“We contend that the central problem with placing excessive emphasis on developing high self-esteem is that doing so leads to increased self-absorption. This intense focus on the self lays a foundation for misery…It isn't just about decreasing educational standards or rearing overindulged children...self-absorption underlies eating disorders, distortions in body image, freed, anxiety, depression, narcissism, aggression, and violence. Self-absorption fuels disregard for others; it erodes moral development."
This book suggests "an alternative to the misguided and destructive quest for higher and higher self-esteem": acceptance. I'll be interested to learn the difference between teaching children to "accept" themselves and teaching them to "esteem" themselves. What if there are things you wish to change about yourself? Do you then fail to "accept" yourself.
Sampled free on Kindle - now to borrow from the library.