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Cleaving by Julie Powell
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Jan 19, 2010

did not like it
bookshelves: autobio-memoir, read-in-2010
Read in January, 2010

i hated this book. i read julie & julia &, you know, i didn't think julie powell was the next shakespeare or anything, but she managed to pull together a better book than most bloggers-turned-authors out there. i was engaged with the story. i enjoyed the prose in an auto-pilot brain kind of way. i figured this book would be more of the same--philosophical insights about her personal life shared through a prism of foodie-ness. & i guess that's what it was, but it was also unspeakably horrible.

what's going on in her personal life here is that she has started an affair with some lame-seeming dude who she already had one affair with in college. it doesn't sound like the dude is much to write home about in the looks or personality departments, but julie thinks the sex they have is really hot. everyone should have at least one sexual partner in their life that can provide them with really hot times, & if that involves a little S&M action, i'm not here to judge. but most of us learn by the time we are julie's age (or far, far younger) that those sex hijinks are not for public consumption! i've had my share of good times, but i don't kid myself that anyone wants to read a book about them! i definitely DID NOT want to read a book about julie powell's douchebaggy lover leaving bruises all over her body while she observes his left-handed jacking off methods.

let me just say that at one point, julie writes very specifically about searching for the one image of her lover that is available on the internet (this is after he wised up, realized that she is batshit crazy, & cut her completely out of his life). it's his facebook default profile picture, in which he is wearing a "ben sherman shirt" that she had purchased for him. this brings me to another aspect of the book that i hated: julie dropping little references like that into the text like it's supposed to help us relate to her. when i think of ben sherman shirts, i think of dudes who are just as big of douchebags as dudes who wear ed hardy, but they prefer a somewhat preppier plaid button-down look to the ed hardy surfer schlub style. i don't think of hot sexxxin'.

another example is when julie writes about the guy who runs the butershop where she apprentices. apparently he has a great big ironic mustache & a t-shirt that says, "guns don't kill people, people with mustaches kill people." hilarious. oh wait. we all know about threadless, dude. & aren't ironic t-shirts a little circa 2000? the saddest part of all is that julie found this dumbass t-shirt amusing enough to include it in her PUBLISHED MEMOIR, which is sure to linger on library sale shelves long after the author herself stops finding ironic mustache humor the cutting edge of comedy.

& ALSO on this note is julie's non-stop obsession with "buffy, the vampire slayer". now, i know it's a popular TV show...i just don't think JULIE knows it's a popular TV show. the way she writes about it, you'd think it was this really edgy cult discovery she'd made because she is just right there, balanced on the precipice of the cutting edge. she liberally sprinkles buffy quotes throughout the book, to do big things like describing her entire basic life philosophy. it all strikes me as very sad. when people use cultural touchstones in such a lazy, self-absorbed way...i can't help it, it screams stupidity to me. julie powell did not seem stupid in her first book, & perhaps it's even too strong a term to use here. but i at least walked away from the first book thinking she'd be a laugh at a dinner party. i walked away from this one thinking she'd be a dullard. she really should have walked away with one book under her belt...or taken more time to make sure her follow-up wasn't just a sloppy, self-centered rush job designed to capitalize on the success of the "julie & julia" film.

okay, so...she's having this affair. of course her husband finds out, because, as she incessantly tells us, they are likes two halves of a whole, they seem to share a mind, blah blah. i gotta feel for eric if THIS is the mind he's sharing. then again, i guess it gives him plenty of room to stretch out. he begins his own affair, but i guess the sex isn't as hot because he ends it after a while. he wants julie to end her affair as well, but she seems to be on some kind of self-destructive, sex-obsessed warpath & won't do it. plus she's always sneaking into the bathroom to surrptitiously check for messages from her lover on her blackberry, even though she knows her husband knows her passwords & occasionally reads her messages. which isn't cool of him, but it's not like she's not giving him reason to be suspicious, you know?

basically, instead of sounding like a couple that is so much in love that they can stick it out even through these kinds of betrayals, they sound like a couple of fucked up, alcoholic assholes who are spinning themselves a fantasy that maybe they would have outgrown by now if they hadn't started dating when they were teenagers. they seem to still have a bullshit teenage perception of what it means to be "in love". mark my words, these two will be divorced within three years.

