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message 136: by Dave (new)

2370826 Goodreads nominated me for "Favorite NONFICTION book of 2009." That made me very happy. If you liked the book, please consider voting for it here:

http://www.goodreads.com/award/goodreade...

My category is #3.

Your votes determine the winners.


message 135: by Dave (new)

2370826 I'm back on book tour for COLUMBINE starting this morning (Tuesday).

I'll be in Longmont, CO at 11:30 a.m., then LA (Northridge and West Hollywood) Wed/Th, and an editor's conference in Portland Saturday. (Thursday night is at Book Soup in WeHo.)

Oct. 3, I have a homecoming event to my hometown of Elk Grove Village outside Chicago, just before my high school reunion.

Later in October I'm doing the Texas Book Festival, the Southern Book Festival and Grand Rapids' library festival, and a school safety conference in Indiana.

All the tour details are here (and you can see the book trailer there, too):

http://davecullen.com/tv-tour/tour-sched...

If you come, take pictures and post them on facebook and twitter, and send to me and I'll add to my tour-pictures page:

http://davecullen.com/tv-tour/tour-photo...


message 134: by Alias Reader (new)

1663974 Thanks for the response, Dave. I've recommended your book to my GR group.


message 133: by Dave (new)

2370826 Gary, I cover a whole lot about psychopaths in the book. The current research indicates that they most likely are born that way, or at least with a strong predisposition. But we don't know.

Unfortunately, they have proven nearly impossible to have their thinking turned around. They enjoy a lot of the way they are.


message 132: by Gary (new)

2136871 I appreciate your response Dave. My big question is how does one become a psychopath? I doubt they are born that way, so somehow, they got into wrong thinking, misperceiving. Eric had a habit of seeing everyone as stupid, and believed stupid people didn't deserve to live. He saw himself as separate and superior to the human race. I think that this kind of thinking can be changed because it obviously doesn't lead to happiness or peace of mind. If a person thinking this way can be shown that it doesn't work, and is presented with alternatives that do work, his life would turn around. There are alternatives.


message 131: by Dave (new)

2370826 Cleckley saw a strong association with psychopaths when he wrote The Mask of Sanity way back in the 30s. But there is a big question of cause and effect, with alcohol looking much more like effect.

I did not seem it come up as a major factor in the later literature. Certainly, there is no evidence that taking away substances cures psychopathy: no cure, and no treatment has been found, except for one recent study which showed promise.

Gary, from what you have written here, I doubt the teens were psychopaths.

I also think it's important to look at this case from two angles: 1) the history of behavior among people with similar mental conditions (psychopathy and angry depression), and 2) the particulars of these two boys.

#1 tells us a great deal, because people with each condition do act similarly in many respects. More importantly, it opens a great window to understand WHY these people tend to act a certain way. We'll never understand them without the vast research that's already been performed that allows us to see unmistakable patterns.

But you can't start and end with #1. that's only a framework. Each person is unique. You start with the general and work your way through the massive evidence left behind on them as individuals.

When I look at #2, I see no evidence of drugs or alcohol playing any significant role. Whether or not lots of boys are affected by them is not really germane to this case. That reality raises the issue that we should look at it in this case, but no more.


message 130: by Gary (new)

2136871 Yeah, you may be right, I don't know that much about psychopaths. The people I met that were hospitalized for psychopathic behavior were all adolescents and they all seemed to have a history of drug and alcohol use. I've seen some incredible transformations when those substances were removed from the experience, along with counseling and 12-Step Program work.


message 129: by deleted member (new)

Gary, Something to think about that came to mind. Do research on Adolph Hitler. He is a class "A" psychopath and mental case without question. Hitler was not into drugs he thought they were a weakness and he felt that he needed to stay in complete control of his senses at all times. I am not sure how you view that drugs and alcohol are the thing that draw a person to committ these acts. But gasing 6 million Jews and 11,000 others just because you want to make to earth clean of a lesser race is pretty much in the same mind set that we see Eric. Even though it failed his plan was to blow up and or kill everyone on that campus that day. He did not like anyone who in his view received something more than he did there was no remorse in the action even though he knew it was wrong. That was why he ended his life because he wanted to make that final decision for himself. Hitler did the same thing. Actually there are people all through history that have committed the same type of violence and you are really going to have to prove to me that they were strung out on drugs or alcohol at the time.

As a woman once said "We are alcoholics we are generally happy just hurting ourselves"

Ok off the soap box now
Thanks
Jennifer


message 128: by Dave (last edited Aug 21, 2009 12:04PM) (new)

2370826 Gary wrote: "These boys drug use didn't seem to be a major factor in the book but I believe it was. In fact, the tragedy would not have happened but for the drug use."

Gary, what makes you think that? I saw no evidence of it whatsoever.

And do you mean Eric's Luvox, or the drinking and using pot? Eric rarely drank or used pot. Dylan did seem to drink quite a bit.

