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“Creativity could be described as letting go of certainties.”
Gail Sheehy
“If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living.”
Gail Sheehy
“Would that there were an award for people who come to understand the concept of enough. Good enough. Successful enough. Thin enough. Rich enough. Socially responsible enough. When you have self-respect, you have enough”
Gail Sheehy
“To be tested is good. The challenged life may be the best therapist.”
Gail Sheehy
“THE GREAT HEROISM OF A SOBER LIFE is getting up in the morning and facing the day, greeting others, going out into the world with something to give. When we are in the grave of our own thoughts, feeling like we will never be able to crawl back out, our fingernails packed with dirt, how is it that sometime later we can be laughing, and laughing hard?”
Gail Sheehy, Daring: My Passages: A Memoir
“It is no longer enough to be competent and promising; a man wants now to be recognized and respected.”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“ONE OF THE terrifying aspects of the twenties is the conviction that the choices we make are irrevocable. If we choose a graduate school or join a firm, get married or don’t marry, move to the suburbs or forego travel abroad, decide against children or against a career, we fear in our marrow that we might have to live with that choice forever.”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“50, there is a new warmth and mellowing. Friends become more important than ever, but so does privacy. Since it is so often proclaimed by people past midlife, the motto of this stage might be “No more bullshit.”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“The other real forces urging young people into marriages generally sift down to one of the following: the need for safety, the need to fill some vacancy in themselves, the need to get away from home, the need for prestige or practicality. Safety”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“I was”
Gail Sheehy, Daring: My Passages: A Memoir
“Here was a dyed-in-the-brine Cape Cod, Massachusetts, man who dropped into New York State on a carpetbag and used his slain brother’s gilded connections to help win a Senate seat.”
Gail Sheehy, Daring: My Passages: A Memoir
“man who dropped into New York State on a carpetbag”
Gail Sheehy, Daring: My Passages: A Memoir
“early marriage usually foreclosed the possibility of a career dream.”
Gail Sheehy, Daring: My Passages: A Memoir
“The secret of a leader lies in the tests he has faced over the whole course of his life and the habit of action he develops in meeting those tests.”
Gail Sheehy
“What is the first thing young people ask about in job interviews today: What are the health benefits? When I asked a savvy focus group of New Yorkers in their mid-twenties, “How safe do you feel—about sex, money, relationships, marriage, street violence, job security?” The response was urgent and unanimous. “None of the above. Unsafe on all levels. At all times.” And”
Gail Sheehy, New Passages
“There is nothing wrong with projecting this false self to the outside world during these early striving years, so long as it isn’t too distant or disconnected from who we really are. Later, in the forties and fifties, it becomes imperative to find our way back to the truest things we know and to compose a more authentic self. Now”
Gail Sheehy, New Passages
“The forties are the time to rediscover community on a more realistic plane. Before this decade is out, if you are determined to become authentically yourself, you will find a way to assemble all the parts of your nature into one whole. You will have to stop pretending to be the person you have been and begin to recognize and ultimately accept who, or what, you are becoming.”
Gail Sheehy, New Passages
“Further discomfort from these new realities afflicts men who expected to reach a certain level by dint of their white maleness but who now have to make room for women and minorities as well as their own generational bulge. The old boy network doesn’t help them much anymore.”
Gail Sheehy, New Passages
“It is frightening to step off onto the treacherous footbridge leading to the second half of life. We can’t take everything with us on this journey through uncertainty. Along the way, we discover that we are alone. We no longer have to ask permission because we are the providers of our own safety. We must learn to give ourselves permission. We stumble upon feminine or masculine aspects of our natures that up to this time have usually been masked. There is grieving to be done because an old self is dying. By taking in our suppressed and even our unwanted parts, we prepare at the gut level for the reintegration of an identity that is ours and ours alone—not some artificial form put together to please the culture or our mates. It is a dark passage at the beginning. But by disassembling ourselves, we can glimpse the light and gather our parts into a renewal.”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“The career acceleration that for so many men precedes any inner survey also serves to delay it. By the time the true and sobering issues that are driving them forward begin to insist on acknowledgment, the impact may be more cruel. A crucible rather than a survey. Jung”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“No matter how different the forms we choose, our concentration during the Trying Twenties is on mastering what we feel we are supposed to do.”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“The tasks of this period are as enormous as they are exhilarating: To shape a dream, that vision of one’s own possibilities in the world that will generate energy, aliveness, and hope. To prepare for a lifework. To find a mentor if possible. And to form the capacity for intimacy without losing in the process whatever constancy of self we have thus far assembled. The first test structure must be erected around the life we choose to try. One”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“THE SHOULDS ARE defined by the family destiny, the press of the culture, and/or the prejudices of our peers.”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“Perfect” is that person we imbue with the capacity to enliven and support our vision or the person we believe in and want to help.”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“Many of us are not consciously aware of such fears. With enough surface bravado to fool the people we meet, we fool ourselves as well. But the memory of formlessness is never far beneath. So we hasten to try on life’s uniforms”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“And to what degree does the young woman invent the man she marries? She often sees in him possibilities that no one else recognizes and pictures herself within his dream as the one person who truly understands. Such illusions are the stuff of which the twenties are made.3”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“The illusions of the twenties, however, may be essential to infuse our first commitments with excitement and intensity, and to sustain us in those commitments long enough to gain us some experience in living. The”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“Doubts immobilize. Believing that we are independent and competent enough to master the external tasks constantly fortifies us in our attempts to become so. It is only later we discover that logic cannot penetrate the loneliness of the human soul. One”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“We are utterly convinced that all our notions spring full blown, as if by magic, from our own unique selves. At”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life
“If there’s something about me you don’t like, just tell me,” says the newlywed anxious to please. “I’ll change it.” If he or she is not forthcoming with such an offer, the other one is determined to change it for the partner. “He may drink a little too much now,” the bride confides to her friend, “but I’ll reform him.” Examination”
Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life

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