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  <read_at>Tue Mar 24 00:00:00 -0700 2009</read_at>
  <date_added>Fri Mar 20 01:06:21 -0700 2009</date_added>
  <date_updated>Tue Mar 24 17:26:56 -0700 2009</date_updated>
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    <body><![CDATA[I can't bring myself to read a book like this more than about once a year, but this was a learning experience for me. I'm all about the idea that you want your kids to have a value system and view of themselves that comes from within, rather than living to please (or control) dominant figures in their lives, and I think this book does a good job of teaching that. I'm also all about letting kids learn to fail when it's safe for them so they can learn to be responsible--and learn that I'm on their side.<br/><br/>Some of the writing was a little self righteous and heavy handed for me though, and many of the &quot;Pearl&quot; sections at the end needed only Wally and the Beav to be complete in their idealism. <br/><br/>Here are some of my favorite lines to use with the kiddos:<br/>What do you think about that? What do you plan to do about it?<br/>[Behavior:] is a hassle to my eyeballs (or hurting my ears).<br/>I love you too much to argue with you.<br/>This whining is draining my energy.<br/>Good thinking.<br/>Let me know how that works out for you.<br/>I'll have to think about that [consequence:] and get back to you. Try    not to worry about it.<br/>Well, it looks like things are not going well for you right now. When you're ready to talk I'll be glad to listen.<br/><br/><br/>Hopefully writing those out will help me remember to use them. My apologies to anyone who actually reads this boring review.<br/><br/><br/><br/>]]></body>
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