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On Becoming Baby Wise by Gary Ezzo
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Feb 20, 12

really liked it
Read in February, 2012, read count: 4

I honestly wonder if we are reading different books! Mine is a newer version and I am actually surprised by such controversy about a book as middle-of-the-road as this. This is the 2nd time I've read it and wonder what is creating the hoopla!
Why I believe this book is for natural parenting and helpful:
- The parent decides when to feed the baby based upon the baby's need. IF feeding on demand, the baby could actually not demand enough food in the early weeks and this can contribute to failure to thrive. This is proven by studies mentioned in the book. Some sick, small or sleepy babies can actually need YOU to be the parent and feed them every 2-3 hours as opposed to them "demanding" every 4 or so hours. The authors state that babies need to be fed AT LEAST 8 times in a 24 hour period - more like 10 in the first several weeks. (this is every 2-3 hours)
--The authors suggest you work on feeding until the baby is FULL. This was most helpful with my first son. He regulated himself on a regular routine in the first few weeks because he ate until he was full. I never had to let him cry to sleep or any of the other ridiculous things people talk about. Very helpful to just concentrate on full feeding. Then the baby gets both the foremilk and the rich hindmilk. Studies show (cited in this material) if babies snack hourly they never receive the rich hindmilk and can also be termed "failure to thrive" babies. My son was also sleeping through the night at 4 1/2 months. Quite the reasonable amount of time for his age and weight according to the authors.
-- There are studies showing how important sleep is to development and they go over the different types of sleep. If a child is not receiving restful sleep - then they are less alert and it can contribute to life-long poor sleep habits. It is beneficial not just for us to facilitate an environment where children can sleep well, but also is a gift we give our kids that they can take into adulthood.
-- The book eludes several times to "flexible routine" and how children thrive in routine. They know what to expect, are more secure and happy. I have seen this with our preschooler. We had no basic routine and he was very unhappy. We wondered why and then we read On Becoming Preschoolwise. He became a happier child nearly overnight from having a basic flexible structure.
-- The book is not a proponent of hyperscheduling. It is in the middle between no-routine with everyone being unhappy and exhausted and the baby crying all the time because they don't know what to expect, and hyperscheduling where there is no flexibility for looking at your baby to assess their (and your) physical needs.
--The authors state several times that they are assuming you are holding and nurturing them and giving them LOTS of love. There is even a section about how not only you should be holding and loving your baby lots, but that grandparents, siblings and dad should be loving the baby. This is against every review that talks about how the book is against holding, loving and being responsive to the baby. The premise of PDF (parent directed feeding) - is that you are feeing the baby enough, and feeding them until they are full.
--Again, I will reiterate that several times in Chapters 1-6 it addresses that baby needs to be fed at night (this would be why you are feeding every approx 2 1/2-3hrs). Whoever read that your baby should sleep throughout the night right away without a feeding is incorrect. It is logical that early in their life babies need food at regular intervals why they are so tiny and growing.
-- The book states - which most logical people would agree - that there are going to be times when your child is sick,going through a growth spurt, etc and will need more food. If you add a feeding to that 24 hour period - and if you are the flexible parent - you will easily be able to adjust to identifiying this need for an increase in caloric intake. My son went through several very identifiable spurts - and it was clear he needed more milk! The book also talks about this and how if you add another feeding then your milk supply will go up (conversely - if you offer the breast too often - your milk supply can decline).
-- Studies show that women who say they are demand feeding their infants - or where the infants have no routine and are "snacking" - stop exclusively breastfeeding months ahead of those who have a basic routine. I think our bodies adjust if we have a routine and plus 2-3 hours - 4 when they are older - gives your body time to produce rich healthy milk for your baby!

Give this book a chance, you might really enjoy the studies mentioned and the common sense approach.
I will also say that we co-slept with our son until he was sleeping through the night. We were both working full-time and if we didn't - then neither of us would have slept well. When he would awake for his 2 feedings through that night - I could sleep while he nursed. My son was 10 lbs. I would be more concerned of co-sleeping with a smaller baby, as I've since personally heard of a woman who suffocated her child. After our son was sleeping through the night - it was easy to put him in his crib and we both got a better night sleep at that point. I appreciated the approach of this book and that while suggesting many many things not mentioned in this review, it encourages you to discover what works for you and your baby so that everyone is happy & rested.
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