I have a rant, a really big one.

I bought a Wii recently. One of the deciding factors in buying it (besides the kids games for my son) was that Fatal Frame 4: Mask of the Lunar Eclipse was coming out on it. Then, a few days ago, I checked out the fan website Beyond the Camera's Lens and what do I find out? They have cancelled the release of FF4 in North America and Europe. This might be old news to some but I just found out and I'm so hot I'm surprised the planet hasn't melted. It is so unfair and such a ripoff to the FF series fans. I know of at least 4 other people who bought it expecting to be able to play it. I'm so disappointed in Nintendo. They have the publishing rights so Tecmo can't even shop it around to be published by anyone else. I'm so mad I could spit!

Hayes wrote: "Nice, Roseann. Thanks for that. He looked like a nice man, and was always my favorite character (Captain, the dilithium crystals!!)"

I loved Scotty, he was so cute and huggable looking!

I really like Galaxy Quest. Justin Long is a cutie!

I loved Galaxy Quest.

I think the whole Rock Monster bit was the result of a masqerade at Comic Con here in San Diego where one of the acts had someone dressed as a rock and the entire audience chanted "rock, rock, rock" to bring him back every time there was a costume they didn't like.

Have any of you seen Galaxy Quest? Heehee...

Nice, Roseann. Thanks for that. He looked like a nice man, and was always my favorite character (Captain, the dilithium crystals!!)

James Doohan was also supposed to be sent into space, but the rocket carrying his (and many other's) ashes blew up. I guess they needed Scotty at the helm.

I had the pleasure of meeting Mr. Doohan many years back at an ABA convention. He was already leaving his panel when he heard me say "That's Scotty", he turned and said "Well, hello love", gave me a big hug and proceeded to talk with me for about ten minutes, a very nice man.

His nickname was "Great Bird of the Galaxy" so it's fitting.

Spinning in orbit, then? ;)

*gasp* Gene Roddenberry is dead!

; ) His spirit is eternal!

(didn't they send him to outer space?)

Kevin wrote: "Here's a rant:

The StarTrek.com messageboard has several moderators who allow hate speech on their boards. I see foul language directed at minorities, including very vulgar terms.

I tried to..."

Gene Roddenberry must be spinning in his grave.

ty ^_^

I am happy that somebody in this world understands the gripe I have with startrek.com it does make me feel better. ^_^

Bloody GR keeps blipping on me! :(

If the people getting offended won't say anything about it then they shouldn't be griping about it.

Kevin wrote: "Here's a rant:

The StarTrek.com messageboard has several moderators who allow hate speech on their boards. I see foul language directed at minorities, including very vulgar terms.

I tried to..."


That's awful! Even worse that people don't speak up about it.

HOW AWFUL!! I love Star Trek, but I hate racial slurs more! I hope you have more luck!!

Here's a rant:

The StarTrek.com messageboard has several moderators who allow hate speech on their boards. I see foul language directed at minorities, including very vulgar terms.

I tried to get people involved to help me report them to the CBS Lawyers in New York, but every single person who claimed they were upset and or outraged refused to make 1 lousy phone call.

The board is rampant with these comments, and the moderators actually protect the jerks saying those very vulgar terms.

It infuriates me to no end.

I have fibro and all these constant weather changes are really getting to me. Humidity and rain are the worst. I'm just ranting because I can't even remember what it feels like to do something without feeling like I'm so tired and run down I could sleep for a year. I really think the human body was a poorly designed machine.

Sara TX wrote: "This isn't a rant, really, but my library is currently closed (yesterday, today, and tomorrow), which they install a new computer system...

I got all the books from the library that I needed to ..."

mine is closed because of labor day, but why the saturday, sunday and monday.....?

Sending good thoughts your way Jamie!!

Yes, Jamie! Happy thoughts! Think happy thoughts!



... just think happy thoughts and they'll lift you into the air!

(or whatever the exact quote was ... )

Let's just talk about my crappy week thus far:

car breaks
I miss work on Tuesday because of this
(I get a great tan instead )
the car costs me $500
I somehow get poison ivy all over my chest
AND when I get to work the whole floor set is changed and I can't find anything.

It has to get better! At least Lost was good tonight! :)

This isn't a rant, really, but my library is currently closed (yesterday, today, and tomorrow), which they install a new computer system...

I got all the books from the library that I needed to before it closed, and I'm excited to have a new and (hopefully) improved system, but for now their online search feature is down (understandably), and I can't look to see if the books I want to read are at the library... And it's sort of making me nervous! I didn't realize how addicted I was to the library's website before!!

