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Stephen (SPG-) | 261 comments Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking was a clear winner in the Q3 (ie: just September, as we were late restarting non-fiction reads) poll. Please can everyone add their comments on the book here. Look forward to as many people as possible taking part in the discussion to kickstart our relaunched Non-Fiction reads !

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Stephen (SPG-) | 261 comments Here's the Quiet Quiz from the book's website to kick things off - I got ranked as an introvert (12 out of 12 true/introvert answers !):

Anne | 1177 comments I got ranked as an introvert, but I sometimes have been ranked as an extrovert by other quizzes. It really depends on what traits they emphasize.

I read this book earlier this year and found it to be fascinating.

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megs (sonic_theory) | 321 comments Huh. I'm got ranked as an ambivert. Not what I expected, although now that I think about it in some ways I'm an introvert and others I'm an extrovert.

I'm hoping to getting around to reading this this month, but I fear I may have too many books in the fire as it is.

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Maggie | 1115 comments Though this is definitely a book I want to read, September is not the month to do it it. I'll read it later and come back to this thread and pick up the discussion and make my own comments. Happy reading all.

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Bill | 6671 comments I got ranked as an ambivert, probably pretty true..

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TamElaine | 470 comments Interesting I would have thought myself as an ambivert for sure.....but this quiz has me ranked as an introvert....

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Judy | 234 comments Surprised me! The quiz ranked me as an extrovert. In my case I think it's because of my age. I was very shy as a child & young adult. But when you have lived most of your life, you don't have anything to prove; so you don't hold back. I realize I am more outgoing, talkative, and assertive as I've gotten older. Although, I'm still quiet & shy with people I don't know, I do ask them questions about themselves--most people respond to that. Will be an interesting book & I'll enjoy the discussion. However, I've got several books going so don't know how quickly I'll get it read.

Linette | 1506 comments Introvert - not surprising :)

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KarenLee | 474 comments Introvert. I have requested this book from the library and hope to get it mid-month.

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Susan from MD | 422 comments I just bought it on kindle. I have always been an introvert so will see with the test ... and the result: Introvert.

ETA: test result

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Jill (Jillybeans) | 4467 comments I'm an ambivert. Middle of both worlds. That does fall in line with me fitting in across multiple groups yet never fitting perfectly anywhere. Interesting.

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Diane (Enaid) Introvert. Not really surprising to me, although I'm more outgoing now than as a young person. I lacked confidence in myself, which I still do, although now I understand myself more and know where that comes from.

Michelle (marcher08) | 1447 comments Introvert. Not a surprise. I've got the book on reserve at the library can't wait to get started.

Genine Franklin-Clark (suz83yq) | 26 comments Now that I'm old, I'm much more secure about being an introvert. I'm occasionally extremely extroverted; after which I have some difficulty convincing folks to let me be fot the long periods of solitude I need.
"You need to get out more!", they say. Well, no. I don't. This is a wonderful read for us introverts. And it would be lovely if our extrovert friends read it, too.

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Sam (Iselin) People who don't know me well tend to call me "quiet" and I hate it! This book is a real ego pusher for it tells the introvert to respect theirself as a thinker.
For that reason I like reading it.
But on the other hand on my cover it says this book helps extroverts to understand introverts, and I would say it rather makes extroverts think that introverts deem themselves great geniuses.
Half way through now. I'm interested to see the "practical help" part.
At least it's an easy read, not too scientific (sometimes statistics are used in a confusing way and then I wish it was more scientific *sigh* ;) ).

Stephanie (heysteph) | 13 comments I got classified as an introvert, which I'm not surprised by. I have a very strong personality that people who do not know me sometimes mistake for extra version, but all my friends know that any night or the week I'd rather be at home with a good book than in a crowd of people. In fact, crowds of people usually make me tired which is one of the clear signs of being an introvert that Cain discusses in the book.