I would agree more with Jennifer, though I don't know what the cops would actually have found. (We can never know whether Eric had any pipe bombs at the time. At most there would have likely been a few, as he had not yet started production for several months.) Also, unless Eric was put away for good--unlikely--we probably would have just delayed the problem.

That's the problem with psychopaths. Until we come up with an effective treatment, we are powerless against them. Where is that research money?


message 127: by Dave (new)

2370826 Alias Reader wrote: "Hi Dave, I thought Columbine was well written and extensively researched. You bring some light and understanding to a tragedy that left a nation shaking it's collective head in pain and confusion..."

Thanks, Alias. Numbered footnotes definitely help a scholarly reader or a really diligent reader who wants to check into each item, but they really get in the way and annoy most readers. They also set a certain tone--that this is like a thesis or research paper--which is at odds with what I wanted to do of immersing the reader into the story, and transporting you away. It's a tradeoff, but for this type of book I would never want to go the footnote route.

Similar with photographs: please see the discussion on it and diagrams above. It was not a matter of expense--it was my choice.

I'm unsympathetic to Eric because he knew right from wrong and enjoyed making people suffer and die.

Yes, Mr. D has worked very hard to create a positive environment in the school, including bullying.

I don't know what went on in Dr. Albert's sessions, so I can't assess what he should have foreseen.

Ned Harris was someone's slightly jumbled version in the chaos: they got one name right, not the other.





message 126: by Gary (new)

2136871 If you are privy to the inside information of psychopathic behavior you will find that drug use is so common that a non-drug using psychopath is so rare as to be statistically irrelevant. I've worked with some very angry and anti-social people who, after some months clean and sober, reveal themselves to be halfway decent. If these people were to relapse they would be just as disturbed as ever. The deciding factor in the negative behavior was drug and alcohol use.


message 125: by deleted member (new)

I am not sure I necessarily agree with that. I know that the drug use does affect your mental stability but given that Eric has proven that he was a class "A" psyopath I would have to say that unfortunately this terrible incident would have happened regardless of the boys smoking "pot" or not. I would have to compare Eric to all the other people that have reaked havic on us in some form or another. Some of the other men that took psyopathic actions were not on pot or other illegals and they still committed things to our world that I hope I never have to explain to my kids. What would have stopped this tragedy is if the cops really did look closer at Eric the year before when the one kids mom talked to them that the search warrent was requested but never obtained. I think the whole thing would have been blown open and we would not have lost 13 great kids to useless gun vilence.

Thanks
Jennifer


message 124: by Gary (new)

2136871 I've dealt with a lot of troubled teenagers while working in the acute psychotic intervention unit at the Camarillo State Hospital. Most of the problems were precipitated by drug use, even "harmless" marijuana was a culprit. These boys drug use didn't seem to be a major factor in the book but I believe it was. In fact, the tragedy would not have happened but for the drug use.




message 123: by Alias Reader (last edited Aug 15, 2009 07:16PM) (new)

1663974 Hi Dave, I thought Columbine was well written and extensively researched. You bring some light and understanding to a tragedy that left a nation shaking it's collective head in pain and confusion. Though the topic is a difficult one to read about, you do not sensationalize it.

I was not familiar with the details of the story, so much of the material was new to me. I was quickly draw into the story.

I wish you had used footnotes and not just notes at the back of the book. It would have made things clearer. But that may just be a pet peeve of mine. :)

I think a non fiction book requires photographs. I would have liked photo's of the people mentioned in the book. I think a diagram of the school would have helped. I would also have liked to seen a picture of what the journals the boys wrote looked like. I know you have some of these on your web site, and CNN has a lot of good photo's and links. But when I read a non fiction book, I don't want to have to go to the Internet to get a complete picture of the subject. I know photos are expensive and this your first book, but I think the publisher should have sprang for it.

You chose to use the boys thoughts verbatim without quotation marks. I think this was a mistake. I was left at times wondering why you were was lapsing into colloquial speech. For example, calling girls "chicks" on page 136 and a few other times in the book or on page 278 "the jerk ratted him out to his Eric's dad" or 279 "Man he was good that night" On another page "bastard". It would interrupt the flow as I had to re-read sentences because on the initial read I thought these were the your words.

You paint a glowing picture of the principal. Did he try to prevent bullying at the school?

And when it comes to the two boys, Eric gets the most heat from the you. I have to say the chapters where you discusses Eric as a psychopath are riveting and informative. But you're unsympathetic to this mental disease. Even though Eric was on meds from his Dr. at the time of the killing. Did you think Dr. Albert should have seen this coming and done more? Dylan's diagnosis of depression gets a much more sympathetic ear. I am not clear why. They both were mentally unstable. Perhaps Eric's disease was worse.

