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What defines a nice man? And how do you make him submit to your own terms?
Hi Jasmine, A nice man is considerate of your feelings and treats you with respect. You can't make a man submit to your terms. You can find a way to effectively communicate them. If he's into you, he'll want to please you. If not, he won't make you happy. Of course, this is a simplified explanation. I posted my recent blog here about how to get top treatment from men. It explains it in more depth. https://www.goodreads.com/author_blog...
What is a good way to counter men who say they should demand the best from us too, in the same way that you say we should demand men do things only our way?
I like your thinking but the modern men I've encountered seem to be turned off by the idea that they should always have to pay and put all the effort in.
Jasmine, I am not suggesting that you demand men do things only our way. How do these conversations with these men come up? Actions speak louder than words. If he's not giving you what you need, then it may be best to stop seeing him. If you want him to pay, I don't recommend you tell him that. Just don't offer. If he wants you to pay then don't go out with him again. It's not effective to argue with a man who doesn't want to treat you well. A nice man wants to make you happy. He doesn't want to argue with you. But telling a man what to do often doesn't go well. (less)
Few seem to have the cash to fund my lifestyle these days :/
Hopefully you'll meet someone else. You've inspired me to write a blog post on this topic. Thank you!
I'll look out for it!
The issue is also that the top rich men seem to have a lot of options.
Yes they do. Are you just looking for someone rich? What about someone nice?
They have to be many things. Including submissive. As you say, we should not settle for anything less than what we deserve.
A female-led relationship. Where the man accepts my needs and wants always come first. Does your book help with this?
Jasmine, are you sure this is what you really want? Do you want a little boy or a man? Although a good man will always be considerate of your needs, he’s going to sometimes have his own. If you are the mommy and he’s the little boy who has to do whatever you want, it might not be much of a turn-on for either of you.
He can still be a man and accept female authority over him.
Accepting female influence is an important factor in a successful relationship. But the man still has needs. How can he always put your needs first and still be his own person?
I thought that was the point of your book. Female needs always coming first.
I think you may have misunderstood. I advocate women getting top treatment from men. That doesn't mean her needs always come first. A healthy relationship involves some amount of compromise. Many women are too willing to compromise and need to stand up for themselves so they get the best treatment from a man.I'm not saying their needs always come first. (less)
Here is the blog post you inspired about demanding versus expecting respect. I appreciate your help. https://beyourownbrandofsexy.com/how-...
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Hi Jasmine, A nice man is considerate of your feelings and treats you with respect. You can't make a man submit to your terms. You can find a way to effectively communicate them. If he's into you, he'll want to please you. If not, he won't make you happy. Of course, this is a simplified explanation. I posted my recent blog here about how to get top treatment from men. It explains it in more depth. https://www.goodreads.com/author_blog...
What is a good way to counter men who say they should demand the best from us too, in the same way that you say we should demand men do things only our way?I like your thinking but the modern men I've encountered seem to be turned off by the idea that they should always have to pay and put all the effort in.
Jasmine, I am not suggesting that you demand men do things only our way. How do these conversations with these men come up? Actions speak louder than words. If he's not giving you what you need, then it may be best to stop seeing him. If you want him to pay, I don't recommend you tell him that. Just don't offer. If he wants you to pay then don't go out with him again. It's not effective to argue with a man who doesn't want to treat you well. A nice man wants to make you happy. He doesn't want to argue with you. But telling a man what to do often doesn't go well. (less)
Few seem to have the cash to fund my lifestyle these days :/
Hopefully you'll meet someone else. You've inspired me to write a blog post on this topic. Thank you!
I'll look out for it!The issue is also that the top rich men seem to have a lot of options.
Yes they do. Are you just looking for someone rich? What about someone nice?
They have to be many things. Including submissive. As you say, we should not settle for anything less than what we deserve.
A female-led relationship. Where the man accepts my needs and wants always come first. Does your book help with this?
Jasmine, are you sure this is what you really want? Do you want a little boy or a man? Although a good man will always be considerate of your needs, he’s going to sometimes have his own. If you are the mommy and he’s the little boy who has to do whatever you want, it might not be much of a turn-on for either of you.
He can still be a man and accept female authority over him.
Accepting female influence is an important factor in a successful relationship. But the man still has needs. How can he always put your needs first and still be his own person?
I thought that was the point of your book. Female needs always coming first.
I think you may have misunderstood. I advocate women getting top treatment from men. That doesn't mean her needs always come first. A healthy relationship involves some amount of compromise. Many women are too willing to compromise and need to stand up for themselves so they get the best treatment from a man.I'm not saying their needs always come first. (less)
Here is the blog post you inspired about demanding versus expecting respect. I appreciate your help. https://beyourownbrandofsexy.com/how-...
