“Teenage girls, please don’t worry about being super popular in high school, or being the best actress in high school, or the best athlete. Not only do people not care about any of that the second you graduate, but when you get older, if you reference your successes in high school too much, it actually makes you look kind of pitiful, like some babbling old Tennessee Williams character with nothing else going on in her current life. What I’ve noticed is that almost no one who was a big star in high school is also big star later in life. For us overlooked kids, it’s so wonderfully fair.”
Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?
“Real isn't how you are made,' said the Skin Horse. 'It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.'
'Does it hurt?' asked the Rabbit.
'Sometimes,' said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. 'When you are Real you don't mind being hurt.'
'Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,' he asked, 'or bit by bit?'
'It doesn't happen all at once,' said the Skin Horse. 'You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand.”
The Velveteen Rabbit
“Friendship is often the special catalyst required for us to reach our aims. Whether you’re trying to finish college or run a marathon, having a friend beside you, pursuing the same objective, eases and quickens the journey. One study provides a particularly touching metaphor for the concept while proving its strength: Researchers had subjects wear backpacks while standing at the bottom of a hill. They then estimated the hill’s steepness. Some were next to friends, and others stood alone. Being with friends made subjects perceive the hill as less steep; being with long-term friends decreased their estimate of the hill’s steepness even more.”
Friendfluence: The Surprising Ways Friends Make Us Who We Are
“Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl.
Men actually think this girl exists. Maybe they’re fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl. For a long time Cool Girl offended me. I used to see men – friends, coworkers, strangers – giddy over these awful pretender women, and I’d want to sit these men down and calmly say: You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss them. I’d want to grab the poor guy by his lapels or messenger bag and say: The bitch doesn’t really love chili dogs that much – no one loves chili dogs that much! And the Cool Girls are even more pathetic: They’re not even pretending to be the woman they want to be, they’re pretending to be the woman a man wants them to be. Oh, and if you’re not a Cool Girl, I beg you not to believe that your man doesn’t want the Cool Girl. It may be a slightly different version – maybe he’s a vegetarian, so Cool Girl loves seitan and is great with dogs; or maybe he’s a hipster artist, so Cool Girl is a tattooed, bespectacled nerd who loves comics. There are variations to the window dressing, but believe me, he wants Cool Girl, who is basically the girl who likes every fucking thing he likes and doesn’t ever complain. (How do you know you’re not Cool Girl? Because he says things like: “I like strong women.” If he says that to you, he will at some point fuck someone else. Because “I like strong women” is code for “I hate strong women.”)”
The Seasonal Reading Challenge
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Do you want to broaden your reading horizons and discover new books, authors and genres? Do you love reading challenges? Do you live for competition?Do you want to broaden your reading horizons and discover new books, authors and genres?
Do you love reading challenges?
Do you live for competition?
Do you have a hard time deciding what you want to read next?
Or do you simply enjoy discussing books with fellow readers?
Each season (Winter, Spring, Summer, Fall) presents a new challenge with a series of reading related tasks. Each task is assigned a point level and then it's up to you to decide which tasks you'll attempt (or if you want to try to finish them all!) and then find and read the books that fit. It’s a fun way to stretch your reading radius and discover new books, authors, and genres. But be careful…it’s addictive! Your to-be-read shelf may never be the same!
Begun by Cynthia in The Next Best Book Club, the SRC has grown through the participation of its members. To find out more about how the Seasonal Reading Challenge works, and how YOU can be a part of it, check out The Seasonal Reading Challenge Explained and Getting Started....more
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This group is for college students, recent grads, and those in their 20's to talk about what they are reading, college life, and about life in generalThis group is for college students, recent grads, and those in their 20's to talk about what they are reading, college life, and about life in general. We have fun & joke, support each other, and talk about everything book related. We might make you even more obsessed with books than you are. But I promise it's a good time here!
We have 2 group reads per month that are optional but always a good time to discuss the book together.. so join in!
There are a variety of threads to choose from and it might seem overwhelming! Use the New Members section as your guide.
You can find us on Facebook, Twitter, and we now blog-- www.brokeandbookish.blogspot.com...more
Book Riot's Read Harder Challenge
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An annual reading challenge to to help you stretch your reading limits and explore new voices, worlds, and genres! The challenge begins January, 2015,An annual reading challenge to to help you stretch your reading limits and explore new voices, worlds, and genres! The challenge begins January, 2015, but you can jump in at any time!
(See the original post on Book Riot introducing the challenge here: http://ow.ly/FZLwd)...more
The Next Best Book Club
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Are you searching for the NEXT best book? Are you willing to kiss all your spare cash goodbye? Are you easily distracted by independent bookshops, bigAre you searching for the NEXT best book?
Are you willing to kiss all your spare cash goodbye? Are you easily distracted by independent bookshops, big name book stores, and library or used book sales? Are your bookshelves currently a little tight of space?
Joining this group is highly addictive. In a matter of weeks, your TBR list will be longer than you are tall, you will be wondering how the heck you walked into a bookstore for one little book, and walked out with two bags crammed full of new novels you never knew you wanted. Your bookshelves will be bursting at the seams and you wont remember what color the rug was as it will be buried under all the new purchases you have made!
We are not here to hold you back, or pat your hand as you try to be strong and cut back on your purchases. We will be rallying behind you, chanting your name as you enter the bookstore, and we will throw a book-party in your honor when you come back and share all the wonderful new books youve adopted with us!
I would love for you to follow TNBBC on Facebook and Twitter!!! And be sure to check out book reviews and special indie series and spotlights on TheNextBestBookBlog.blogspot.com.
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and also check out the Rules for posting those types of threads under the "Rules/ Important Announcements" folder. ...more
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A place for audiobook lovers to discuss their favorite books.