I did wonder about (page 55) a boy who was shot said "Ned Harris" did it. A cop didn't have paper/pen so wrote the name on hood of patrol car. Who was Ned? Was that a nickname for Eric or someone else?

I like that when it came to the actually killings you didn't get too graphic. It's done in a respectful way. Though you do go into graphic detail with the boys suicide. I wish you hadn't done that. You brilliantly shed light on the police cover up, the church's use of the tragedy as a recruiting tool, and bust the myth of Cassie being shot for professing her faith to one of the killers. You clearly explains how that poor teacher was left unnecessarily to bleed to death. And even though the parents didn't grant you an interview, you were able to shed light on them and how, perhaps unfairly, they were made to feel that they did something wrong. I can't imagine their pain. Before I read the book, I thought the parents must have been in part to blame. How could they not have know of the arsenal their kids were creating? Now, after reading the book, I have more sympathy for them. However, when Dylan wrote a story for class that almost foretells their plans and the teacher contacted the parents, maybe they should have done more.


Sorry for this long post, I tried to edit it down from a post that I did elsewhere.

The bottom line is this book is thought provoking and well done. I would highly recommend it. Thanks for a great read and I wish you continued success as a writer.




message 122: by Dave (new)

2370826 Thanks, Darlene and Eve.

I'm glad you got to the book, and this discussion.

I had similar feelings as I discovered what happened over the years. At first I was stunned, then angry, then just hungry to unravel more. It was such a relief to get to a point where it started to make sense. There are still bits that frustrate and/or puzzle me, but I really do feel like I understand it and them now. I hope you did when you finished.


message 121: by Eve (new)

921083 Hi Dave!

I just finished reading your book yesterday and it was amazing! I thought I knew the gist of what took place 10 years ago from the TV reports and newspapers, but I could not have been more wrong, so I wanted to take a minute and thank you for opening my eyes. This book was a difficult read and often I had to set it down because I couldn't read through my tears, but I came away with a much better understanding of all parties involved. Congratulations and much success!

Eve :)


message 120: by Darlene (new)

1809697 Dave,
I finished your book a few days ago. It really was well written and very enlightening. I am a parent of 3 teenagers and I remember that when the Columbine incident happened, I followed it religiously in the media. I watched everything, read everything I could find. I wanted to understand but never really did get a clear picture of what happened.... there was so much emphasis on bullying and the Trench Coat Mafia aspect. I am really glad I read your book. It certainly reminded me of something I knew but I guess forgot... be very careful of what you believe that is being reported in the media. I have learned this is true in almost every area... Iraq war, politics, etc. Thanks again.


message 119: by Dave (new)

2370826 Thanks, Stephen.

BTW, former Newsweek corespondent Michael Hastings just published an in-depth interview with me about the book:

http://trueslant.com/michaelhastings/200...


message 118: by Stephen (new)

1602483 Dave:

Just finished reading your book, and I walk away with a much clearer picture of the event in so many aspects. Thanks for taking the time to put together such an amazing work, and I look forward to the revised edition in 2027 or shortly thereafter!

Stephen


message 117: by Dave (new)

2370826 FYI, I finally, very belatedly, started a "Columbine" page on Facebook, dedicated to the book. (Technically, a friend finally did it for me, and I just accepted his work.)

If you're on Facebook, clicking on it and adding yourself as a friend would be great:

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Columbine-...

(I think more fans will mean more people will find it on facebook searches. That's the goal: connecting with people who might be interested in the book, but are unaware of it. There is so much out there. Finding ways to connect is the hard part.)

Thanks.


message 116: by Dave (new)

2370826 Catherine wrote: "Dave, let me ease your mind about the longevity of books in libraries. I'm a librarian and can tell you that your book will likely remain on many library shelves for years; perhaps decades...."

Man, I love the sound of that. That's really the bottom line: getting the book to readers. It's hard to keep books in print these days, so I don't know how long it will be on bookstore shelves for people to find, but it can live on in libraries. Thank God for libraries.

Thank you. I've been wondering how that works.


message 115: by Catherine (new)

Nophoto-f-25x33 I just came upon this group and haven't read through the whole discussion, so forgive me if this issue has been further commented on: Dave, let me ease your mind about the longevity of books in libraries. I'm a librarian and can tell you that your book will likely remain on many library shelves for years; perhaps decades. Small libraries weed their collections more frequently, but larger ones (with lots of shelf space) keep things FOREVER (we have a book on the Columbian Exposition published ca. 1892). And, having read your book, I think it will be considered a classic on the subject which will be studied for years to come. Our copies are still going out on reserve, so word of mouth is definitely making it circulate.

