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Perfection by Julie Metz
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Oct 03, 2009

it was ok
Read in September, 2009

This book sounded interesting to me: the memoir of a woman who discovers her husband has a secret life... after he drops dead on their kitchen floor. I wanted to learn about his secrets and kept turning the pages until Metz uncovered them for me. But after that, I didn't really feel like I cared enough about Metz to keep reading the predictable trajectory of her ultimate forgiveness and acceptance. Her husband seemed duplicitous but interesting, while Metz does not. If anything, she makes such a point of disavowing the suburban life and the "bucolic small town" she once chose to live in that I began to feel like I was someone she would make fun of if she ever met me (in my Dansko clogs). I realize that a memoir is supposed to be confessional and revealing, but the confessions in this book made me sometimes cringe in embarrassment for the people she wrote about, and I felt especially bad for her husband, who is not in a position to defend himself (not that his actions are defensible, but wouldn't this be anyone's worst nightmare -- to have your secret e-mails and private thoughts laid bare for even strangers to read about?). I never thought I'd be one to complain about too much information in a memoir, but I felt that way while reading this book. Metz seems to want to take the higher ground when it comes to relationships and love, but is writing a memoir about infidelity the way to get to this higher ground? Or is it a form of revenge? All I know is that I didn't like the way I felt after I read this.
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message 1: by Oody (new)

Oody thoughtful review christi; i really sensed what this book did to you, and have had that feeling before with a few other memoirs like this (none come to mind, but...), so i think i wouldn't like this book either.

Danielle Merjano I totally felt that way too!! I actually felt bad for Cathy, Tomas, and even Emily with all their one sided dirty laundry laid out for readers.

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