I don't usually rant too much but I'm so annoyed. The weather Friday was a gorgeous 70 degrees. Saturday, however, when we took our son to the carnival was 40 degrees and rainy. I guess that shows that people in this area are so desperate for entertainment that we will spend an hour and a half freezing our butts off for something to do.

GO NERDS! *clears throat* Ahem, I mean ... wow ... I had no idea WoW "exchanged" that much data. It explains why even simple mmorpgs-never played WoW before-slow my computer down like heck (that and my computer is like 8 years old).

Mosca wrote: "Forgive me, April for being a nerd. But computers is my childish hobby. I'm a big time gamer; and I build my own computers from scratch. So bear with me.

You said:

I don't do anything but GR,..."

Mosca, we are on a book website, lol, I think this is almost as nerdy as it gets. Thanks for the information though, it helps to know I am not in the wrong.

Forgive me, April for being a nerd. But computers is my childish hobby. I'm a big time gamer; and I build my own computers from scratch. So bear with me.

You said:

I don't do anything but GR, FB and twitter so it clearly can't be hurting his WoW connection.

World of Warcraft is a BIG-TIME computer RAM user as well as a BIG-TIME internet PING rate consumer. The data exchanged by a local computer and the net during a massively multiplayer game like World of Warcraft is enormous.

Your computer time on Goodreads Facebook and twitter cannot even come close to the net data use of an online game like WOW.

The videos (including the nauseating video adverts on Goodreads) do consume the most net data of these online community websites. But rarely do these sites even come close to the sites like WOW.

So tell your gamer roomate to get his own internet connection.

ARGHHHH So my piece of s--t roommate apparently complains to my boyfriend about me. He complains that I'm a hypocrite b/c I won't wash dishes with food still on them, but seriously it's not that hard to either eat all your damn food or scrape it into the garbage. Also he complains that my internet activity slows down his, yet I don't do anything but GR, FB and twitter so it clearly can't be hurting his WoW connection. But what makes me the most mad is that he has the audacity to complain to my boyfriend, uh hello stupid it's going to get back to me and my boyfriend is clearly going to take my side.

Boohiss on bad living situations!

My son's school is having a fund-raising thing for the third, fourth, fifth grade field trip. Which ordinarily I wouldn't mind but my son's first grade class is the ONLY class Not going on a field trip this year. Even the kindergartener's got one! And my DVD player is a $200 piece of crap.

If you don't know what ITV is you don't need to read this rant:

BUT GRRR! Their iplayer is just crap I want to kill it! I never have this problem with BBC when streaming.

It could be that since my router had a hissy fit things do seem to be slower then before but I have always had a problem with this thing. No wonder the channel is going bust, no one could put up with this. And they keep cutting all the good programmes for reality rubbish - which I'm not bashing as that's what I'm trying to watch now - but grrrr!!!

I've recently joined and only ran across a few people strictly promoting their books. But, yes, annoying when that's all they want to talk about.

Paula wrote: "I like friends who want to TALK books. If we have a lot of books in common then we probably have something to discuss. I don't for the ones just promoting their own books, all we have in common is ..."

I totally agree. I actually have a little message directly to those authors on my page. I looked a few weeks after joining at my comments and they were filled with 'thanks for adding me- buy my book!' and 'have a great day- check out my book!'. HUH? My supermarket doesn't come to be begging me to buy their groceries. My drugstore waits for me to come to them to shop, as does the mall and everything else, with the exception of some of the more "direct" religons, so WHY are you doing it?!
You'd think they'd be embarressed. I would be. I'd tell a person once, if I actually talked to them about other things, maybe twice but to keep begging someone to buy your book is insane.

I like friends who want to TALK books. If we have a lot of books in common then we probably have something to discuss. I don't for the ones just promoting their own books, all we have in common is their book (if I've read it) and they don't want any other contact. That's not fun to me.

Sorry, Esther. I didn't mean to sound judgmental, isn't what I meant, and certainly not about the guy who is surely near the top of the podium for Jerks. In fact, what I wanted to do was sound the alarm that perhaps being judgmental is not the healthiest frame of mind.

Ranting about something that happens in our own lives and then moving on is not a bad thing. Jumping on someone else's bandwagon and getting really worked up probably isn't the healthiest thing we can do for ourselves. What can be the most useful thing about this thread, it seems to me, is learning a different way to handle stress. For me ranting, or getting worked up, just makes things worse. Does Ed's suggestion that we teach another good manners make sense? It doesn't to me, but there are plenty of lurkers for whom it might. I know that my friend's observation that the other guy might be having a really terrible day has helped me move past what might otherwise be a really unhealthy afternoon.

