I liked the idea of each person having a tank inside of them, ready to be filled by love. I do think Chapman has made an inroad on understanding what goes right and what goes wrong in some partnerships by categorizing the manners in which people give and receive love. I jumped off his ship after the many examples of how easily people changed to respond to their partners. I also found the preaching to be, while understandable in his life, and, while I do see the role Jesus plays in this world as a role model, to be unrealistic in dealing with people whose marital problems are not as surface as just needing to be approached in their particular loving *style*. In those ways, I found the theories somewhat insightful, but somewhat naive.

Very interesting ideas. Love languages translate to our children as well (I'm pretty sure Chapman wrote another book about relationships with kids). I think of it occasionally but find it very hard to change my natural ways of showing love. Maybe I do see hubby's efforts more clearly though after reading it.