So far I'm enjoying the read. I'm about 60% through. Being in grad school for psychology a lot of the research she presents is very compelling to me. She hasn't mentioned anything about attachment theory, but I wonder if attachment styles have anything to do with the development of introversion.

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frugalitymom | 86 comments Hoping to get through my list of books for the month to have time to read this. I have to pick it up from the library since I put a hold on it.

Tracy (NoisyReading) | 167 comments I also have this on hold at my library, I should have it next week I hope. I have a couple of books to read this month before I can begin this one but will join in the discussion later. I also took the quiz and big surprise...introvert. :)

Stephen (SPG-) | 261 comments Like a few others, I'm still on the waiting list for this book at the library. I will be setting off a thread with nominations for the Q4 2012 non-fiction read this weekend but let's just keep this discussion thread open past the end of September and folk can chip in when they get round to reading the book.

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Thanks to Stephen for getting this thread up and running again and thanks to everyone who is taking part. You guys are the best.


Michelle (marcher08) | 1447 comments I have started reading and I'm finding it very interesting. As an introvert in a family of introverts, I am finding the psychological research to be very interesting. I also appreciate the author's positive presentation of the subject, particularly her use of well known introverts to make points. I agree with her that our society places too much emphasis on extrovert qualities. I think, however, this comes mainly from our societies insistence that everyone be alike. Sometimes it is our differences that make the difference. Many of her examples point this out.

Susan from MD | 422 comments I just finished the book today. I enjoyed it and, as an introvert, felt a little more validated than usual ;)

I'm happy to discuss once people have read it, but I agree with Michelle that the examples in the book were very helpful. In some ways, I feel like I have learned as much about how extroverts view the world as I have about the introvert's perspective.

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Connie (Ava Catherine) | 154 comments Introvert...but I have always known this. I read this book several months ago. I may need to review in order to discuss the book well.

I do remember the author discussing the fact that introverts have positive attributes even though we live in a world that celebrates extroverts. For once, I felt positive about being an introvert.

Stephen (SPG-) | 261 comments Just to let everyone know that I've just started a new thread for Q4 2012 Non-Fiction Read Nominations - but as said above the discussion on this one still continues until we've all got hold of the book from our libraries !

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Sam (Iselin) I've already finished the book...

Cynthia Archer | 76 comments I am an introvert and have always kind of known that, but after reading about this book before it was published, I really started to understand what that meant and how OK it was. I bought the book shortly after it came out and couldn't stop reading it. It was so eye-opening, both in terms of seeing myself as an introvert and being better able to understand extroverts. I can see how understanding yourself can allow you to best take advantage of your strengths as well as overcome some of the more difficult areas. I was especially struck by the way each type responds to crowds. I can appreciate that feeling of being zapped after even very enjoyable group activities. I know that I need time and space to be alone afterwards and "recharge". Great book!

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KarenLee | 474 comments I am also waiting for my copy to come in from the library.

Ioana | 2851 comments Interesting...a lot of the book addicts seem to be introverts. I should know, I am one :)
And on the waiting list for the book, too.

Christine | 144 comments I wonder how many extroverts have or will read this book? What do you think? I'm buying copies for my children. Three out of four are introverts. My extrovert son doesn't read much. Go figure.

Christine | 144 comments A couple favorite quotes from the beginning (I'm not very far):

"We're told that to be great is to be bold, to be happy is to be sociable."

"Extroversion is an enormously appealing personality style, but we've turned it into an oppressive standard to which most of us feel we must conform."

Stephen (SPG-) | 261 comments Was thinking that - that enjoying reading is probably an introvert activity so must of us on here will be introverts. There must be a lot of introverts out there as well, as I've been on the waiting list for this book at the library for a month now and there are still 10 reservations against it.

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Susan from MD | 422 comments I think this would be a great book for extroverts to read, though not sure how many will! I hope that managers and those who supervise others will read it, as it has valuable information about how people can work to their strengths.

