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I Do But I Don't by Kamy Wicoff
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Jun 20, 2009

really liked it
bookshelves: marriage, nonfiction, memoir, sociopolitical
Read in June, 2009

This book was a feminist/sociological examination of what it means for a woman to be engaged, planning a wedding, and getting married.  It balances a memoir-type description of the author’s experiences doing all of those things, with sociological commentary about these events.  I thought this book was very thought provoking.  I’m not sure I would have gotten as into it if I weren’t engaged myself, but as it is a lot of the book resonated for me, such as the fact that I expected my fiancé to be as involved in preparations as I am (which is not the case).  There were some things in the book that I disagreed with or found downright contradictory, such as the relegation of women to the role of infant or mother.  While I do think that both of these are stereotypical ways in which society relates to women, it would be hard to imagine two more disparate roles than the powerful mother and the completely dependent infant and the author jumps between comparing women to one and the other without addressing this conflict.  My one other complaint is that the book does tend to use popular authors as its sources rather than something more scholarly and while the author herself is a journalist which makes this completely understandable, I do think that it weakens the text

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