Elizabeth (Alaska) wrote: "Esther wrote: "First of all this is a rant thread not 'rehabilitation for Mr Jerks of the world'. We don't have to see the other POV if we don't want to :0)"

No, we don't have to see the other P..."

Elizabeth I think you must have missed the smiley face :0)

Anyway my point is that this is a rant thread - a safe place among friends where you can let off steam without being judged for not presenting a balanced argument.

Esther wrote: "First of all this is a rant thread not 'rehabilitation for Mr Jerks of the world'. We don't have to see the other POV if we don't want to :0)"

No, we don't have to see the other POV if we don't want to. But that would be start of my rant. Don't bother considering that the other guy (not necessarily here) might have something going on. Another comment from a friend is worth noting: When someone cuts you off on the freeway, or is rude in some way, she always thought, "wow, he must be having a worse day than I am."

That and more! But I use the term 'friends' loosely here! LOL
And they don't stay on the list long when all that stuff happens!

♡ Eva ♡ wrote: "I get invites to a poll about which guy is hotter and what kind of music makes me sad. wth? I just want to yell at them to turn the computer off and pick up a book. ..."

You get all that cr@p from friends on Goodreads? Good grief!

(G)Emma wrote: "I tend to clean up my friends a lot, because one day I'll be all:

"Well, we have some books in common." And add them, then the next day I'll be annoyed because they keep on inviting me to groups..."

That's hilarious because the same thing happens to me and I go through my friends list about one every month or two. I get invites to a poll about which guy is hotter and what kind of music makes me sad. wth? I just want to yell at them to turn the computer off and pick up a book.

Oh Beth- I'm thinking we had the same "friend". LOL I deleted someone like that a few weeks ago. I have another "friend" who I feel bad about deleting so I haven't but God in heaven, her comments to me make no sense. Ever. Neither do her messages. I'll get a comment on a book about polygamy asking me if I like the book such and such which I haven't read and don't even have listed. I don't understand it but I'm too nice of a person to delete them as of yet!!
I have a message on my page that tells people- no friend collectors, leave me a message if you send a friend request or you'll be ignored, if you have 2 books and 30,000 friends you'll be ignored, if you're an author and you think I may like your books, tell me. ONE TIME. Not once an hour. Once. If I want it- I'll get it.

First of all this is a rant thread not 'rehabilitation for Mr Jerks of the world'. We don't have to see the other POV if we don't want to :0)

I understand Ed's point about social norms as I started life in England and now live in Israel - talk about whiplash!
First time my hubby visited England with me he collapsed to laughter when I gently bumped someone in the street and we both turned round to apologise!

Israel can seem very rough and ready after UK but although Israelis may not understand the concept of queuing etc they have their own set of social norms and get just as upset if you don't observe them. I'm sure the same applies in Hong Kong and China.

My biggest beef with Ed's argument is the attitude 'don't blame him for being a jerk when you didn't call him on it'. Morality is no longer the inner voice of conscience but someone with a big stick smacking you each time you cross a line - If you don't get smacked with a big stick it's OK or rather 'if you don't get caught out, it is OK'.

I hadn't intended to add anymore to this thread but I read, and shared, this article on FB and it immediately brought to mind our conversation here.

At the risk of sounding apologetic for rude jerks and totally supporting Leila's right and need to rant, I still believe that it is a waste of time and energy to expect people to behave in certain ways. Maybe they will and maybe they won't. That's not the point. Assuming that someone is rude when they might just be ignorant or untutored does not help them learn what might be a different and more socially acceptable behavior.

There are also cultural differences to take into account. If you stand meekly in a queue in China, chances are you will never get to the head of the line. Are these people cutting in ahead of you or skipping the queue being rude? No! They are being Chinese where waiting, in the past, could have meant starving.

I recently called someone on an airplane an "a _ _ hole" to his face and he was totally surprised that I felt that way. He was just doing what he was doing and not aware that he was impinging on me. He actually tried to explain why he was in such a rush. I suspect the next time he'll be a little more aware...maybe. (Grin)

I assume there will be more follow-up and unfortunately I won't be here to keep my side of the discussion going. I'll be off-line for the next four days traveling. It's been fun.

Elizabeth (Alaska) wrote: "Leila, those are the times I'm reminded of my friend who had an expression: "The more I see of people, the more I like dogs." Fortunately, I have been lucky to meet more people who would have held ..."



I agree with that sentence, but say more...the more i meet people, the more I like animals.


and people keep proving me right soooo much:-0

Esther wrote: "...and by trying to make excuses for such rude behaviour you end up blaming the victim claiming that if she had only bothered to ask for help it would have been forthcoming.