I also hope teachers and other educators (at all levels) read the book. When I was in grade school - high school, there was much more individual work than there is today. I don't think I would have liked school as much if it was group-oriented! What I find to be interesting is that everyone I knew hated group projects - even in graduate school - though mainly because there were always slackers.

I wonder whether they will do something more focused on children - either adapted for children or one for adults that focuses more on children.

Connie (Connie_G) | 64 comments I'm only about 50 pages into the book, but am finding it really interesting. Business leaders should read this book to learn how to get the best out of the introverts and extroverts on their staffs. Each group has important strengths.

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Lea (Leaspot) | 4200 comments I am an introvert and a manager of a team of introverts at work.

What I liked about the book: Some of my team claim to be extroverts, but they really aren't. They have learned to adapt and appear extroverted when necessary, but based upon how they prefer their work environment and how much down time between presentations is needed, I know they are closet introverts. It was the first time I really thought about how society perceives introverts and how we have to adapt to an extroverted world. We just do it so seamlessly.

What I didn't like about the book: The book had a lot of generalizations, and despite her caveats about not everything applying to everyone, some of the gender/ethnic related stereotyping was a little weird to me.

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Shelley | 79 comments I'd just like to suggest that other teachers, including college teachers, recommend this book to their students. My guess would be that a student who feels validated in his or her "quietness" will be more likely to seek help for being bullied.

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Tracy (NoisyReading) | 167 comments I just started this book today and find it to be very interesting so far.

Stephen (SPG-) | 261 comments At last !
Just got an email saying that the book is waiting at the library for me to collect so will start it at the weekend once I've finished Jo Nesbo's "Phantom".

Stephen (SPG-) | 261 comments Only on Chapter 2 but finding this really interesting so far. Making me feel good about being an introvert !

Think its a bit unfair the way that she is portraying Tony Robbins as the ultimate extrovert though - went to one of his Unleash the Power Within seminars a few years ago and while it did make you do things that an introvert would never do normally (eg: dancing in public and hugging and high-fiving strangers), it was more about making the most of your life and taking positive action than forcing yourself to become an extrovert. And I did feel very good after completing the firewalk....

Christine | 144 comments I finished this book over a week ago, and still feel validated by it.

Stephen (SPG-) | 261 comments Finished the book now - a few home truths and useful points that I will take away from it, eg: not getting to hung up about not wanting to have loads of parties, do public speaking or attempting to "work a room" when networking. Makes you think about pushing your kids to socialise more than they might want to and that sometimes that might not be the best thing either. And as I run my own business, liked the point about introverts being the best leaders if you have a talented, self motivated workforce. Did feel that the book dragged a bit and was slightly repetitive and sometimes stated the obvious but definitely worth a read.

Susan from MD | 422 comments I agree about the book being repetitive. But, then, I frequently feel that books could have been edited to be tighter, so I usually don't mention it! I just assume it's my pet peeve.

It is interesting to try to figure out the networking and socializing challenge. I've often felt that my networking efforts appear so labored or obvious that they defeat the purpose, but I'm not sure whether that's just a reflection of how I feel or a sense I get from others in the room. It feels external (what they think of me) but it may just be my insecurity in the situation.

Stephen (SPG-) | 261 comments I usually end up having only spoken to 2 or 3 people at networking events but will have had a proper chat with them and got to know them. The book said that that was okay rather than counting up the number of business cards that you have acquired. Don't like small talk and find it difficult to just leave someone that I'm speaking to and go and speak to others without thinking that I'm being rude. Guess that means that I fit exactly in the "introvert" category !

Christine | 144 comments Stephen wrote: "Finished the book now - a few home truths and useful points that I will take away from it, eg: not getting to hung up about not wanting to have loads of parties, do public speaking or attempting to..."

Excellent point about the kids. Mine are all grown now, but had I read this book about 20 years ago, I am certain I would have done a few things differently.

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Shelley | 79 comments Stephen: Interesting point. I hadn't thought about how the thesis of the book might apply to writers.

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