This was a quick read (one day) and while there wasn't anything in it that will revolutionize the way I look at my relationship, I thought it had some helpful reminders about being considerate of my partner's needs. For that reason, I do believe this a great book for newlyweds or those who are entering a long-term commitment and who are not involved in an abusive relationship. I appreciated his going into detail about the difference between new, "obsessed" love and long lasting "real" love as well as the fact that for the most part his ideas don't play into the whole men/women different planet thing (with some exceptions). Things were going along pretty well for me until he got to the 5th language- physical affection, and told the story of a woman who appeared to be in an abusive relationship... I don't know, there seemed to be too much of an emphasis on making the relationship work at all costs and I just don't think that's true of all relationships. I would have liked for him to make more references that sometimes its ok to leave a bad relationship. The way he tells it you would think that every abusive person is just looking for you to do something nice for them and I have worked in domestic violence for too long and know all to well that someone who is being abused will read this book and think they can turn things around. He also made frequent references to the bible and Jesus and while I'm not of the Christian persuasion, I didn't find it offensive either.