The strongest feeling I came away with after reading the book was the fervent wish that I could apologize to Dylan's parents: I was one who placed a lot of the blame on the parents in the early days (how could they NOT know?....). But time; having raised my own sons to college age (they were in elementary school in 1999); and especially your accounts of Dylan and his parents made me grieve for them. Eric and his parents are seemingly a different story, but it's clear that they were 2 very different kids. I am honestly newly saddened for the loss they sustained, and the circumstances surrounding that loss.




message 114: by Shira (last edited Jul 01, 2009 02:49AM) (new)

Nophoto-f-25x33 Dave wrote: "Shira wrote: "
In page 40, you describe how exactly Dylan's calls out "Bye" and shuts the door.
It might sound stupid, but - well, I was just wondering... how can you tell such a small detail? "

H..."


Oh, that makes sense. I was just sure they were asleep when he left the house and couldn't hear the "bye".
I am reading the endotes every time that I finish a chapter. The so-called stoic description of the potato skins in Dylan's stomach had totally freaked me out. To think of him, Just sitting there that day, eating french fries...

Regarding to Eric - see, you're the first to understand that it's a very, very complicated issue to discuss (especially online and especially when I'm having a little trouble with the language), but I'll try to summarize my thoughts:

Even as an 18 years old girl, I can see how it is possible that an adult will see Eric Harris as a "charmer": He was extremely intelligent, really a little "smooth criminal", he was not an all-American-beauty but he was not ugly as well, he had an interest in a various of different things etc.

BUT, and that is an important "but", when you're a kid (elementary school, junior high, high school) these things don't count. Most of the kids this age (and especially most girls) are looking on the very surface and are looking for specific things that Eric was NOT.
That is my basic, generic point when it comes to this issue. I hope that I've been clear.

I've also wanted to say that up until now, the book is just fabulous, and it's so kind of you to come here and answer the readers questions.

Shira


message 113: by Dave (new)

2370826 Chris wrote: "Dave,

I just finished your excellent book today and I have a feeling it is going to haunt me for a while. I don't have any questions for you but I do want to encourage you to keep writing, whethe..."


Thanks, Chris. I do hope to keep writing the rest of my life, but I sure appreciate the encouragement. I love it, but it can be a rough life, too. (Are there any untormented writers out there? hahaha.) The outpouring of love here and elsewhere has definitely kept me going, and I expect to draw on it for years to come.



message 112: by Dave (new)

2370826 Shira wrote: "
In page 40, you describe how exactly Dylan's calls out "Bye" and shuts the door.
It might sound stupid, but - well, I was just wondering... how can you tell such a small detail? "


Hi Shira. Your English if fine. That detail came from his parents, who he called out the "bye" to. They told police investigators. I have no reason to doubt them on such an innocuous detail, nor did investigators. (I went over the manuscript page with Kate Battan.)

On p. 366 in the endnotes, I listed the various sources for the killers' activities that day.

Thanks for the nice words. Why do you feel Eric was not a charmer?


message 111: by Shira (new)

Nophoto-f-25x33 Hey Dave,

First of all, English's not my first language so I'm sorry for the possible mistakes.

My name is Shira, I'm 18 years old and I live in Israel.
I'm just in the beginning of the book, but I have to admit that right now I am still kind of suspicious because I'm pretty sure (after studying the whole subject myself since I was 13) that Eric was NOT a "charmer", and you can even see how he's simply being ignored by the blond girl when he's sitting in the cafeteria with his friends in that obscure video you've written about in your book.

So, as I've already mentioned, I'm just in the beginning, but I have an important (for me, at least) question to ask you:

In page 40, you describe how exactly Dylan's calls out "Bye" and shuts the door.
It might sound stupid, but - well, I was just wondering... how can you tell such a small detail?

Anyways, I am very curious to read the rest of the book and admire your devotion to the whole process (without getting into the Eric-was-a-charmer issue).

Shira


message 110: by Dave (new)

2370826 I'm on the road, but will return and catch up (probably Tuesday, and beyond).

Feel free to keep posting, if you like, and I'll get to everyone.

Have a nice weekend.

d


message 109: by deleted member (new)

Chris wrote: "Dave,

I just finished your excellent book today and I have a feeling it is going to haunt me for a while. I don't have any questions for you but I do want to encourage you to keep writing, whethe..."


WEll Said Chris.
I agree 100%.
YOu said everything that I have been trying to put into words to let Dave know how I feel. I think this is an awesome book. No warm fuzzies but we did come out of it know more than we did when the tragedy took place.

Knowledge is power and the correct knowledge is unstopable

Jennifer


message 108: by Chris (last edited Jun 26, 2009 05:25AM) (new)

91373 Dave,

I just finished your excellent book today and I have a feeling it is going to haunt me for a while. I don't have any questions for you but I do want to encourage you to keep writing, whether it be non-fiction or fiction. Throughout the book, I was impressed by the empathy of your voice, the diligence of your research, and the sound judgment you used in presenting the information.

