking full advantage of. I love the mockups that I recieve monthy, with the option of flagging the ones I like out of the multitude of options. The seasonal and magic tool are very unique as well. I have been asked to "pilot" or "research" things before they are launched and provide feedback, which is fun to do as an author. The Magic Tool was one example. The GIFs, Tweets, video banners - many options available to us. Also, our facebook group is interactive and within a very short period of time, when someone asks a question, it is answered. That is greatly appreciated!

Source: https://allauthor.com/interview/lynnmcla/

 

Meet our first three exceptional guests!

 

It’s time to celebrate the truly remarkable people we have all around us. I’ve been grappling with what I can do to share the strength, drive, passion and commitment of countless people I’ve had the pleasure of meeting.

The Podcast, “Taking the Helm” is my solution! In each podcast episode, we’ll get to know people who have taken risks, who’ve thrown themselves out there - to create something they’ve dreamed of. Some have given up careers to pursue their passion. Others have ventured into becoming entrepreneurs. Each offers inspiration through their own experiences and learning. It’s an honour to act as your host and share these conversations and unique leaders with you. I hope you will listen to each and every episode. There’s so much for us to learn and experience ourselves.

We’ve got three incredible episodes being launched today. You can listen directly from my web page or subscribe to one of the podcast platforms (Apple, Spotify, Anchor, Breaker or Overcast). I’d love it if you would join my mailing list for updates. Enjoy!

“Remember that there are two kinds of pain in life: the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. Choose one.”

Michael Angelo Caruso, from Michigan, is an internationally recognized author and speaker. Michael has educated and entertained audiences all over the world, including the Middle East, the Caribbean, and 49 of the 50 states. His presentations include keynote speeches, seminars and webinars. He now teaches presentation skills, drawing on his unique background. In this interview, Michael shares the life-changing event that moved him into this business, tricks of the trade, his “Present Like a Pro” course and much more!

“It is easier to build up a child than it is to repair an adult”

Amie Elias owns “Doors to Healing”, operating out of the Stone House, a lakefront wellness retreat privately tucked along Lake Erie. She is a certified Traumatic Incident Reduction (TIR) and Life Stress Reduction (LSR) Facilitator. Amie also runs one on one addictions programs and Mindfulness & Meditation workshops. That’s just a drop in the bucket! She shares much more in this podcast interview. Attestations from clients who have worked with Amie in person and virtually are indicative of the remarkable difference she is making in their lives!

“You can have it all- better health, unstoppable confidence, more energy and success. The ONLY thing is your way is the beliefs telling you that you can't!”

Tina Brigley of Essex Ontario, took a huge risk in her life when she left her career as a teacher to help us breakthrough to be unstoppable. You are a powerhouse and people fear the day you discover that! You can have it all- better health, unstoppable confidence, more energy and success. The ONLY thing in your way is the beliefs telling you that you can't!

 

Conscious, positive choices

 

As an educator for 31 years, I loved my career. The concrete evidence of the direct impact I had on my students drove me forward every day, regardless of what role I was in. That’s what it’s all about, and should be.

Yet, there is conflict, too often. Whatever our profession, conflict is part of life. Not only in the world of work, but in our own homes. Aren’t conflicts a good thing? Shouldn’t they drive us to discussions and deeper understandings of the issue and possible resolutions? Without them, how would any organization move forward? Differences of opinion are wonderful and needed, but when we react and don’t use the tools at our disposal, the end result is increased worry, stress levels and negative affects on our own health. How do we take personal control and rise above it?

Awareness. The first step to facing conflict has to be becoming aware of our personal responses in any given situation. Do we engage in the negative dialogue in the lunchroom and perpetuate the downward spiral? Do we complain about co-workers, family members or neighbours? Do we argue with our partners over things that are inconsequential? Why do we initiate or engage in negativity?

What if? What if the next time someone tries to pull us into their own conflict, we choose to not engage? Do we choose to not enter that downward spiral? Do we choose to become aware that participating may have negative consequences? What if we could become aware that our own actions could be the cause of conflict before it even starts? I’m not suggesting we walk away from issues that matter, but how much of the stress in our lives is avoidable by conscious choice?

Over the holidays my husband and oldest son began a conversation about the pros and cons of proportional representation in Canadian politics. They are polar opposites, and needless to say, they each spoke their piece. I caught myself wanting to jump in, getting upset over some of the arguments that went against what I believed was right. I entered “defensive mode,” so to say. Because I caught myself, I immediately made a decision to not engage, but to listen and ask questions. I listened to understand, stopping myself from becoming upset. It made a difference. The conversation continued while I agreed to disagree with some, but not all of the points that were made.

I made a conscious decision not to engage and “argue” my points, finding middle ground. My blood pressure stayed steady, with no anger, no stress. I continued to enjoy our time together throughout the evening. No one walked away, upset about something we each care about.

As we move through our day, we can learn to be aware of what we bring to any given situation. We can pause before engaging and consider what other options are at our disposal. We can reset our reactionary mode by learning to be aware and making the conscious choice to rise above what is pulling ourselves and others down. We won’t only decrease our own stress levels, but those around us and maybe, just maybe… change the outcome to a positive one!

 

It's Launch Day! This is the day we’ve been waiting for with anticipation!

 












































 

For the last two months, we’ve been working behind the scenes to build a powerful platform and a brand new website. My memoir, “Steering Through It” was the beginning of this journey. Writing the book allowed me to move forward in many ways after my illness. But what happened afterward has been the driving force! I’ve met and gotten to know so many people around the world in the last year: fellow authors, entrepreneurs, survivors, caregivers, professional speakers and…and..and… These networks are exciting places to be as we all learn, inspire and grow with each other. Welcome to Lynn McLaughlin Co.

We now offers several options to you:

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Public speaking has become near and dear to my heart. We each have the power within us to make positive choices and changes in our lives - today! It comes down to whether or not we choose to do so.

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When I wrote my first book, I was naive enough to think I could navigate the world of editing, publishing, marketing, promotion and… and… and.. It’s far too complex. If you are a writer/author, take a look at the consulting page. I’m thrilled to offer you an opportunity so you don’t have to struggle the way I did.

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I continue to write and am publishing another book this spring! It's very different than the first and I can’t wait to share it with you!

Building this website would not have been possible without the expertise of Francis Yap, Chief Digital Confidant of Mission Informatics. Francis is kind, caring, brilliant, creative and committed. Linking a number of platforms to this site was very complex, but Francis was able to make the connections with expertise. I recommend him, without question, to anyone who is looking to begin or improve their current site! He can be reached at 1-833-277-9400. Thank you to my new friend, Francis!

I hope you have fun with what we’ve created and please join our community! Feel free to reach out to me at any time through the “Connect Page” or by scheduling an appointment.

All the best of health and happiness to you and yours,

 

Lynn McLaughlin

 

“If we did not have each other, what really would matter?”

(Excerpt from the memoir “Steering Through It” by Lynn McLaughlin)