I have a higher opinion of my fellow human beings and believe that most of them wouldn't force you to beg before they offered assistance.

Well said, Esther.

As I said earlier, I'm sorry that this happened. Sometimes, though, we all need to remember that not all disabilities are obvious. I can't imagine what might prevent someone from helping another with a door and a wheelchair, other than true loutishness, but since the person isn't here to defend himself, we might be better people ourselves if we were to consider he may have had a reason unbeknownst to us.

'One who is merciful to those who are heartless will end up being heartless to those who are merciful'

Although it maybe a little OTT to call Mr Jerk heartless he was certainly self-involved and by trying to make excuses for such rude behaviour you end up blaming the victim claiming that if she had only bothered to ask for help it would have been forthcoming.

I have a higher opinion of my fellow human beings and believe that most of them wouldn't force you to beg before they offered assistance.

I agree I'm afraid with Esther and Becky and others.

I don't expect to tell people how to do their jobs and in fact it frustrates me when I have to think and do everything under the sun. They may as well not be there.

So in that respect, people in this society should not be told how to behave as we expect a human being how to behave. They can't go on blaming their mother's for a bad upbringing there is a point when you think for yourself one day.

Of course, maybe it was a one off I suppose - sometimes if you have other things on your mind you may not notice. If I'm in a rush... or something there is a million reasons and everyone makes a mistake.

But for every mistake there's the rude little idiot who doesn't help the little old lady who falls down in the street, or fails to do anything about the person struggling so obviously in front of them.

There's many cases where sometimes, someone isn't going to know someone is in trouble or lost, or needs help, but there's also times when you just know it'd be nice to hold the door open for someone.

Fortunately, I find in most cases people are actually kind and considerate and in most cases people do not actually need to be told. Sadly you don't always go home thinking about that person though.

I have to agree with Esther here. I understand what you're saying Ed, and yes, that is a more expeditious way of obtaining help, but it also gives rude people a pass to just go on being rude and selfish and unhelpful unless they are specifically requested to be otherwise, even momentarily. People shouldn't have to beg for help for it to be grudgingly given out of guilt. We should all just strive to be better people and help those we see in need.

I can't imagine that Mr. Jerk of the Universe had any problem seeing Leila struggling with a door and a wheelchair. I'm sorry... How can that POSSIBLY be mistaken for anything but what it is?

I'm sure Leila's not some prissy maiden who expects every door to be held open for her, who would rather stand there waiting for an open door than to open it herself. She was struggling, and nobody helped her. This isn't a situation where the saying "God (or whoever) helps those who help themselves" applies. She wasn't waiting for a free handout, she was struggling with a wheelchair and a door. I would think in that situation, help would be OFFERED, without being begged for.

There is no excuse in my mind for such rude and callous behavior. None.

Ed wrote: "I have a suggestion for next time: a simple "Could you give me a hand or some help, here?" This might have worked and coupled with a sincere thank you might motivate this person in the future..."

I was actually close to running after him and ask for help but it all went so quickly. I thought I could handle the door myself and didn't expect him pass by when he was standing behind my dad but by the time it all registered, I just got too angry to go after him and ask. Otherwise, I have no problem with asking for help. Sometimes I ask, sometimes I expect it. I guess it depends on the situation :/

Esther wrote: "I'm afraid I can't agree with you Ed.

I was brought up to behave a certain way in public and this includes holding doors for everyone.
Even if I'm in a stream of people walking through a door I l..."

It's sad but true that not everyone was brought up the same way. But the truth of the matter is, they weren't. So if I want something, I can't assume the other person has the same standards or upbringing you or I had. If I made those kind of assumptions, I would go through life continuously disappointed in others.

Instead I assume they just haven't had the same training I had and maybe by asking for help, teach them something they had never thought of.

I just don't believe that "Magic Mystery Messages" or assumptions work very well.

Here in Hong Kong, if you waited for people to hold or open the door for you, you would get mighty tired standing there...waiting. It's a cultural thing. Point is people are different and most of them just want the opportunity to do the right thing if someone will help them see what that is instead of assuming they are clueless and rude.

I'm afraid I can't agree with you Ed.

I was brought up to behave a certain way in public and this includes holding doors for everyone.
Even if I'm in a stream of people walking through a door I look behind me quickly to check the person following is paying attention and doesn't get a face full of door.

It is common courtesy and if people would stop rushing around wrapped up in their own world and would pay a little more attention to those around them the world might be more pleasant less accident-filled place.