Based on the events that occurred before and after the tragedy, I could see how a book about Columbine could have devolved into an angry rant about so many different groups of people, i.e. the killers, the killers' parents, the police, the media, the local Christian community, the greedy opportunists (a paid tour bus to the school within weeks of the tragedy?!), and on and on. And there's no doubt that many of those people deserve such a book. Learning more about the events surrounding the tragedy certainly didn't give me the warm fuzzies about humanity as we are clearly capable of some embarrassingly cold-hearted behavior.

You let the facts speak for themselves and left the judgment up to the reader. If you had an agenda, I didn't see one. Unless your agenda was to pull back the rock and expose all of the creatures that were hiding beneath the surface. If so, then I say mission accomplished. Now go find another rock!



message 107: by Dave (new)

2370826 We can extend this a bit if people want to ask more questions.

I will be here Wed, and then I'm on the road for five days, but will check back for open questions next week.


message 106: by Dave (last edited Jun 23, 2009 11:52PM) (new)

2370826 I noticed the discussion was featured in the GoodReads newsletter today.

Feel free to jump in at any point.


message 105: by Dave (new)

2370826 Jennifer, I'm so glad you got the help you needed. Other people can have their own hangups, and sometimes you need to just ignore them. God, life without serotonin. That's hard to imagine.

April, thanks very much. I'll email.


message 104: by Martha (new)

117418 Hi. I'm Martha's friend April and I'm in charge of a New Jersey National Reading Group Month event. She suggested that you might want to participate in this all day event. It's for librarians who run reading groups. Not sure where you are located but if its close to NJI can give you more details if you're interested. She raves about the book although I haven't yet read it it's on my list of to reads. My email is bookdirector@yahoo.com. Thanks for your consideration-April Judge


message 103: by deleted member (new)

Dave Wrote "Now whether he really fooled his mom and dad, that is THE question. He clearly fooled them some of the time, but did they also get that they were getting played a lot of the time? I don't know. Parents of psychopaths are typically very confused about what's going on with their kid. They hardly ever know what a psychopath is, or guess that that's what they're dealing with."

"I'd love to ask them. I hope to some day. Or I hope someone else asks. I'm with you on hoping they can work with some experts to shed more light on this."

Dave,
Being a mental case myself I know that when I was going through diagnosis in the beginning my parents thought well its not anything to worry about you just have to get over it. Now after a proper diagnosis about 6 years aog of PTSD and being on the correct meds for that long too my mother still tells me that I will grow out of this. When you wrote in the bok that if you go through something and it effects you and it goes untreated at the time, then you may need treatment for the rest of your life when you do finally get help. That was an "ah ha" moment for me because I knew that from the start of my treatment and I hate that I have to take meds everyday but its part of my life now and our parents who are of the generation where its not talked about if you have a mental illness because there is really nothing wrong with you need to come to terms with that.

Also, since seeking help medically I have discovered that it is hereditary in some way. On my fathers side there were boughts of bi-polar with my Grandmother, then my father, one of my cousins and also me that I know of for sure. So there you go.

They did do a scan of my brain activity and saw that I just do not produce seretonon anymore. I lived for so long swallowing the pain and terror of experiences from childhood that it just stoped. So now I take meds and am doing great in my everyday life.

This book will live on as something every parent who has a child should read so we can be thankful and also know what to look for in then when things are not going the way they should
Thanks
Jennifer



message 102: by deleted member (new)

Dave Wrote "Now whether he really fooled his mom and dad, that is THE question. He clearly fooled them some of the time, but did they also get that they were getting played a lot of the time? I don't know. Parents of psychopaths are typically very confused about what's going on with their kid. They hardly ever know what a psychopath is, or guess that that's what they're dealing with."

"I'd love to ask them. I hope to some day. Or I hope someone else asks. I'm with you on hoping they can work with some experts to shed more light on this."

Dave,
Being a mental case myself I know that when I was going through diagnosis in the beginning my parents thought well its not anything to worry about you just have to get over it. Now after a proper diagnosis about 6 years aog of PTSD and being on the correct meds for that long too my mother still tells me that I will grow out of this. When you wrote in the bok that if you go through something and it effects you and it goes untreated at the time, then you may need treatment for the rest of your life when you do finally get help. That was an "ah ha" moment for me because I knew that from the start of my treatment and I hate that I have to take meds everyday but its part of my life now and our parents who are of the generation where its not talked about if you have a mental illness because there is really nothing wrong with you need to come to terms with that.

Also, since seeking help medically I have discovered that it is hereditary in some way. On my fathers side there were boughts of bi-polar with my Grandmother, then my father, one of my cousins and also me that I know of for sure. So there you go.

They did do a scan of my brain activity and saw that I just do not produce seretonon anymore. I lived for so long swallowing the pain and terror of experiences from childhood that it just stoped. So now I take meds and am doing great in my everyday life.