julie's obsessive relationship with her lover is emblematic of her relationship with men in general. when she's at the butchershop, her whole bag is trying to be one of the boys, listening to their gross, sexist jokes & telling gross, sexist jokes of her own to show how unaffected she is. when she goes on her ridiculous butchery world tour (way to rip off eat pray love ), her whole bag is trying to be as attractive to as many men as possible. & supposedly it works. apparently all of the men in argentina are just fascinated with her, & it never seems to occur to her that maybe they are just interested in getting some tail & are not actually all that taken with HER particular womanly gifts. she makes out with a maasai warrior in africa, & we are treated to a good 25 pages of some other dude on the african tour attempting to sexually assault her in her tent while she wussily fought back, castigated herself for being a wuss, castigated herself for not yelling for help, castigated herself for telling people about it the next day, castigated herself for probably getting the dude fired, & so on. it was like fifty years of fucked up responses to sexual assault, boiled down into one person's recollection of a single experience that lasted maybe twelve hours (from time of attempted to assault to getting her phone back & leaving the site). it was kind of sickening.

& all of this is mixed with hackneyed metaphors involving butchery, & more information that i ever needed about how to chop up various animal parts. the food aspects of julie & julia were certainly present, but i don't remember them being so heavy on the technical detail & relentlessly dull. maybe she just had lightning in a bottle with that first book, & she tried to re-capture the dynamic with this second book & everything came out clunky. i feel bad for the editor. i feel bad for any of her family or friends who tries to read this book. i feel bad for julie & any of her loved ones that read these reader reviews. but dear god, if she does read them, i hope she learns something. i hope she grows the fuck up, gets some counseling for her self-esteem issues (really? you wore boots & a skirt in new york city & no man could take his eyes off you for the entire day? a) i doubt that. b) why do you care so much? you are a PUBLISHED AUTHOR whose debut memoir was turned into a blockbuster movie starring two A-list hollywood actresses. doesn't that trump some greasy asshole in washington square checking out your ass? he'd be doing it if you were wearing sweatpants, trust me!) & alcoholism (two bottles of wine a night, alone? that is scary. the guys at the liquor store have nicknamed your favorite brand after you? problematic), & takes more time to truly craft her next book. maybe she actually is a decent author. or maybe julie & julia was a fluke.
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message 1: by Dave (new)

Dave I agree with everthing you write. Self-asborbed and lightning in a bottle.

shannon this is the best review ever. gold star.

message 3: by Karin (new)

Karin B Ciara, this may not have been your intent, but your review made me want to read this book to marvel over how delusional Powell is. Excellent, funny and insightful review.

message 4: by Kae (new) - rated it 2 stars

Kae Love your review, totally spot on. Ha.

message 5: by Sus (new) - added it

Sus Can I give five stars to this review? Seriously this book was the biggest piece of sh*& I have ever read.

Andrea I can't believe you took the time to write that whole review for that. Without exaggeration, Cleaving is the worst book i have ever read. You're review was completely fair and succinctly sums up everything that went through my mind as I was reading it. I can only 'thank god' that i'm a fast reader.

I couldn't be bothered by writing more than POS in my own review of it.

message 7: by Moira (new)

Moira Russell Great review!

I think it's something I personally call "second memoir syndrome" - someone writes a memoir, it's great or at least good, they get a book contract for another one, but they've basically used up their whole life experience to that point. So they write a memoir that's more or less about the fallout from their first memoir, and a lot less interesting.

message 8: by Laila (new)

Laila Marina your review is brilliant.

Christine Amen to that. The movie made me love her, this book made me hate her. I'd rather not waste my time reading about a cheating, self-obsessed harlot.

Shari  Stacy Freaking awesome review of an embarrassingly bad book.

message 11: by Em (new) - rated it 1 star

Em You totally nailed it. This review pretty much sums up my feelings for this book too.

message 12: by Petra Eggs (new)

Petra Eggs You do write some great reviews.

Slickery This is everything I wanted to say in my review but couldn't be bothered because the book sucked so much I didn't want to give it more time. That Buffy thing drove me INSANE and I love the show an unseemly amount.

message 14: by Kelsi (new) - rated it 1 star

Kelsi Reading your review was better than reading her book!

message 15: by Andee (new)

Andee I haven't read this book, and now I won't. After reading your review and accompanying comments, I won't waste my money buying the book or the time to read it. I enjoyed Julie and Julia but wondered if it was a one hit wonder...guess so.

Denise Sith So happy to see that I am not alone in that this is by far the WORSE book I have read. This could have been another amazing food journey and instead turned into 50 Shades of Grey in a butcher shop...gross.

message 17: by Samantha (new)

Samantha Clare Butchering is not an art form. Butchering will never be an art form.

(Look, it's a 2.40 star average; surprised at how high it is for … this.)

message 18: by Katy (new)

Katy M I have no intention of reading this book, but your review was very entertaining.

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