DeMoss begins her book recording an event that occurred in 1995 at a Campus Crusade for Christ staff meeting of four thousand people.
A wave of revival in the form of confession and repentance swept through the group for a number of days and lives were changed.
This book on brokenness and humility has changed the way I think about myself, my sin, and God's provision of Jesus' sacrifice.
She gives quite a list of the way that "Proud People" look at others, God, sin and so on. At least in my culture, looking at things the way I do, I come up pretty short. It is pretty revealing. I am a pretty proud person, in a lot of ways. This I am sure is not a comprehensive list but it is enough for me to review and be draw back to God with a deep sense of poverty of spirit.
AM I A PROUD OR BROKEN PERSON?
Attitudes Toward Others
1. Proud people focus on the failures of others and can readily point out those faults Broken people are more conscious of their own spiritual need than of anyone else’s
2. Proud people have a critical, faultfinding spirit. They look at everyone else’s faults with a microscope but view their own with a telescope Broken people are compassionate – they have the kind of love that overlooks a multitude of sins; they forgive much because they know how much they have been forgiven
3. Proud people are especially prone to criticize those in positions of authority: their pastor, their boss, their spouse, their parents – and talk to others about the faults they see Broken people reverence, encourage, and lift up those that God has placed in positions of authority, and they talk to God in intercession, rather that gossiping about the faults they see in others
4. Proud people are self-righteous; they think highly of themselves and look down on others Broken people think the best of other; they esteem others as better than themselves.
5. Proud people have an independent, self-sufficient spirit Broken people have a dependent spirit; they recognize their need for God and for others
Attitudes About Rights
6. Proud people have to prove that they are right – they have to get the last word Broken people are willing to yield the right to be right
7. Proud people claim rights and have a demanding spirit Broken people yield their rights and have a meek spirit
8. Proud people are self-protective of their time, their rights, and their reputation Broken people are self-denying and self-sacrificing
Attitudes About Service and Ministry
9. Proud people desire to be served – they want life to revolve around them and their own needs. Broken people are motivated to serve others and to be sure others’ needs are met before their own.
10. Proud people desire to be broken as a success Broken people are motivated to be faithful and to make others successful
11. Proud people have a feeling –conscious or unconscious – that “this ministry or organization is privileged to have me and my gifts”. They focus on what they can do for God Broken people have a heart attitude that says, “I don’t deserve to have any part in this ministry”; they know that they have nothing to offer God except the life of Jesus flowing through their broken lives
Attitudes About Recognition
12. Proud people crave self-advancement Broken people desire to promote others
13. Proud people have a drive to be recognized and appreciated for their efforts Broken people have a sense of their own unworthiness; they are thrilled that God would use them at all.
14. Proud people get wounded when others are promoted and they are overlooked Broken people are eager for others to get the credit, and they rejoice when others are lifted up
15. Proud people are elated by praise and deflated by criticism Broken people know that any praise of their accomplishments belongs to the Lord and that criticism can help them grow into spiritual maturity
Attitudes About Themselves
16. Proud people feel confident in how much they know Broken people are humbled by how very much they have to learn
17. Proud people are self-conscious; they worry about what others think of them Broken people are not preoccupied with what others think of them
18. Proud people are concerned about appearing respectable; they are driven to protect their image and reputation Broken people are concerned about being real; they care less what others think about what God knows – they are willing to die to their own reputation
19. Proud people can’t bear to fail or for anyone to think they are less than perfect. This can drive them to extremes – workaholic tendencies, perfectionism, the tendency to drive others or to place unrealistic expectations on themselves or others Broken people can recognize and live within God-given limitations
Attitudes About Relationships
20. Proud people keep others at arm’s length Broken people are willing to take the risks of getting close to others and loving intimately
21. Proud people are quick to blame others Broken people accept responsibility and can acknowledge where they are wrong in a situation
22. Proud people wait for others to come and ask forgiveness when there is a misunderstanding or a breach in a relationship Broken people take the initiative to be reconciled, no matter how wrong the other party may have been.
23. Proud people are unapproachable or defensive when corrected Broken people receive correction with a humble, open spirit
24. Proud people find it difficult to discuss their spiritual needs with others Broken people are willing to be open and transparent with others as God directs
25. Proud people try to control the people and circumstances around them – they are prone to manipulate Broken people trust in God – they rest in Him and are able to wait for Him to act on their behalf
26. Proud people become bitter and resentful when they are wronged; they have emotional temper tantrums; they hold others hostage and are easily offended; they carry grudges and keep a record of others’ wrongs. Broken people give thanks in all things; they are quick to forgive those who wrong them
Attitudes About Sin
27. Proud want to be sure that no one finds out when they have sinned; their tendency is to cover up. Broken people aren’t overly concerned with who knows or who finds out about their sin- they are willing to be exposed because they have nothing to lose.
28. Proud people have a hard time saying, “I was wrong; will you please forgive me?” Broken people are quick to admit their failure and to seek forgiveness when necessary
29. Proud people tend to deal in generalizations when confessing their sin to God (“Dear Lord, forgive me for all my sins…”) or (“I need to be a better Christian…”) Broken people are able to acknowledge specifics when confessing their sin: “Lord, I agree with you that I love myself more than my mate; I confess that I am addicted to television; I’m a glutton; I am an angry parent…”
30. Proud people are concerned about the consequences of their sin. They are disturbed over the problems caused by their sin – for example, the financial bondage created by their overspending, or the problems in their marriage that have resulted from selfishness and immoral choices Broken people are grieved over the cause, the root of their sin. They are more concerned about how their sin has grieved and dishonored God than about the problems it has created in their lives.
31. Proud people are remorseful over their sin- sorry that they got caught or found out Broken people are truly repentant over their sin, and the evidences of their repentance are that they forsake the sin.
Attitudes About Their Walk with God
32. Proud people are blind to the true condition of their hearts Broken people walk in the light and acknowledge the truth about their sins
33. Proud people compare themselves with others and feel worthy of respect Broken people compare themselves with the holiness of God and feel a desperate need for His mercy
34. Proud people don’t think they need to repent of anything Broken people realize that they need to maintain a continual heart of repentance.
35. Proud people don’t think they need revival, but they are sure everyone else does. (In fact, right about now, they are making a mental list of the people they think need to read this book!) Broken people continually sense their need for a fresh encounter with God and for a fresh filling of His Holy Spirit.
“True worship begins with brokenness and humility over whatever God reveals to us in His Word. Poverty of spirit and mourning over sin lead to genuine repentance, which in turn leads to forgiveness. Forgiveness will produce freedom – freedom from guilt and bondage. When we have freedom that has been birthed out of brokenness, repentance, and forgiveness, we will have a greater capacity for love – supernatural ability to love God and to love those that are unlovable- and for worship. And of course, true love and worship lead us back to a new level of brokenness, which leads to greater and deeper repentance, increased forgiveness, new founded freedom, and an ever greater capacity for love and worship.”
The study guide in the back was helpful for me to review and apply the points.