This book will live on as something every parent who has a child should read so we can be thankful and also know what to look for in then when things are not going the way they should
Thanks
Jennifer



message 101: by Dave (last edited Jun 22, 2009 10:17PM) (new)

2370826 Wow, Martha, that quote is heartbreaking, and chilling. I have to say, I'm really impressed by people who are willing to come face to face with brutal truths like that. The fact is, that when we pass on traits like that, it's not our fault--and yet, still, we have passed it on.

When I thought I would be a dad, I felt pre-emptive guilt for passing on traits like dropping flyballs in right field. Seriously. It's rough being a kid with terrible depth perception (I've learned), and poor hand-to-eye coordination, who therefore stinks at nearly every sport. You get made fun of, mercilessly. I did. I figured I'd raise sons who would face the same pain, because of what I'd passed on. Not my fault, but . . .

But that's nothing, compared to this.

I will look for that book.

I did have the great luck of reading "And I Don't Want to Live This Life: A Mother's Story of Her Daughter's Murder" about 15 years ago.

http://www.amazon.com/Dont-Want-Live-Thi...

It's by Deborah Spungen, the mother of Nancy, of "Sid and Nancy" fame. (Sid Viscous, from the Sex Pistols, who murdered his girlfriend Nancy, then OD'd. Horrible story.) I was a big punk rock fan, and kinda knew the terrible story, but had no idea that it was merely the last horrible chapter in a trainwreck of a life for Nancy. Her mom was so candid about what that life was like. The writing is not always expert, but it is such an honest account that I found it terribly moving. The title is from a quote from Nancy, early on, I think.

The parents had several kids, and the others were fine, and they had no idea why Nancy was such a mess, from the start. They beat themselves up terribly.

The book really stuck with me. When I pass it on the shelf looking for something else, I will sometimes pull it out now and reread the dedication. I tear up every time.

That worked its way into me for a long time, and I think provided a reservoir of empathy for the killers' parents all those years later.

I felt a responsibility to be tough on the parents when and if I found anything on them, too, by the way. And I think I did point out a few situations that can give you pause. My goal was not to pass judgment on them and give them a passing grade. It was just to do what I tried to do with all the characters: consider what they had to work with at the time, and present that. But have some feeling for them, too, just like everyone else.


message 100: by Martha (new)

117418 Dave & Goodreaders,

A few years ago I used a book by Lionel Dahmer in my thesis - he was the father of Jeffrey Dahmer. I used this quote in particular:
"As a scientist, I further wonder if this potential for great evil also resides deep in the blood that some of us fathers and mother pass on to our children at birth. If we are fortunate we pass our gifts, not only spiritual, intellectual, and physical gifts, but our gift for love and sympathy, our gift for enduring misfortune, for sustaining life, and for honoring it. But some of us are doomed to pass on a curse instead."

Dahmer, Lionel. A Father’s Story. New York: William Morrow and Company, 1994.

I was actually looking not at anything scientific at all but rather at the Imagery of Passing in Literature. His book was stunning and I saw it as literature. It was an attempt to make amends in some small way. Dave, you may have already found your way to that book but if not I think you would find it fascinating.

That is so interesting that you worked with the placement of the "psychopath" chapter and I had forgotten the letter Eric wrote to the owner of that car they broke into. To be used - to be made a fool of- by such a cold person would be something that other victims are probably never going to get over. I had not thought of that before.

Thanks again for this dialogue.

Martha


message 99: by Dave (new)

2370826 Martha wrote: "Dave wrote: "I guess what I still ask is why more people did not recognize Eric's ruthlessness. One person I wanted to know more about was Eric's father. I keep wondering if he understood that his son lacked empathy...."

I think the main reason is that Eric was a really bright psychopath, and they are so damn good at fooling people. That's why Dr. Cleckley titled that first book, "The Mask of Sanity." Even more significant than the lack of empathy--the wickedness, or however you want to label it--is the ability to mask that wickedness. Ted Bundy seemed like the nicest guy. They had no idea he enjoyed killing people.

The thing about psychopaths is that they know what they lack, and know they need to fake the empathy. Read that apology letter Eric wrote to the owner of the van he broke into. (p. 661 from the 1,000 pages. You can download a pdf of the 1,000 pages here, but it's 34 MB, so it will take several minutes: http://denver.rockymountainnews.com/pdf/... ) It is SO convincing. There are lots of examples of how well Eric could fake empathy, but that one is staggering. (Then read what he really felt about it, written in his journal at the same time.)

Then think about a person who could fake that ALL THE TIME. Their whole lives are a performance, just to get what they want. They fool everyone. Or most everyone.

Now whether he really fooled his mom and dad, that is THE question. He clearly fooled them some of the time, but did they also get that they were getting played a lot of the time? I don't know. Parents of psychopaths are typically very confused about what's going on with their kid. They hardly ever know what a psychopath is, or guess that that's what they're dealing with.

