I've been on a bit of a self-help kick lately. The tone of this one annoyed me at first when I started reading. It can be a bit wordy and rambling. It felt a bit like an armchair philosophy discussion of psychology for awhile. However, once I got over that and started getting down to what he's talking about, there are some really great ideas and examples. I knew some of my past relationships were pretty dysfunctional, but this brought up a lot of things I hadn't considered. I think this book is very useful for identifying patterns and what healthy relationships look like. It does get a bit New Age-y at times.