Barbara - Rochester, MI (18 books)

Barbara is now friends with Alexandre Couto de Andrade

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The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder by Randi Kreger

The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells
by Randi Kreger

read in December, 2008

My rating:

I thought nothing could ever top the first book Randi Kreger co-wrote ("Stop Walking on Eggshells") but her newest book does it---I wish I could give ten stars instead of five. This seemingly simple book is one of the top five most useful books I've ...moreI thought nothing could ever top the first book Randi Kreger co-wrote ("Stop Walking on Eggshells") but her newest book does it---I wish I could give ten stars instead of five. This seemingly simple book is one of the top five most useful books I've ever read in my life---I've already reread it twice, and will be reading it again in the years to come to help keep me in the right mental place. If you want to not only understand emotionally troubled people, but also do something concrete to help yourself, push the button and order this book right now.

There are so many powerful and easy-to-use tools provided in this book that it's tough to figure out which ones to mention in this review. They all give concrete answers to the seemingly unanswerable question that always arises whenever you're faced by a troubled personality--what do you do about it?

For example, I've always heard that you need to "set firm limits" with people who would overstep your boundaries. But personally, I never really quite understood what the word "limits" actually meant, and I certainly didn't know how to set them. Nothing I ever read on the topic helped much, because what little I found was so vague.

But Randi gives example after concrete example of what limit setting actually means in a variety of situations, emphasizing throughout that it's important to understand your own greater sense of what's fair and right for yourself as well as for others. Her chapter on uncovering what keeps you feeling "stuck" provides a terrific explanation of a problem in relationships with people who are troubled. In the chapter on communication, Randi describes precisely how to communicate and actually be heard.

And the good news is that it IS possible to get your troubled person to make changes---Randi tells precisely how to do it, even while you are improving your own health and life.

If you are dealing with a person who is making your life miserable and who leaves you constantly feeling as if you are walking on eggshells, you need this extraordinary book.(less)

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In Cold Blood
by Truman Capote

read in December, 2008

My rating:

I like true crime books, and "In Cold Blood" is supposed to be the first of the genre. But because the book was written half a century ago, by someone who's veracity on the details had been questioned, I just never got around to reading it. Until n...more

Barbara is on page 61 of 272 of On Being Certain

On Being Certain: Believing You Are Right Even When You're Not
by Robert A. Burton

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The Alphabet Versus the Goddess by Leonard Shlain

The Alphabet Versus the Goddess: The Conflict Between Word and Image
by Leonard Shlain

read in December, 2008

My rating:

What an interesting hypothesis--that acquisition of literacy goes hand-in-hand, through history, with misogyny. The scope of Shlain's work is truly breathtaking--I would sit here thinking "if 200 would be a theoretical maximum for IQs, Leonard Shlai...more

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Why Buildings Stand Up by Mario Salvadori

Why Buildings Stand Up: The Strength of Architecture
by Mario Salvadori

read in November, 2008

My rating:

I'll admit upfront that I only got halfway through this book and I'm labeling it as "read" because I can't make myself pick it up again. It had been recommended to me by a student, so I excitedly asked my class this past semester to purchase and rea...more

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The Kingdom Of Infinite Space by Raymond Tallis

The Kingdom Of Infinite Space: A Portrait Of Your Head
by Raymond Tallis

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The Hand: A Philosophical Inquiry into Human Being
by Raymond Tallis

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Barbara liked Tatiana's review of Love and Louis XIV:

" so, definitely not a book i would have picked up on my own. but my roommate was right when she said it was oddly fascinating. basically an in depth look at the french court of louis XIV, concentrating on the women, it's almost like reading us week... "
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Love and Louis XIV: The Women in the Life of the Sun King
by Antonia Fraser

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I very much enjoyed learning about Louis XIV's court loves and lifestyle. Perhaps it was just Lady Antonia Fraser's spin on things, but I found the many women who Louis XIV loved were genuinely decent human beings, (although Madame de Montespan cert...more

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Barbara gave to: The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells by Randi Kreger read in December, 2008	My rating:
I thought nothing could ever top the first book Randi Kreger co-wrote ("Stop Walking on Eggshells") but her newest book does it---I wish I could give ten stars instead of five. This seemingly simple book is one of the top five most useful books I've ...more
Dec 23, 2008 05:36am · see review
Barbara gave to: In Cold Blood by Truman Capote read in December, 2008	My rating:
I like true crime books, and "In Cold Blood" is supposed to be the first of the genre. But because the book was written half a century ago, by someone who's veracity on the details had been questioned, I just never got around to reading it. Until n...more
Dec 23, 2008 05:35am · see review
Barbara is on page 61 of 272 of On Being Certain On Being Certain: Believing You Are Right Even When You're Not by Robert A. Burton progress:	My rating:
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Barbara gave to: The Alphabet Versus the Goddess: The Conflict Between Word and Image by Leonard Shlain read in December, 2008	My rating:
What an interesting hypothesis--that acquisition of literacy goes hand-in-hand, through history, with misogyny. The scope of Shlain's work is truly breathtaking--I would sit here thinking "if 200 would be a theoretical maximum for IQs, Leonard Shlai...more
Dec 11, 2008 01:47pm · see review
Barbara gave to: Why Buildings Stand Up: The Strength of Architecture by Mario Salvadori read in November, 2008	My rating:
I'll admit upfront that I only got halfway through this book and I'm labeling it as "read" because I can't make myself pick it up again. It had been recommended to me by a student, so I excitedly asked my class this past semester to purchase and rea...more
Dec 11, 2008 09:27am · see review
Barbara marked as to-read: The Kingdom Of Infinite Space: A Portrait Of Your Head by Raymond Tallis	My rating:
Sep 29, 2008 04:09am
Barbara marked as to-read: The Hand: A Philosophical Inquiry into Human Being by Raymond Tallis	My rating:
Sep 29, 2008 04:07am
Barbara liked Tatiana's review of Love and Louis XIV: " so, definitely not a book i would have picked up on my own. but my roommate was right when she said it was oddly fascinating. basically an in depth look at the french court of louis XIV, concentrating on the women, it's almost like reading us week... " Read more of this review »
Sep 28, 2008 02:36am · see review
Barbara gave to: Love and Louis XIV: The Women in the Life of the Sun King by Antonia Fraser	My rating:
I very much enjoyed learning about Louis XIV's court loves and lifestyle. Perhaps it was just Lady Antonia Fraser's spin on things, but I found the many women who Louis XIV loved were genuinely decent human beings, (although Madame de Montespan cert...more
Sep 28, 2008 02:34am · see review

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