I'd love to ask them. I hope to some day. Or I hope someone else asks. I'm with you on hoping they can work with some experts to shed more light on this.




message 98: by Dave (new)

2370826 Martha wrote: "it was as if I had done the research and made the "discoveries" as to why myself......."

You have no idea how happy that makes me to hear. That's one of the things I tried to do: make the killers' story unfold like a detective story (among other things), so it sort of falls into place one piece at a time. You have know idea how many times that "Psychopath" chapter moved around--or how far. It was the biggest bouncing ball of a chapter in the whole book. From the first day of the reconceived project (in 2004), I knew that chapter would be in there, but how soon, that was always a big question.

I also consciously worked on highlighting the core features of psychopathy--and naming them--in Eric, both before and after I presented the concept. When I got to revealing that, I wanted you to have enouch information so that you could see it, and think, "Yes, I've seen that." But I also wanted you to learn about psychopathy, and then see the characteristics again, so you could notice them yourself with me beating you over the head with it.

(Luckily, Eric made it easy. Most of what he wrote screamed out psychopath, once you know what to look for.)

That's kind of how I experienced the process of understanding Eric myself. I'd read massive amounts of stuff from him when I learned about psychopathy, and had that "Ohhhhhhhh! That fits" moment. And then for years, I kept reading more of Eric, and seeing how it fit. That was a very satisfying experience, and I wanted to recreate that for the reader.


message 97: by Martha (new)

117418 Dave wrote: "I will keep answering, but I also have some questions I hope you'll help me by answering.

It's important for me to know how people are experiencing the book (and how they might respond on my futu..."


Hi Dave,

I have been wanting to respond to your 3 questions- and wish I had my copy of the book handy for a more precise response. As to my expectations- I was looking not for the Where, When, How or Who but the WHY. I had no idea if I would get that but I think something I read on the publishers website must have caught my attention. I did not know what to expect. But the experience of reading the book was - well it was as if I had done the research and made the "discoveries" as to why myself....

The characters who made the biggest impression on me were first the two boys. I was drawn to the mothers though.

I was not all that interested in some of the back stories of the students who were shot but that is not because they were not interesting people (and of course I am heartsick for them) but rather because I was interested only in the why. Those who were shot - as you so expertly convinced me - had nothing to do with the why. But I think you were right to include all these stories because in some ways this book is also a lament for the dead and injured.

But what I admire most in this book is that by the time you began to discuss the mental disorder - you had already described a psychopath- I already saw Eric as a predator. I had read an article last fall on psychopaths - and found it fascinating. I then read Snakes in Suits and Without Conscience and so when I began reading this book I recognized Eric as a psychopath and I grieved over what I thought I was recognizing. I wanted to warn Dylan that he was being conscripted. And what I think you did so well, Dave, is that you did not first label Eric as someone with any sort of personality disorder but rather you displayed his character and his behavior.

I guess what I still ask is why more people did not recognize Eric's ruthlessness. One person I wanted to know more about was Eric's father. I keep wondering if he understood that his son lacked empathy. As a parent I have empathy for all the parents including Eric's parents.

I would think that if Eric's parents were able to read and CONSIDER this book and then enter into a dialogue with experts who are studying psychopaths that they would have a chance to give something back to those who lost so much. That could be just one more outcome of this important piece of literature.
Martha








message 96: by Dave (new)

2370826 Jake wrote: "The eeriest image for me has no photo: Eric’s moonlit dream (p. 135)...."

I'm glad you said that, because that has not come up so much in the discussions I've had with readers for some reason, but those passages really floored me when I first read them. It took me awhile to make sense of a guy who fantasied about bleakness.

Thanks for sharing those other passages, sentiments, too. I concur on just about all of them. And one more time, thank God for Patrick, and for Anne Marie.




message 95: by Dave (last edited Jun 22, 2009 04:35PM) (new)

2370826 Jennifer wrote: "The tone of this book is like nothing I have ever read. I am very impressed. Also I have to thank you for going into detail with the mental illness and psyopath information and PTSD ..."

Jennifer, that was really nice about the tone. Thanks.

And thanks, Chad, too. I'm glad you finished it.

I don't think I've posted this yet, but I wrote an essay for Borders about my two bouts with PTSD over the course of covering the story and writing the book. It's here:

http://www.borders.com/online/store/Arti...

I have also had questions about what to read further on psychopathy, and I highly recommend starting with Dr. Robert Hare's WITHOUT CONSCIENCE.

It's the classic, and it was written for a general audience, not for scholars. He did a great job with it, and it's an easy read, but packed with info.




message 94: by Jake (last edited Jun 23, 2009 05:38AM) (new)

1995871 In an earlier post, you asked for people’s emotional experience reading the book.

For me, Columbine's most gripping passages were not those retelling the shootings. Rather, my most emotional responses came in response to background and explication. I appreciated your choice to go without pictures. But I didn’t feel the book spared me any shock or grief in doing so. The eeriest image for me has no photo: Eric’s moonlit dream (p. 135). I’m not sure why, but that dream was the most evocative paragraph in the book for me.

