“Relationships are treated like Dixie cups. They are the same. They are disposable. If it does not work, drop it, throw it away, get another. Committed bonds (including marriage) cannot last when this is the prevailing logic. Most of us are unclear about what to do to protect and strengthen caring bonds when our self-centered needs are not being met.”
All About Love: New Visions
“Genuine love is rarely an emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment...'dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love -- which is to transform us.' Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want to do nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.”
“The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them”
No Man Is an Island
The Blerd Book Club
— 642 members
— last activity Nov 17, 2015 05:26AM
We are many minds wrapped around a good book. This is a book club for blerds, nerds, bleeks, and geeks to discuss, review, and reflect on the books thWe are many minds wrapped around a good book. This is a book club for blerds, nerds, bleeks, and geeks to discuss, review, and reflect on the books they love.
Uptown Girls Harlem Book Club
— 46 members
— last activity Sep 23, 2015 06:38AM
We meet once a month at various New York City locations to discuss books, food, and life.