Over the course of my reading, I felt regular doses of anger, sadness, empathy, and pessimism. Some things cooled my emotions though. For instance, it helped to read about police procedures, especially related to containment and “practical choices” SWAT had to make (p.143). Other passages produced strong but valuable responses. Cassie’s back-story floored me. But as you fleshed out her portrait, she became more compelling and endearing than the rapturous persona ladled up by media and churches.

Sheriff Stone pissed me off. I even cussed and name-called him in my margin notes. I suppose there is a guy there worth understanding, but I didn’t come away with any positive feelings for him. Another passage that drew my ire was Reverend McPherson’s willful defiance of empirical evidence (p.287).

On the bottom of page 301 I jotted, “Way to go Patrick!” I also laughed with assent when I read of students and teachers wearing “Bite Me” shirts (p. 271). Elsewhere I was humbled by Ann Marie’s pragmatic thoughts on forgiveness (p. 338-9).

I felt oddly calm as the killers reentered the library at the very end. Perhaps knowing the worst was over allowed me to relax. Maybe I was numb. Regardless, I felt more tension reading Brian Rohrbough’s wrangling over the memorial than I did beholding Eric and Dylan’s suicide four pages prior. That seems strange to me in hindsight, but it is where I was personally by the final pages.

Bottom line: thank you for a book that is thorough and balanced throughout.



message 93: by Chad (new)

Nophoto-m-25x33 Just stayed up all night to finish this book. I wanted to read it and understand the history, but I was a little concerned that it would be sordid and sensational. After finishing it, I am left with a better feeling than I expected. Yes, it is intense and sad and depressing, but it is also hopeful. It also helps me understand the truth. I appreciate the incredible amount of research and the different stories, not all of which have a tragic ending.


message 92: by deleted member (new)

Dave,
I do like the American version better but I have to say after reading the book I am finding that the presents of the school is serene but makes a statement at the same time.

I am glad that the judge awarded something the Dave Sanders family but I understand why his wife was not interested in getting in to all of that. To her, she lost the other half of herself when her husband died and you express that very well. The tone of this book is like nothing I have ever read. I am very impressed. Also I have to thank you for going into detail with the mental illness and psyopath information and PTSD because it does help people understand a little more of their ownselves and the traumas that they have gone through.

I look forward to reading more of your work in the future.

Jennifer


message 91: by Dave (new)

2370826 Funny you say that, Natasha. I actually left one detail out of my story above, because I didn't want to sound like I was dissing the UK cover. But I also gave my US publisher, Twelve, one request on color: anything but red.

But the UK publisher didn't ask my approval, and I didn't know they were going to tweak the cover. It was already printed when I saw it, and I gasped. But then I realized it was OK. I think it actually works that way, and to me, doesn't suggest blood.

(BTW, in UK it's in paperback, because nearly all books are there now. I talked to the publisher when I went to London to promote it for them, and he said that they were not going with the embossed cover, and Columbine was well known there, but not AS much a household word, and it was released after the anniversary and therefore after the media attention. Based on all that, they felt they needed a cover with the title more visible. That sounded reasonable to me.)

I guess my original fears were about all the tasteless possibilities, and blood red, huge screaming type (ransom note type?) pix of the killers' etc. . . yuck. I wanted to stay as far from all that as possible. But with the really quiet, serene cover--and with that particular color palette--the red works just fine, for me. Context is everything.

I'd be curious what others think. The UK version is here:

http://www.goodreads.com/book/photo/6398...


message 90: by Natasha (new)

1581880 Interestingly, the British cover jacket is slightly different. The title is slightly larger and instead of white it's crimson...I wonder if that was on purpose?


message 89: by Dave (new)

2370826 Hilary wrote: "Congratulations on what's sure to be an enduring classic!"

How did I ignore this line? You are really sweet to say that. Thanks.


message 88: by Dave (new)

2370826 Thanks much for all the responses to my questions.

Keep them coming.

(And please remind me if I missed some questions.)


message 87: by Dave (new)

2370826 Hilary wrote: "did you get to provide any feedback on the jacket design? It's very striking and suits the mood of the book perfectly...."

Thanks, Hilary.

I'm glad you asked about the jacket, which I can also say I love, because I had nothing to do with creating it. I gave very basic input in the beginning, that I wanted something tasteful and literary and preferably quiet--nothing with a tabloid feel.

Then they went away for a few months, and showed me a near-complete mockup of the cover, which was stunning, so I approved. (And they asked if it was OK to go ahead without my name on the cover, because they felt it was more striking that way. I agreed, and said yes.)

It was designed by Henry Sene Yee, who has done a lot of great covers, and he created a blog entry describing his process and posting lots of other possibles he mocked up. It's fascinating in its own right, and has gotten a lot of attention. You can see it here:

http://henryseneyee.blogspot.com/2009/03...


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